I Warned Her...
By Jennifer
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
Valdosta, Georgia
February 15, 2013 1:50pm CST
My first Childcare job I got when I recently started my childcare business was a nightmare as I told you... Well I warned my sister about this lady and her terrible son. The lady did not pay me what she said she would pay me ($15 less than we agreed on) and the child was really mean, hitting and punching my kids. I told my sister about them so she would not watch the child because I didn't want her to go through what I went through.
So she calls me earlier and I hear a young child in the background. I said oh your babysitting? She said yeah a little boy. Something clicked inside my head and I said oh no, are you watching Kyler? She said yeah that's his name, I said I have watched him before. I guess she didn't believe me at first so she asked what the mom looked like. I told her tall, beautiful, long curly brown hair. She said yes that's her! I said I know and this is the one I warned you about a month ago!!
She said now that your telling me again, I remember you telling me about them but when I agreed to watch him I didn't remember. So, my sister is watching him for a few hours today. She had him for 20 minutes and he already hit her son in the stomach! I tried to warn her...
The lady is probably stiffing all of the sitters and going down the list until she runs out of people I guess. I would never watch that child again ever! My poor sister right now is stuck with him!
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18 responses
@jdawg011 (498)
• Canada
15 Feb 13
That woman must spoil her child and teach him no manners... Next time you run into a lady that seems suspicious like that, try making her sign to say how much she will pay. I know it's a hassle, but getting ripped off for the worst babysitting experience is no fun. This is not fair that so many people have to suffer due to her poor raising of a child. What a complete B!
Hope your sister makes it through ok.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
She must spoil him badly! She obviously does not teach him anything at all. It is hard to know who the trustworthy clients are, but I will be using contracts soon. It is not fair that Childcare providers have to deal with her son like this because she does not know how to teach him to be nice! So sad.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
16 Feb 13
some people just spoil their kids not realising they are doing the child a wrong. if she wont teach him to respect others space and feelings now she will regret it when she cant find a sitter or he gets to old for one and he starts punching and hitting her
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Yes, she is one of those parents. She spoils him rotten and does not teach him manners or respect at all!
He will most likely end up hitting his mother as he gets older because she is not stopping it now.
@scorpiobabes (7225)
• United States
16 Feb 13
Wow...if I was sitting a child and they hit mine, I'd be on the phone with the mother and telling her she had ten minutes to get her a$$ back to pick up her kid or I'd be calling the authorities! You're right-this woman is going to continue to go down the list of sitters until someone reports her violent son!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
16 Feb 13
I should have done that. I just kept putting him in time out every time he did it and told him I would not allow it in my home. When she came to pick him up I was SO happy to see him go! And so were my children.
She is going to continue down the list, my sister said she will not be watching him again either ever again so the lady lost another babysitter! Lol, eventually she will run out of places to bring her son to...
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@AmbiePam (86008)
• United States
16 Feb 13
It alarms me when parents let their children, especially their sons, get away with that kind of behavior. Young boys like that, if their behavior isn't curbed, well, you know it doesn't end well. I mean how do abusive adults start? A heck of a lot of times as abusive children. Cruelty to animals or other people.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
I agree with you 100%, when our son gets too rough we put a stop to it quickly because we don't want him to think his behavior is okay. Your exactly right, if it is not stopped as a child it will get worse when they are adults!
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@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
15 Feb 13
Well, your sister will probably learn the hard way...which I see she already is. I hope she doesn't sit for her again since he's so mean. That's a shame that little boy has not been taught any manners which reflects on the mother. You gave your warning, that's all you can do.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
Yes she will learn the hard way. I always try to warn her if I have had a bad experience because I know eventually they will go to her too, trying to see what they can get away with. What the mother doesn't know is my sister is not a softie like me at all. My sister will get NASTY with her if she doesn't pay the right amount! She will be messing with the wrong sitter if she thinks she can get away with not paying my sister the right price. Lol.
As for the boy, I do feel bad that he has not been taught better but it angers me that my children were his punching bag. It makes it hard feeling sorry for him when my kids got his abuse!
She is obviously not a good parent at all...
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@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
15 Feb 13
Like you said this woman is going to, run out of people to watch her son, and this is all going to be her fault all because, she won't raise him right, she allow her son to go around hitting other children, and these people are not going, to put up with this, then she won't be able to work here job or go places because, she can't find anyone to keep him, for her and then she won't pay people the money, that she promises them,this part is really going to be, a big problem for her, she is not paying people the money that she said, she will pay them and the word is, going to get out about her, then she will be stuck, staying at home all the time, raising her own son, I hope she ends up without a sitter, because she is too stupid to correct her own son.
