Have You Ever Fallen in Love

@skysnap (17581)
February 29, 2016 1:26pm CST
This is the time of your life say in 30s and single when you see some of the youngins around you ask this question. And you have no answer for that. You either look up or down and shake your head and feel bad about yourself. I experienced failure in education, jobs, friendship. But never tried love so no win no loss. I have pets around. Every month we go on rescuing some dogs and give them shelter. Every 2nd weekend feed some dogs. Have managed to save few wounded birds. And that is pretty much all. If that counts for love. I wonder how love feels between among humans. Have you ever fallen in love?
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@vandana7 (57466)
• India
30 Mar 16
Yes and out of it as well. Sometimes you realize your folly, at other times, they realize their folly. I think we tend to push a lot under the carpet when we "fall in love" preparing to fall I suppose. lol. It is all part of living I suppose. It makes us understand others feelings better too. In a way, I am constantly in love as well. lol. But I love my single status..absolutely love it. The only thing that scares me is old age and helplessness. lol.
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@sjvg1976 (14530)
• Delhi, India
30 Mar 16
I liked the way you said it. Every one like to be single as one has no responsibility then but fears what would happen when they get old. That is the only reason I married and have kids.
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@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
Are you suggesting him to come out of his present ..... you know what I mean
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@vandana7 (57466)
• India
30 Mar 16
@suni51 ..not at all. How about enjoying it while it lasts? lol.
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@Lucky15 (33700)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
I had. And fell down bad
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• United States
29 Feb 16
Aww me too but we got back up again and I feel stronger from it, do you ? @Lucky15
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@Lucky15 (33700)
• Philippines
29 Feb 16
@enlightenedpsych2 as they say...what doesn't kill you makes.you stronger. ;
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• United States
1 Mar 16
Yes some girl in PINK sang that . . . @Lucky15
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@rina110383 (23047)
29 Feb 16
I am a single lady in my 30s. I've always been a failure when it comes to relationships, but I'm willing to wait. While waiting, I intend to love myself more so that by the time He arrives, I am ready and I have more to offer.
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@skysnap (17581)
1 Mar 16
That sounds like a good way to see the future. I am in same phase. I think it;s better be good or nothing at all. Who wants headache of expectations and stuff?
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@rina110383 (23047)
1 Mar 16
@skysnap No one wants them.
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@rakski (2585)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
I got married at 29. Quite late also. But I never really mind. It will all come in God's perfect time.
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• Philippines
29 Feb 16
college was the only time I fell in love with some one, but i fell out of love at the same time. I had some female friends whom i hang out with but never to the point of dating. now, I'm just almost alone. its a great feeling, makes you think you can do anything.
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@skysnap (17581)
1 Mar 16
Ha. I guess that's like optimistic view of our life gets doubled there I assume.
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• Merced, California
11 Apr 16
you will find somebody im sure.
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• Philippines
12 Apr 16
@davidalicea100 well, Im not counting on that yet.
• Jacksonville, Florida
16 Mar 16
You do know the answer to this one already but yes I have fallen in love and I am still in love. I think there is someone for everyone out there and it comes at the most unexpected times so hope is not lost for you my friend-if love is what you want anyway. =)
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@skysnap (17581)
17 Mar 16
Haha. At this point of time in my life, I am not sure what I want. I just take life one day at a time. And hope for peaceful sleep at night.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Mar 16
@skysnap Well then I hope you get peaceful sleep every night. =)
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@cacay1 (32164)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
30 Mar 16
Oh my, of course, my dear, I fall in love so many times and failed love so many times, crazy feeling,but love is truly beautiful, mysterious and worth to try and sacrifice for.
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@rakski (2585)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
agree with you there @cacay1 Love is a beautiful thing
@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Yeah. but unfortunately it didn't happened with me.
@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
11 Apr 16
Hi Erly! Have you found "the one" already? If yes, then I am very happy for you. I understand that it takes a lot of patience also for love to grow.
@EddieHands (32959)
• United States
1 Mar 16
I think I had once fallen in love. It felt really good. However now she is gone. I feel maybe I will never feel that kind of romantic love again. So now I just chase my money and dreams mostly. Blessings
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@skysnap (17581)
1 Mar 16
I can relate to that. Chasing money sounds more reasonable though. Especially from 30s to 50s.
@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
I think love comes the least you expect of it. Maybe one or two years from now, you can meet that person. We do not know what will happen in the future. Life is full of surprises.
• United States
29 Feb 16
Yes I have and I tell you it is a complicated feeling that takes patience to nurture and gratitude to continue and when it fails, when it is true love not just infatuation, it hurts a lot as well . . .
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@sjvg1976 (14530)
• Delhi, India
30 Mar 16
Of course that counts in love. I don't believe on love actually as it's hard to find true love.
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@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
I will have to report this matter to... you know whom
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 16
@suni51 paaji, in case you need someone to testify.... you know where to find me
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
I think true love is exaggerated.
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@wiLLmaH (8169)
• Singapore, Singapore
17 Mar 16
Before, I thought all men are dogs.. haha! But my husband proved it wrong. :) We are now on our way to our 5th year anniversary this April.
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@skysnap (17581)
17 Mar 16
I am glad that you are happily settled. Its really hard to find good people these days.
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@wiLLmaH (8169)
• Singapore, Singapore
17 Mar 16
@skysnap being happily married or having a good relationship is a teamwork. don't expect it with selfish people. :)
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@skysnap (17581)
17 Mar 16
@wiLLmaH Indeed. So far I only met women who wanted to know how many cars I have or if I have US visa or heavy pocket job. I decided to remain single till the time comes where I meet woman who is interested in me and not my money. I'll get out of marriage If I realize i am just someone's ATM card lol.
