should i remove this friend :?

@maurya83 (923)
India
March 5, 2013 1:57am CST
I have never done this before..even when i got some messages to know my personal informations and to make me friends, though i couldn't understand what kind of further friendship they mean if we are already mylot friends :? but thats okay, it never made any difference for me. but for a few days, suddenly this thought came to my mind for a friend, i added him/her to my friends so that i can participate in his/her discussions as i like its discussions which i found in today's top discussion tab, though she/he accepted my request but never replied to my comments after that while it was not like that earlier..after that i found it made some discussions in which he/she stated like, he/she dont want to add friends but it has to because of some reasons but it annoys him/her. After reading such things i am thinking whether i should remove it from my friends or not, i know its may not be necessarily for me but i just dont want to make anyone uncomfortable because of me..
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@jenny1015 (13391)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Not being mean, but if she has clearly said that she really doesn't want friends, I don't think that she could even stay long enough in this site. This site is about people who connects themselves to one another to be able to reach out and share.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
5 Mar 13
may be she has added too many friends that she finds unable to handle all them..anyways she can remove or add by her choice..
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@miryanag (348)
• Bulgaria
5 Mar 13
I think that if he/she wants he/she will remove you. Don't worry about it. If this person is against adding friends why did she/he add you in the first place.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
5 Mar 13
thats what i was thinking,if she has any problem why did she added me, may be i am thinking too much..
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@SIMPLYD (76464)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Just ignore that friend. No need to do that my friend. If she/he doesn't like you than move on. She's not the only friend you have here at Mylot anyway.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
5 Mar 13
yes you are right, i have so many good friends here :) and so many topics to discuss with them..
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• United States
5 Mar 13
No if they really have a problem he will remove you. I would just leave the friend on the list and keep moving on.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
5 Mar 13
yes, it doesn't make any difference for me..
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@else22 (4319)
• India
5 Mar 13
I don't think you should remove the user from your friends list.Let him remain there.Don't gibe him your personal information.Remain indifferent to him.I mean,ignore him.If he comments back on your responses or responds to your discussions,it is his choice,and if he does not comment back or respond to your posts,that too is his choice.You needn't bother.If he feels uncomfortable because of you,let him remove you from his friends list.Again it is his choice and his decision.After all we are just online friends.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
5 Mar 13
I am indifferent to such users..just wondering if my presence in her friends bothers her in any way..yes thats right, she/he will remove me, her choice :)
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@else22 (4319)
• India
5 Mar 13
Of course,it is his/her problem.So let him/her take the initiative.It is the particular user's problem.It's good that you are indifferent to the issue.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
may be i am thinking too much about this, may be there is like that i just felt so :D
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I would not remove that friend. The discussions that you saw that stated he/she does not want to add friends may have been due to other issues that person was having with adding new friends that had absolutely nothing to do with you personally. If the person accepted your friendship request then that kind of tells me that you were not one of the ones that he/she had issue with. As for not responding to your discussions, that could be for a number of reasons. I don't respond to each and every one of my friends discussions as it would take too much time and I can't always relate to them. I respond to discussions that I can relate to whether they are on my friends list or not. Also we often have trouble with getting notifications and when that happens we tend to miss a lot of otherwise good discussions. If this friend had a problem with you then I think he/she would either PM you and let you know or just delete you. Of course, if you really want to delete this person, it is your choice.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
You are right, but i was not concerned for not to respond in my discussions (it was not very much earlier too)..it was about his/her discussions, it was not like that before but after adding me i never found a single response from her and then suddenly i read that post..all that made me think like, am i bothering her in any way..
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
6 Mar 13
You could always PM her and ask her about it. At least then you would know.
@kprofgames (3023)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I am all for adding a person so can follow their discussions easier, but the asking of personal information until really got a feel for them would bother me. Am agreeing with what others said here. Just leave the person for now. If they want to remove later on down the road they can.
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@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
I agree with all, i was just confused whether i disturbed him/her in any way..Its okay for me, he/she will remove me if it has any problem :)
@lampar (7597)
• United States
8 Mar 13
Probably you should remove her from your friend list if you are uncomfortable to have her around and sitting among your friends. Well, it is up to you to decide, she probably will not even notice that her name is removed from your friend list and could care less about it especially if she has several hundred of friends inside her profile. Just my two cents for you to digest, you are free to do whatever you like .
@maurya83 (923)
• India
8 Mar 13
I was a little uncomfortable earlier but not now, i decided to just ignore it as everyone suggested..
@wolfie34 (26877)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 13
I would honestly leave it down to them, if they don't want to be your friend then it's down to them to take you off their friends list, I wouldn't give it another thought, you other good friends that matter more than just this one person.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
8 Mar 13
i just ignored it, i have so many nice friends who really appreciate me :)
@Raine38 (9031)
• United States
5 Mar 13
If that friend of yours is uncomfortable then it is up to her to do as she pleases, whether to remove you or not. Don't let it bother you too much, I am sure that she is not the only friend you have here.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
It was a little uncomfortable for me earlier but not now, yes its upto her to keep me or to remove, i have so many friends here :)
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 13
I would try not to let it bother you. Some people don't like adding friends here that have not been around a long time due to being spammed. Maybe that was all they meant by it? I don't know, that was just a guess. I was spammed here really bad a while ago by a new user so I am careful now who I add to my friends list. =)
@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
It happened to me too but it didn't disturbed me really. Yes, definitely no one wants to be spammed, may be that user want to observe, what kind of user i am.. :D
@alberello (4756)
• Italy
5 Mar 13
Well, even if you remove this person from your list of friends on Mylot, it is your personal choice, if the problem is only in the fact that this person never responds to your comments, it does not seem appropriate to do so. However, if this person is bothering you, then the speech is completely different! Yet I do have a lot of friends here, most of which are inactive (I can also see from their score of ranking). Sometimes I clean and delete the ones that have "abandoned" the site. all in all I know that who writes who comment on my discussions and, in the end, however, are always the same people. That said, I repeat, is your choice!
@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
I agree with all responses, i shouldn't remove it and yes, i am not going to do so. No, the user doesn't bother me, just a thought bothered me if i am disturbing that user in any way..
@Hatley (163751)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Mar 13
hi I was going to say along with gifts that yuo shuld just leave it alone but I get the feeling from what you have said that it is making you uncomfortable and so if it really does make you feel uncomfortable with what this friend said in a discussion I would delete him or her from your friends list. I am a bit surprised that the admins did let that discussion stand when this person said he did not like to add friends but had to. That does not ssund one bit friendly to me.
@maurya83 (923)
• India
6 Mar 13
Hi hatley, i was a little uncomfortable earlier but not now, after reading all responses i felt its okay, not a big deal for me, its upto her, she can add or delete anyone anytime..:)
@anuraa32 (2453)
• India
9 Mar 13
If he was uncomfortable with the friends request with you, he wouldnt have sent it. And if he hates communicating with so much then I think he will remove you from the list anyways. So dont fret. Just let it me. I am sure it is not you.