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
Yeah this town is NOT that big so she will run out of people and people will start talking and finding out about her and her son! She will be sorry. She gets babysitters so she can go to bars and leave her son... She had me watch him overnight so she could go get drunk with her friends...But I will be warning people about her if she does not pay my sister!
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
20 Feb 13
I hope this was not too bad of an experience, and her son was able to handle all the mean things that boy was doing. I would personally think this Mom is either too busy to worry about how her son is behaving, or he has some serious issues someone needs to take time to worry about, and get help for. This does not sound good, and eventually he might be hitting his mom, etc. as well. Hopefully she does not exhaust all her people and get injured as well, unless she is the cause of it as well.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Honestly, from what my sister and I witnessed she does not correct his behavior in the proper manner. When he does something really bad she tells him oh don't do that honey. I mean come on, an adult won't listen to that!!
She does not discipline her child at all and then wonders why he is so bad! I don't get it... To me its a given, if you don't correct their behavior it will continue!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Yeah my sister is a tough cookie so she will not allow anyone to not pay her the right amount!
@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
17 Feb 13
Oh wow, I hope now that after she has watched him that she won't watch him any more. Does the mother knows what he is doing to the other children, but then my guess is she does and she really doesn't care. Being that she doesn't even pay you the amount that you both agree on. And she is paying you $15 less. That is ridiculous, but I don't blame you for not wanting to watch the child any more. If anything I feel bad for the child more then I do the mother.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Oh yes the mother most definitely knows what her son is like. She just does not care like you said...
Yeah I feel bad for the child (which is hard because he beat up my kids!) but I know its not really his fault, it is his parents fault!
@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
18 Feb 13
Too bad for your sister that she had to endure that. I guess that'll be a learning-lesson for her. Not to accept that mom/child for child care anymore.
You're probably right, the mom's just going through all the sitters around the area. She'll soon run out of options.
And too bad for the kid. I think she'll have issues when he grows up.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Yeah lesson learned for her! Lol. I tried to warn her...
The mother will run out of people soon that will watch her son and I feel bad for the kid. It is not his fault that his parents don't know how to raise a child! But I hope someday the boy does not end up hitting his mother-if he does though she might learn her lesson...
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
A problem child! So it means that the mother has not done anything to discipline the kid. And that would be really a big problem on her part if there would be no more babysitters left to take care of his child while she is away. Poor mother!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
I actually don't feel bad for the mother AT all. If she raised her son the right way and paid sitters then she would not have a problem! She is the problem because she doesn't pay the right amount and she doesn't know how to be a good mother!
@chicksdigscars (5483)
•
18 Feb 13
The woman probably isn't even working or running errands she maybe just wants a break from her monster child. I reckon your sister should say to her, look you underpaid my sister, and then moved onto me to mind your kid. He is very badly behaved, he is attacking my children, and unless you can get him to behave himself, you will need to pay me more money.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
No she isn't working, she went to a bar the night I watched him. I don't know about where she went when my sister watched him but she told me she got so wasted the night before at the bar!
I agree, that is what my sister should tell her...
@averygirl72 (37770)
• Philippines
16 Feb 13
That's a challenge to handle, both the kid and the mother. It would surely ruin your business. Hope there's a way to fix them but that problem could really exist anywhere too.
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
22 Feb 13
Right which is why I will not watch that child anymore. But my sister is watching him, good for her. I am glad they went to her instead of me!
@sarahworksathome (53)
• United States
15 Feb 13
OH NO! That's for sure a *facepalm* moment! I wish there was an "Angie's List" of sorts for childcare where moms and caregivers both could post reviews on each other. Ofcourse... that could be major drama too LOL
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
I wish there was too! It would help a lot of people if there was... =)It could be major drama though, your right about that, but isn't it anonomyous?
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
6 Mar 13
Well she can't say that you didn't warn her. Is it any wonder this kid is so aggressive? Being sent from one person to another, and if she didn't pay you it speaks volumes of the kind of mother she is, she probably sees her son as a nuisance and wants someone, anyone to palm him off to! Pretty soon she will run out of sitters, and like you said, you warned your sister, others will do the same, word of mouth and when she runs out of sitters what is she going to do next I wonder?
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Feb 13
I feel bad for that child though, he's going to have issues...
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
I do too, the child is not taught wrong from right and he is going to have issues. He will definitely not have friends when he gets older because he cannot share with anyone and he likes to hit... Not good. The mother should be slapped around so she can figure out how to discipline her son!
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@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
Yes hopefully next time she will remember her warnings so she does not have to suffer!
@LovingMyBabies (85127)
• Valdosta, Georgia
15 Feb 13
I don't know why she does not teach her son right from wrong but I will not have a child like that here hurting MY kids. They do need help with their issues. She is going to have trouble finding a sitter soon...
