I will never make friends with my ex-bf.

Since I've only been married once, to the same man for 57 1/2 years, I have to personal experience. However, my husband was married previously. He is one of those who hates his ex. Our son married for the third time on Jan 1st. He seems to have no feelings one way or the other about wife #1. He has said that the marriage was a mistake for both of them. So far as I know he has had no contact with her what so ever. The marriage to wife #2 lasted about 17 years and produced 2 sons. Since the younger son is elementary school age, he has to stay in contact with that ex for the sake of their son. He says that he doesn't hate her. He just no longer loves her in the way a man should love his wife. He has reported that she has problems that he could no longer tolerate. He gets quite annoyed with her when she keeps him from seeing his son as often as he would like. Also, she refuses to acknowledge that he has a new wife and tries her best to keep their son away from his step-mother.

Hating someone is not good for your health. You can at least not like him and get over. Being friends with ex boyfriends is not something that is required or necessary. Be true to yourself and your feelings. Some people can stay friends with their ex. It depends on the person and how the relationship ended. As for me, I can't be too friendly or too close to an ex. Because that can get in the way of future relationships.

Hi there! i have never been in contact with my exes. The truth is that i always try not to and just leave the relationship as it was - clear that we are no longer together so we should give ourselves time to be alone and not to be in contact with each other. However since there are common friends and we have social networking sites... i think it has proved to be a bit difficult not to have a quick chat with them. I sure have and have become friends again with my first bf (now ex). So we just chatted a few times but never really see them or never spend time with them. He showed that he could be interested and even if i was not with someone then I just stopped responding and because "busy" so he won't get the idea that I am giving him another chance. - Let me just share a story about a friend i know who has already broken up with her ex gf. They were no longer together for about a year now. But since they work in the same company, they actually still get to see each other. What's weird is that the woman gives him gifts that showed she still has feelings for him, and he would just accept it. Everyone thinks they are back together but he kept on denying it. But the gifts showed they have more than friendship - or that he is only leading her on. (Trying not to be clear and allowing the other person to do things for you still might just give them the wrong impression, right?)) As for the latest ex I have - I'd say i will try to be civil with him, if and when I see him, But I will never be friends with him, No i won't chat and I won't want to be spend another minute or two talking to him no way should he get an idea that i have already forgiven him and his cheating on me. I'd want him to know he messed up with the wrong person.

I believe in reconciliation. But it really takes time to heal wound that is deeply wounded. It is also a decision you make. Honestly, I believe when the pain is over, and you have already forgiven each other, and learned to let go of the past you can still makes friends with the person. I am not sure if it makes perfect sense but mortal enemies could be best friends if they only open their hearts. The fact that you have loved that person is the reason why you could love that person again, even as a friend. But definitely, it really depends on the reason why you have parted ways. If it's distance, or nothing just works between the two of you, and realized that it's better for you two to become just friends, then perhaps that would work. However, if someone cheated while you were in a relationship that could be very hard to reconcile. All I am saying is, there is always a chance to reconcile if you only wish to do so.

I totally agree with u, if one still wanna be his/her friends after breaking up, I think they still wanna be the love one and still don't give up. I hate people who still wanna be friends with her/his ex even though she or he already has a present lover.

For a long time I felt like being friends with my ex's was important. I felt like I had invested too much time in our relationship to just let everything go and not maintain some sort of friendship. As the years have gone by, people have changed and we've all grown apart so I no longer feel like friendship with them is that important.

I agree with you. But so far I have no boyfriend ever, not to mention ex. Talking about that, I feel blue now...

I think that will be the outcome if you try to befriend your ex immediately or too soon after the break up. We all heal and move on differently but in being friends with an ex, lots of peoples' feelings must also be considered, like the person that we are currently in and the person that is currently dating the said ex. I am friends with my ex, but it took us years before we finally started talking again. We are both married already for a couple of years and even though we don't talk often (we have nothing in common to talk about anymore), we have agreed to be friends to a point that if ever we meet each other anywhere, we will be able to greet each other sincerely.

