Husbands seem to like to play 'Mr. Fixit'
By stary1
@stary1 (6612)
United States
January 29, 2013 1:31pm CST
Something it took me awhile to figure out was my hubby likes to play mr fixit on anything I question...I think he felt when I ask for his opinion I was asking for a solution and so he immediately goes to finding an answer.
It's as if it is his 'job' to find a solution to anything I questioned. Sometmes if I didn't agree he was a bit disappointed...and sometimes even said then why did you ask if you weren't going to follow my suggestion
Well after years of marriage we worked it out and I wonder how many others find the same situation with their significant others...BF or H...
Well after years of marriage we worked it out and I wonder how many others find the same situation with their significant others...BF or H...3 people like this
6 responses
@wilsongoddard (7291)
• United States
29 Jan 13
I will turn to my boyfriend to fix minor things, but I have to direct him on what to do. I'm literally the one who came into this relationship with a tool kit.
I need for my boyfriend to get better about being handy, because I intend for us to own our own place one of these days--hopefully, soon--and that will mean plenty of home projects.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
29 Jan 13
Wish my ex had been like that... he couldnt fix a thing.. but maybe the car. That was it...
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Feb 13
My ex always had a solution for everything I did or wanted to do, even if their advice wasn't called for they'd still make sure I was aware of it, loud and clear, if I followed their advice and it went wrong, it was my fault, If I didn't follow their advice and it went wrong, it was my fault, catch 22. I could never win with my ex, they knew best, or thought they did.
@GardenGerty (157627)
• United States
29 Jan 13
In general men do think that if we ask about something we are expecting them to fix it, when we just want to be listened to and maybe even want a chance to come to a solution for ourselves. It is nothing unusual. I will sometimes start a conversation by specifying that I do not want a problem solved, I just want to be heard.
@GardenGerty (157627)
• United States
7 Feb 13
It is one of the many differences that I can appreciate. We just have to learn how to use our talents without offending our partners. I think a good marriage is a wonderful partnership.
@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
6 Feb 13
That's how we are built, and how we are trained. It's why we're called 'husbands'---we set things right. If things are not right, someone must've unsettled it somewhere; and we have to set it right again.
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@changjiangzhibin89 (16541)
• China
30 Jan 13
I reckon the word " Mr fixit " is from a TV serial.You meant your husband often put you off by some answers that didn't satisfy you.If so,I am one of the people who like to play mr fixit.To be honest,sometimes I even don't think about what my wife ask me seriously.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
31 Jan 13
changjiangzhibin89
No I have never heard of or seen a TV series called Mr. Fixit that deals with the psychological aspect..but it could be a very interesting idea...:)
I didn't mean to imply I didn't appreciate my husbands effort...I do, it's just sometime all I wanted was an opinion, not a final solution.
I think great for you to offer suggestions to your wife as long as you don't expect her to take every suggestion you give her. LOL I bet a lot of people give answers without thinking about it just to stop talking about it and move on...
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
30 Jan 13
it is like fixing the situation and job tends to work out and the time will surely answer for it and i dont think it is a big deal
