Another Officemate is leaving... =(

@chiyosan (29383)
Philippines
March 14, 2013 8:46pm CST
And its her last day today, officially that is. She will be back next week to offset her absences so those won't be paid leaves anymore for her. But she's such a great company and I really can't believe that she is leaving us so soon. She came in later than me and well we've become really close as she was really such a nice companion. I know its normal that they would leave but sometimes its hard to be the one that always sees people leave, right? But i love where i work, i love my job, and its so near our place so i never have thought of leaving. at least not yet.
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@KrauseHome (34983)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Well, where I work all of a sudden there have been a lot of people leaving and people being moved around to other shifts. It is hard sometimes when some of the people leaving or being moved around are people you really get along with but yet it teaches you how to learn to get along with the ones who are left and being moved around.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi Krause, that is exactly why i am feeling sad right now, because i am really comfortable with her, we have the same interests and she almost is the one that provides us with the tv series copies. :D he he Seriously i will miss her so much, really.
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@KrauseHome (34983)
• United States
21 Mar 13
Well hopefully you will be able to always keep in touch and in time see each other again.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
we will do that, thank you so much for your response to the discussion and have a wonderful day! =)
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
It is always sad to part ways especially with people whom we have been accustomed to be with most of the times. But, it should not be the end of the friendship. Am sure you'd still get the chance to hang out.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi jenny, i know this is possible. i sure hope that we would still have the chance to hang out together too. :D Just like before and in the future. I am okay with people leaving the company and all, it happens, but its different when the person that would leave is a close friend already. some habits would be changed. he he
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@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I have also become close to one of my officemates before. We just actually been together for 2 months then I had to give up on going to the office. It was just an unplanned decision. Just at that same time, she also quit her job on that office. We have not seen each other since then but we have remained real good friends until now. We chat on Facebook whenever we have time.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi jenny, that is one good example of a maintained relationship even if you do not get to see each other all the time, and yes i would have loved that to be how ours would turn up to be. =) I am sure that we would have so much fun still even if we only have to see each other lesser times or only during dinner when we are free to meet up but we will make it happen. :D Thank you so much for your response to the discussion. Have a great day!
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@joliefille (3696)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
You're right. It is hard to be the one that always sees people leave in an office setting. I have seen a few nice co-workers leave in the past and I did miss them. By the time I also left the company I did miss a few people I was close to. But it's a part of life.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
It's always like that actually and as you have said it's normal part of life. I sure hope it will be okay of course. That we would still find time to spend soon. Last b night was supposed to be the last night together and she would be gone. I know we'll get used to her not being around but that's fine. I know it's going to be fine.
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hello chiyosan, we all have different career path in our lives, some can stay constant with their usual job, others believed they need to be some where to enrich their careers. it's hard and sad that people leaves for their own growth, but that is part of life and something that most people do. but never away because am sure you guys can still be in touch with each other
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi there letran! that's right. we live different lives and sometimes we do stay in a place longer and sometimes we don't... and usually we just happen to meet someone in our lives and from then on we begin a relationship with them. It does not necessarily be that we have to be by their side physically but its important is that we have known them and through that we are aware we have a friend in them. I am all for their success, I am happy for them to be happy and to be successful with their careers.m sure we will have more time to chat some time in the future and the bond we have had will never be broken anymore even if we are far... its just too sudden. =(
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• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I can relate to that. My closest friend in our company resigned because she needs to pursue her review study. It's hard but we need to accept the reality that people do come and go.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
hi Joana, thank you so much for your response. =( Its been sad and well for the past few days we aren't thinking about this but since its the last day today.. we are now feeling its the last day and probably will take a few more days before we could be seeing each other again. gosh that is going to be really hard.
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@ARIES1973 (9534)
• Legaspi, Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi chiyosan! Prior to my present job, I used to transfer from one job to another in order to find a work which could offer higher salary. So most of the time, I am the one leaving the company along with my office mates who became my friends already. Yes, it is really difficult to say goodbye to those people whom you spend your life with for several months or years. Anyway, although it is really sad on our part, we just have to think the positive result of this separation. We can still see each other outside office. Have a great day!