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• United States
30 Mar 16
I have a few times. I have also loved people but found that I was not "in love" with them. It hurts when the relationship does not last, but I would rather have the experience, even with the hurt, than to never have that experience.
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Yes, it feels bad when we are the one trying from one side. And the other person has their own plans.
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@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
Tell us about your experience of your last one then
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@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
Experience is the best teacher. It adds flavor to our life. It is alright to make mistakes because mistakes means lessons learned.
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@amnabas (9928)
• Karachi, Pakistan
29 Feb 16
Not exactly. The teen love is always a fantasy.
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@skysnap (17581)
29 Feb 16
I see. But When I meet some people they say why are you still single. I find that in reality people who want to get into relationship are materialistic. So teen love and filmy love is a fantasy. So being single is more of reality than accepting fantasy to me. But each person to their own.
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@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
@skysnap I remember one of my friends when we were talking about relationships. He asked me what to prefer: that I am single and I wish to get married or that I get married and I wish that I go back to being single again. I think he wants me to think carefully of my decisions in life.
@skysnap (17581)
10 Apr 16
@annierose hmm. i think it's kind of moment that gets us.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
31 Mar 16
We are from an age and a family that believe in arranged marriages[ if you have referred to the love blossoming between a boy and a girl ] and this does not permit ' love' before marriage.We get married to a man of our parents' choice and take life thereon. We are asked whether we like the potential bride or groom but this is after a lot of preliminary screening by parents. Nowadays things are different and youngsters do choose their partners. To your question my precise answer would be that I did not fall in love but this love slowly descended on me in course of time. What is the purpose of staying married for 38 years if we are unable to be totally in love , have a feeling of total dependency or leaning on each other for companionship !!!! However we need a lot of initial patience, tolerance and there is constant compromise.This may be a youngster's point of view today but some women of our age pay a lot of importance to the feeling of security a man gives despite anything else.
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@vandana7 (57466)
• India
31 Mar 16
Kala, I agree. Conventionally, exposure to boys was also less. Girls were rarely sent to coeds. And work environment was also selected like you be teacher in girls school or doctor. As you said loving comes after "initial patience, tolerance, and constant compromise". What we the "unmarried" feel cannot exactly be classified as love I suppose. It may be "liking", or "caring". It usually ceases because there is no permanence about it. And I kind of enjoy platonic relationships.
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@annierose (17416)
• Philippines
10 Apr 16
It is good to be a practical person but I disagree of marrying someone out of money. I think it will just yield to infidelity. I have seen broken families because the intention of settling down was not for love but for the material possessions.
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@kalav56 (11503)
• India
12 Apr 16
@annierose In my perception , Security does not refer to only 'financial' security. Women are wealthy in their own right; many women are financially independent. THe whole picture of a united family gives a good feeling; don't you agree? Money does not enter this calculation.
@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 16
Love amongst humans comes with many strings attached - much unlike the love you have for your pets, dogs, birds and whatever else.
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Hmm. that's something new. I guess that's another set of experience.
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 16
@skysnap Of course, a completely different set of experiences. At the end, you and many who take this experience spend the free time (if any is available) thinking... if that was something they should have really experienced.
@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
@thesids LOL. I guess by that logic. it must be luck for people to fall in love with right person.
@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
Yes 3 times to be precise, once while in engineering college, 2nd while in business school and third was full and final (I am married). I wonder why you missed the chance of falling in love with your better half ?????
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 16
skysnap did not mention about that part on the discussion. But it is a genuine question for sure
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
I don't have a better half. I just have pets :P I liked many women during college and workplace but it never worked out. I didn't experienced those "Love" feelings for anyone.
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@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
@skysnap I got it, you liked women, you should have tried with girls your age
@rakski (2585)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
Yes. I think you should open your world to love. It is a nice feeling. Of course, there might be pain along the way but make these pain the reason for you to be a stronger person. Love is great! But you must love yourself first before giving love
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@suni51 (1849)
30 Mar 16
Your suggestion is fine but will he listen to that ?
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@rakski (2585)
• Philippines
30 Mar 16
@suni51 oh? really? good for him.
@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
True that while trying to find love we forget loving ourself. I can totally understand your comment.
• San Fernando, Philippines
17 Mar 16
I have fallen in love yes but it broke me to pieces...
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@skysnap (17581)
17 Mar 16
Sad to hear that. I wish in future you'd find someone better and things will be good. :)
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@vandana7 (57466)
• India
30 Mar 16
You will get a chance to fall in love again. Be open to the idea.
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@thesids (22453)
• Bhubaneswar, India
30 Mar 16
@vandana7 wanted to reply to your comment... but then realized I am not that close to either of the souls above yours on this box.
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@millie02 (5881)
• United Kingdom
30 Mar 16
Love can be wonderful if you fall for the right person and they love you back. Be careful who you fall in love with . I hope you find somebody nice, perhaps you could look for somebody who likes animals then you will have lots in common and plenty to talk about.
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@vandana7 (57466)
• India
30 Mar 16
Careful? Is it possible? lol
@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Haha. true that but I have passed the teenage and passed 20s so I don't know what else in the world is left for being careful. lol
@TRBRocks420 (62064)
• Banks, Oregon
30 Mar 16
Yes, I have a couple times , it didn't work out.
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Oh sorry to hear that.
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@TRBRocks420 (62064)
• Banks, Oregon
30 Mar 16
@skysnap It's ok always next time.
@youless (87106)
• Guangzhou, China
30 Mar 16
Of course I have fallen in love and therefore I got married
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@skysnap (17581)
30 Mar 16
Haha. That is a good settling.
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