Frienship can become love later. But can love become friendship later? Its too complicated. Can two persons who used to love each other before, share less feelings, emotions, privacy and thoughts? According to me, No. It's better to end everything between them. I agree, you may find many couples who broke up and became friends later. My question is, were they really in love?

it is still possible to be friends with an ex.. in time when all the pain heals and you have move on with your life i guess for me being friends with an ex is fine.. but that doesn't mean that you have to be approaching your ex.. if hes there fine but if hes not fine also.. i have an ex that every now and then contacts me asking me about whats going on with my life and its fine with me.. we have both move on with our lives..

I do not agree with you.I make common friend with my ex-bf. I have been married,he aslo has been a dad.We contact with each other but never meet each other.I think it is better to say hello than visit face to face.We loved each other ,it is our love experence which can not be changed and it is enough.

umm…… I agree with u definitely, for I am the person who did so, especially in our Asian country.

Once the feelings of love exist, it is very hard to change it back to normal friendship and both of them(guy and girl) cannot be freely moved and they will be inconvenient to be with each and other. The best thing to do when you have love failure is by forgetting the person and every memory you have loved before. Keeping in touch with your ex is just causing problem in your current relationships. For me, if someone is your ex it means he or she is not suitable for you anymore and try to avoid them. I agree with you.

It really depends on the reasons why you broke up. If the guy cheated on you and then you broke up because of that, I think it is very impossible for a girl to befriend his ex. But if you broke up because of your mutual decision or you've found out that you are not perfect for each other and you are more okay as friends, then being friends with your ex is not a bad thing.

Hi there! i have never been in contact with my exes. The truth is that i always try not to and just leave the relationship as it was - clear that we are no longer together so we should give ourselves time to be alone and not to be in contact with each other. However since there are common friends and we have social networking sites... i think it has proved to be a bit difficult not to have a quick chat with them. I sure have and have become friends again with my first bf (now ex). So we just chatted a few times but never really see them or never spend time with them. He showed that he could be interested and even if i was not with someone then I just stopped responding and because "busy" so he won't get the idea that I am giving him another chance. - Let me just share a story about a friend i know who has already broken up with her ex gf. They were no longer together for about a year now. But since they work in the same company, they actually still get to see each other. What's weird is that the woman gives him gifts that showed she still has feelings for him, and he would just accept it. Everyone thinks they are back together but he kept on denying it. But the gifts showed they have more than friendship - or that he is only leading her on. (Trying not to be clear and allowing the other person to do things for you still might just give them the wrong impression, right?)) As for the latest ex I have - I'd say i will try to be civil with him, if and when I see him, But I will never be friends with him, No i won't chat and I won't want to be spend another minute or two talking to him no way should he get an idea that i have already forgiven him and his cheating on me. I'd want him to know he messed up with the wrong person.

I a guilty of still making friends with the exes but I wasn't successful. I just hurt myself more and wasted my precious love, time and effort to the hopes that will never come true. It is better ... once you let go ... let go. If it comes back to you and you're still there, well second chances are worth it.

You know, there was a time in my life where I would have said that I didn't think that it would ever be possible for me to be friends with my ex-boyfriend. However, that definitely isn't something that I'm able to say today. The reason that I can't say that today is because of the fact that he actually is one of the best friends that I have. Now we did lose contact with each other for over eight years, but when we came into contact again, I realized what a great friend that I'd lost when my relationship with him ended.

Why would you be like that? If you could hate him if you aren't together could you really love him? You can't turn love on and off like a switch. Maybe you're a teenage, I didn't look at your profile. Love is precious to me. I can still love a former spouse or boyfriend as a human being. My ex husband came around at just the right time one time. My brakes gave out and I could have wrecked. He cared enough about me to get me and my car home and he fixed my brakes for me. He also went to church with me once as a friend. We weren't in love but I will always have love for him. I will always have love for my daughter's father just because he is her father. To hate him would be to hate my daughter. He is a part of her. He has no fei gs for me. It he does't hate me.

actually, it is too hard to be that kind of friends as before cause something has changed and that thing may be secretly between you and your ex-bf or ex-gl. and to some extent, I could not agree with you any more. if some one said that he or she has the same relationship with his ex- or her ex-, which may be a cheated lie.

It is a very tricky thing but I'm actually on good terms with my exs, one is definitely a friend, other could be a friend but I just don't like her lol