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
HI Aries, yes i have moved myself and have remained friends with those i have left behind in the previous jobs. But this job i have now, i already feel that I sure want to be here for a long time and it sure makes me feel sad that my office mates wanted new things and is not happy in here anymore. I feel as though why is it that I am the one that is just feeling that i love it here in our company.
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• Indonesia
15 Mar 13
I feel the same when my workmate at my 1st job quit the job. It was a good paying job but the boss is very annoying that many of our work mate resign, I decided to not extend my contract. We are all are very close that when one by one of my work mate leave and new work mate took their place I feel bit lonely.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi there whitfield, i hope you are doing very well. I really think that its really wonderful to have good friends at work and its just equally as sad when they are no longer with us in the same company. =( I sure know you do know what it is like to be left in the workplace and everybody else has left when you think they will be with you almost all the time.
@TLilly12 (1230)
• United States
15 Mar 13
I am sorry to hear, that your office mate will be leaving, for a short time well at least you do know, that she will be back, it will only be a short absents, for her, and when she come back to work, I know you will be, really glad to see her again.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
hi lilly, how are you. that is right, i am glad that i have come to know her and i would be excited to also maintain the relationship we built between us as officemates and as friends. =) it is sad to be away from her after all the times we were here in the office doing projects together. i am sure that we will have better friendship now that we can openly talk about work and stuffs. we will have a totally different experience now, her in her new office. and me in the same company she left.
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@mohkanari (1957)
• India
15 Mar 13
Departure of some good friends are heart touching. In offices/work places such departures are expected and new face may come with similar friendliness. But for time being some uneasiness would prevail in mind.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
hi mohkanari, that is true, i do agree on this actually. many will come and go in our working lives. Our friends would be officemates and officemates will be our friends... at some point we must also be acceptable to them being away from us once in a while.
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• Philippines
15 Mar 13
i know the feeling.. both of being left and of being the one to leave. We really cannot control everyone to stay at a certain job as we have our own preferences of working and our own needs. It is really hard say goodbye to a friend who has been part of our daily living for sometime, and for just unavoidable reason, they will have to leave us. :( what matters for me is the friendship that has been built, and even though that you cannot see each other everyday doesn't mean that friendship is gone. Just keep in touch with them from time to time. :)
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
That is true gelay, it is hard to control and its really not in our hands on our colleagues decision to leave the company. It is their career and as much as we all want to just stay together, someone has got to also leave and find out what's out there for them. I really do wish to be able to have a constant communication with her even after she left for another company. Im afraid if one of us gets too busy all of us here might not have updates anymore.
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@rekhum (2435)
• India
15 Mar 13
Couple of my colleagues resigned from our office just last week. And I agree its not a happy moment to see your peers/friends leaving you. But at the end of the day its a corporate world so we have to go on with our duties. Least we can do for them is wish them all the good luck.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi rekhum! Thank you for your response. It is sad to be left in the company. we used to always have lunch and snacks together and probably i am feeling sad because of the "relationship" as friends we have built for the past year we are in the workplace. I know that its going to be for the best of her so she is leaving. I really do wish her well and for sure, we will keep in touch.
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@MandaLee (3691)
• United States
15 Mar 13
It is always hard to say goodbye to someone. I hope your office gives your coworker a goodbye party. I wish your coworker all the best in her future.
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@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
It is a sad day. I do not know about our office and team, but we her friends will be going over to their house later for a dinner and send away "party" so its going to be just us, few of those who really are with her all these times. =( often when someone leaves it kinda makes you feel sad that you would sometimes wish to leave too(at least i thought of this last time)
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Mar 13
It's normal to every company, some colleagues might leave and there are also new individuals coming. Learn to accept the reality of being a worker. The most important thing, you love you job and want to stay your company
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Ouch. I know I am an employee but I do know that it can also be called a worker but somehow that touched a bit of my sensitive side feeling that I am told i am a worker felt as if that is all i would ever be. =( Poor me though but that's quite real somehow. I chose to work and to be in a company because they have potential for me and my career and its no easy task. Whatever we have here at work makes everything a whole lot easier at times... we are with friends and it makes the job fun and we get by with friends around. I do love the job i am in but i know its not forever. I do love the company but i know i would be obliged to move sooner or later even.
