My 1 year old won't let me... :(
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
United States
August 13, 2015 5:03pm CST
It is so hard for me to concentrate on working or anything I do online because of my 1 year old little boy. Love him to death, but I wish he was able to play more on his own and not scream and cry for momma constantly. It's so hard to get anything done, let alone being online. It's sucks because I am an internet addict lol but I guess who isn't with technology these days?. But I love him so I guess I can deal lol 
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@much2say (53958)
• Los Angeles, California
14 Aug 15
My kids are 10 and 5 now. Way back when, I used to stay up way late at night to do any online stuff - the day was for them. Really time goes by so fast and before you know it, they're doing their own things, going off to school, and finding their own friends. Establishing a bond is so important in these early years - so be sure to cherish these moments - it will go fast!
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
14 Aug 15
I will try my very best. I want a great relationship with my kid.
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
17 Aug 15
I can totally relate! 
My kids are 18 and 15. Boy, are they ever distracting! Particularly my oldest, who is severely autistic. 
With 3 kids (keep in mind, I'm including my husband here lol), it's amazing that I can get anything done online! 
My kids are 18 and 15. Boy, are they ever distracting! Particularly my oldest, who is severely autistic.
With 3 kids (keep in mind, I'm including my husband here lol), it's amazing that I can get anything done online! 3 people like this
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
17 Aug 15
Oh yes. Our husbands who are kids at heart themselves lol 
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
13 Aug 15
Balance. Take your online time when he is doing other things... like sleeping, or playing on a blanket near by. He will become more independent as time passes. I actually purposely go to bed later than I should so I can have sometime to work or read or whatever in a quiet house.
My son is 8 but medically fragile so he needs a lot of my care. I will start to answer something like your post here and have to stop so I can care for him. It happens often. But I do it because he comes first.*shrug*
You will find a balance to it all. Remember to find time for you both that doesn't hurt how you and the baby get on together.
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@TLChimes (4822)
• United States
14 Aug 15
@DanieGirl80587 Yeah they are. I know it's hard but very worth it. 
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
14 Aug 15
Oh of course he comes first. No question about that. But like you said it's all about balance. And I work my full time job during the day, so I'm always tired lol. But he's worth it.
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@phyrre (2317)
• United States
14 Aug 15
I agree with a lot of what's been posted. :) As a mother to a four-year-old, I can promise you that you'll miss that at some point, but that really doesn't help you right now, does it?
Balance is the key, though. There's nothing wrong with teaching your child to be independent. In fact, it's good for them. Be there when he needs you, of course, but even at one there are things you can teach them that it's OK to do by themselves. To me, learning to play independently is important, and it's a skill that a lot of kids I know don't have. They're not sure how to manage when they're not getting attention constantly.
That being said, he's one! Enjoy it! They're only this age once, and pretty soon he'll be saying, "I do it by myself," and then you'll be wondering where those days went.
Plus, there are definitely ways to balance your day. I would wait for my daughter to nap or when she was particularly interested in a particular toy and take the time to get done whatever it was I needed to. :) Plus, after bedtime is a blessing, too, if you can get them to bed early.
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@phyrre (2317)
• United States
14 Aug 15
@DanieGirl80587 It's tricky. I started working from home when I was pregnant and had to leave work on a doctor's recommendation. It's easier now, of course, but back then it was a bit more difficult. There were a couple good things, though. I mean, babies nap a lot, so that gives quite a chunk of time there where you can sneak on, as long as your work is something that you can do in increments.
A support system goes a long way, too. My husband helped when he got home from work, which freed me up to finish doing the things that I needed to do. My grandparents live nearby, and they were always happy to play with her if I really had work that I needed to get done. Oh, and independent play is definitely nice! If she woke up early from a nap, it was really nice to be able to crap her mat and put her next to me for a couple minutes while I finished what I was working on.
Schedules, as much as you can do it, are a godsend. I got all out of whack with my schedule recently, and I'm still trying to get back in it, but it will help so much if you can work on getting on some sort of schedule. :)
@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
14 Aug 15
He's getting so big so fast. I miss when I could hold him and make him feel better. Once he was mobile he was like "nu-uh mommy let me go." I am enjoying him. I just often wonder how people who work from home or how full time writers do it with small children. Very tricky.
@Letranknight2015 (51532)
• Philippines
13 Aug 15
You should take the opportunity to be needy of you because you will MISS that when he grows up, most specially when he started reaching puberty. Im sure you can manage your time from caring your child and doing activities online, don't worry you'll get use to it. have a nice day and wish you great luck for you and baby.
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@DanieGirl80587 (2713)
• United States
13 Aug 15
@Letranknight2015 aww thanks so much! Yes people tell me I will miss it, but I guess right now it's just hard because he can't talk yet. I know it'll get easier :)
@Eurekafem (4)
• Pasig, Philippines
14 Aug 15
@Letranknight25 Hi, Knight. :-) I am glad to see you are here. :-)
@Eurekafem (4)
• Pasig, Philippines
14 Aug 15
Hello, Danielle.:-)
Welcome to motherhood . I too have kids of which the youngest is just 8-month old. Her older sisters are 5 and 8 but what do you know? They are still a handful that it is even difficult for me to pee (whenever I go to the bathroom , i can hear them screaming and knocking non stop).
It is difficult but what would I do without them? I am also a stay at home mum and the only me time I got is well.... nothing... :-)
Don't worry, this phase will come to pass and you will be surprise to see how they have grown so rapidly that you hardly see them and you have plenty of time for yourself. Meanwhile, enjoy moments like that with you darling.It is priceless!;-)
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@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 15
Yes, you are very right that this phase will be over soon without our dear friend @DanieGirl80587 realizing it.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
9 Sep 15
Little kids are always restless. He just cannot understand that you are an internet addict and you need to surf, while attending to him also.
I feel that you need to maintain a balance between looking after him and for spending time on mylot. Don't expect that he would start playing on his own so soon. 
I feel that you need to maintain a balance between looking after him and for spending time on mylot. Don't expect that he would start playing on his own so soon. 
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
14 Aug 15
I felt that way when mine were little. They're now 7,9, 12, 12, and 18. My oldest is never home anymore, he practically lives with friends and only stops home occasionally and when he is home he doesn't say much about his life (though I trust he's staying out of trouble for the most part). The twins are involved in so many school activities it's almost as if they're never home either. They go from soccer practice to band practice and get home at 9pm.
So when I'm not shuffling them around or volunteering to help the band with fundraisers, I got plenty of time on my hands....
Bottom line is remind yourself about how quickly they grow up and enjoy these moments while you have them.
@fufurinha (11930)
• Portugal
13 Aug 15
I don't have children yet but I think it will be hard to conciliate children and the internet lol
