Have You Ever Fallen in Love
February 29, 2016 1:26pm CST
This is the time of your life say in 30s and single when you see some of the youngins around you ask this question. And you have no answer for that. You either look up or down and shake your head and feel bad about yourself. I experienced failure in education, jobs, friendship. But never tried love so no win no loss. I have pets around. Every month we go on rescuing some dogs and give them shelter. Every 2nd weekend feed some dogs. Have managed to save few wounded birds. And that is pretty much all. If that counts for love. I wonder how love feels between among humans. Have you ever fallen in love?
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30 Mar 16
Yes and out of it as well. Sometimes you realize your folly, at other times, they realize their folly. I think we tend to push a lot under the carpet when we "fall in love" preparing to fall I suppose. lol. It is all part of living I suppose. It makes us understand others feelings better too. In a way, I am constantly in love as well. lol. But I love my single status..absolutely love it. The only thing that scares me is old age and helplessness. lol.
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29 Feb 16
college was the only time I fell in love with some one, but i fell out of love at the same time. I had some female friends whom i hang out with but never to the point of dating. now, I'm just almost alone. its a great feeling, makes you think you can do anything.
• Jacksonville, Florida
16 Mar 16
You do know the answer to this one already but yes I have fallen in love and I am still in love. I think there is someone for everyone out there and it comes at the most unexpected times so hope is not lost for you my friend-if love is what you want anyway. =)
17 Mar 16
@wiLLmaH Indeed. So far I only met women who wanted to know how many cars I have or if I have US visa or heavy pocket job. I decided to remain single till the time comes where I meet woman who is interested in me and not my money. I'll get out of marriage If I realize i am just someone's ATM card lol.
• United States
30 Mar 16
I have a few times. I have also loved people but found that I was not "in love" with them. It hurts when the relationship does not last, but I would rather have the experience, even with the hurt, than to never have that experience.
29 Feb 16
I see. But When I meet some people they say why are you still single. I find that in reality people who want to get into relationship are materialistic. So teen love and filmy love is a fantasy. So being single is more of reality than accepting fantasy to me. But each person to their own.
10 Apr 16
@skysnap I remember one of my friends when we were talking about relationships. He asked me what to prefer: that I am single and I wish to get married or that I get married and I wish that I go back to being single again. I think he wants me to think carefully of my decisions in life.
31 Mar 16
We are from an age and a family that believe in arranged marriages[ if you have referred to the love blossoming between a boy and a girl ] and this does not permit ' love' before marriage.We get married to a man of our parents' choice and take life thereon. We are asked whether we like the potential bride or groom but this is after a lot of preliminary screening by parents. Nowadays things are different and youngsters do choose their partners. To your question my precise answer would be that I did not fall in love but this love slowly descended on me in course of time. What is the purpose of staying married for 38 years if we are unable to be totally in love , have a feeling of total dependency or leaning on each other for companionship !!!! However we need a lot of initial patience, tolerance and there is constant compromise.This may be a youngster's point of view today but some women of our age pay a lot of importance to the feeling of security a man gives despite anything else.
31 Mar 16
Kala, I agree. Conventionally, exposure to boys was also less. Girls were rarely sent to coeds. And work environment was also selected like you be teacher in girls school or doctor. As you said loving comes after "initial patience, tolerance, and constant compromise". What we the "unmarried" feel cannot exactly be classified as love I suppose. It may be "liking", or "caring". It usually ceases because there is no permanence about it. And I kind of enjoy platonic relationships.
10 Apr 16
It is good to be a practical person but I disagree of marrying someone out of money. I think it will just yield to infidelity. I have seen broken families because the intention of settling down was not for love but for the material possessions.
12 Apr 16
@annierose In my perception , Security does not refer to only 'financial' security. Women are wealthy in their own right; many women are financially independent. THe whole picture of a united family gives a good feeling; don't you agree? Money does not enter this calculation.
30 Mar 16
Yes. I think you should open your world to love. It is a nice feeling. Of course, there might be pain along the way but make these pain the reason for you to be a stronger person. Love is great! But you must love yourself first before giving love
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 16
Love can be wonderful if you fall for the right person and they love you back. Be careful who you fall in love with . I hope you find somebody nice, perhaps you could look for somebody who likes animals then you will have lots in common and plenty to talk about.