Marriage: Sleeping on Arguments

Early on in my marriage I tried to take that approach, but it didn't last long. When we have to get up early for work the next day we get more irritable if we don't go to bed at a certain hour... so if we get angry and try to talk, one or both of us isn't going to want to have a civilized conversation knowing that we need to hurry up and get some sleep. What ends up happening is the fight gets worse because we just want to go to bed. After many nights of going through this we've both learned that if we're that tired sleep needs to come first. Then usually by the morning we're both sorry and ready to make up over whatever caused the disagreement in the first place.

I have heard the saying that you should not go to bed angry. I think that it is more about the fact that one or the other of you might not wake up in the morning, and you do not want the last words that you speak to each other to be out of anger. However, sometimes a good night's sleep can put things in perspective, and by morning you might not even remember what the argument was about. Sometimes being tired and stressed can cause people to act and react in a negative way, so the sleep actually helps improve the mood, which might be exactly what will stop the argument.

hi@JaneApril ues communication is the only way to settle things and have a happyh marriage also be best friends as then you are a team and teams talk out p roblems I was married for 33 years so guess me and dGarland did dod something right

It is easier said than done as in many instances unsettled issues do land up in bed.

And not forgeting waking up the next morning still mad at each other and a bad day follows. It is very true better solve it all before sleeping

If you looked back a few years after marriage , you can see that marriage life is mixed with happy, sad , arguments , finance crisis etc. Life will travel smoothly...Good understanding among couple is the apt way for happy life. Don't bother about arguments and troubles...Healthy arguments make the way for corrections and changes...

Whatever you have heard is right. I will put it up in another way. Even if you have an argument with your partner, you should sleep together, things will sort out to a considerable exrent. It is always better to sort out the differences before going to bed. Arguments are part of married life and arguments should be taken in the right earnest. Not talking to your partner or sleeping separately could precipitate the matter.

It may happen at times that your problem doe not get sorted out before you sleep...I feel that with a new day normally you tend to have second thoughts which is more positive than the previous night so you will be able to handle the situation differently and be fair !

We don't talk unless both of us already cooled down. We gave space and time to each other.

My parents follow the golden rule of " 3 hrs ". No argument whatsoever should last more than 3 hrs between them and considering that they hardly ever argue or are at opposite ends of a discussion, it works pretty fine. Sleep is meant to be a reliever, a drifter that takes you from one day to another. If sleep owes you peace for that much time, you owe peace a fair chance to let it bring you that peace and resolving your issues before going to bed is you fulfilling that promise . Never sleep unhappy, your pillows are meant to carry the creases of the happy night of the past. Not the tears or sobs or worries of the unpleasant one.