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Mar 13
Once you enjoy your job, there's no reason to leave. Unless you find better opportunity outside in other company
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Haha that's right. Of course if you find Better opportunity else where it is very right to try to see their offer too. TheRe could be good reason to leave sometimes.
@hereandthere (28902)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
living near your office is a big plus. i had a job where if i leave the house at 8.30, i'll be swiping my ID at the office by 9am. there are many places to eat around it and the mall is walking distance so you can drop by before going home. and if you have other outlets and activities, it makes work and your workmates bearable.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
That is so true. I have a very Close work environment and it's just about three blocks. So since it's just few blocks from our house is become so convenient and easy to go b to work and to come home. Plus our boss is very lenient to us and she is a darling most of the time. So I know I will stay in the company for a long time
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
That is so true. I have a very Close work environment and it's just about three blocks. So since it's just few blocks from our house is become so convenient and easy to go b to work and to come home. Plus our boss is very lenient to us and she is a darling most of the time. So I know I will stay in the company for a long time
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
years ago, when i worked in mandaluyong, i had an officemate who would go home to cubao for lunch and watch noontime shows. traffic wasn't so bad back then. sometimes he doesn't feel like going back to work and would rather have an afternoon nap. so do you just walk, take a jeep or tricycle? i hope you're never late. and i guess that means you don't mind doing overtime too.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Well I think that is a reality in a workplace. There are really no permanent officemates and somewhere sometime you will have to bid goodbyes to each other. I think that what is important is the friendship does not end when she leaves. I think that is the only one you could keep to yourselves and enjoy the lives each is is to track.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
that's true, she's left already but we are meeting her next week before the long weekend on the Lenten Season. =)
@Hatley (164743)
• Garden Grove, California
15 Mar 13
hi c hiyosan Its so hard to say goodbye to workmates you have become real friends with. I know I went thought that when I worked in the library as our crew was all very close to each other.I hope she is happy going perhaps to another job. I am glad that you love where you work and love your job as thats what counts in the long run.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Hey b there Hatley. How v are b you? I hope you are doing well. Yes it's sad and it's really something I wasn't ready just yet. But I know we'll be okay and we will keep the friendship and will be in contact still as we have always been so close the past few days I just hope she doesnt get too busy. :(
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
15 Mar 13
My previous company are a great place to work. The staff there are generally not young so there are hardly job hopping. However the much earlier batch of employees that my boss employed are much younger, in their 20's. After like two years working they will leave for a better prospect. Working life is like that, people moves for better career advancement. Some people leaves for better pay, some cannot take the office politics.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
I Love think this is what's happening when typing and new employees are young. They of course are still very enthusiastic and is still very eager to learn and to see what's in store for them. But that's normal and that's what the game is when it comes to the corporate game.
• China
15 Mar 13
I think it's normal for everyone of us to be sad when we see our friend leave his or her company.But you needn't be sad for too long. Since she is your close friend,your friendship will be kept no matter if she is your colleage or not.In addition,you needn't be too sad about her,either.Maybe she will find a better job in the future. If you want to keep the friendship with her,you can make calls to her after she leaves your office.You can encourage each other.Actually,sometimes you can talk more about your work and your life if you are not in the same office or the same company. As for me,several years ago,I met something similar to your affairs.I saw some of my close colleages who shared a lot with me leave our company.I also felt a little sad about them and myself.But later,we keep in touch,and our friendship is still kept till now.We even talk more about our career and life more than before. In general,I think friendship may be the most important,and it shouldn't be over after she leaves your company.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hi there qianlizhifeng, Thank you for your response... i really do appreciate what you have shared and its of course made me feel better and is looking forward to the next few days with her as a close friend and no longer a co worker. I agree with you. I am sure the friendship will be retained between the two of us and we can also of course talk about what was happening at the workplace that she left and what's new with her now. :D
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