Can You Take a Hint?

By Toni
@toniganzon (72279)
Philippines
June 21, 2016 7:14pm CST
His mother was a very sweet woman with a very nice British accent. I really like her as my client. As I was showing her around the condominium building, her son came and joined us. He asked me questions not related to the building at all and he seemed to be flirting with me. But I answered him politely and professionally. He was smart, took the hint and he checked out the units instead. Can you take a hint when the person you're flirting with is not interested in you or are you like other people who just don't care and continue embarrassing yourself?
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39 responses
@JudyEv (326141)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Jun 16
I'm a bit too old to be flirting with people. I'm glad this man had enough sense to take the hint and move on.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
He seemed to be a well educated British man.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
@JudyEv Maybe, but I think it was inappropriate to do that while I was working.
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@JudyEv (326141)
• Rockingham, Australia
22 Jun 16
@toniganzon Maybe he really was attracted to you.
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@hora_fugit (5862)
• India
25 Jun 16
I would rather continue embarrassing myself.
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• India
26 Jun 16
@vandana7 I don't know the answer of Why...
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@vandana7 (98963)
• India
26 Jun 16
When would you stop? lol
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Jun 16
Seriously? Why?
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 16
at my age I do not fflirt ajd never did much but as a young woman what littleflkrtingIdid Istopped itf the other persom was not interested
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jun 16
@toniganzon I only did itonce and six weeks later we got married he started the flifrting first lol
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
@Hatley lol that's a sweet memory. My husband I never flirted with each other. I guess it's because we were buddies. He treated me like one of the boys until he realized he was falling for me.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
I have actually never flirted with anybody in person. Online I'm such a flirt.
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@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
25 Jun 16
Me flirted with one and we got married... Ever since flirting sounds like a dreaded word Okay, seriously, Today, I do not think and analyze hints. I have learned not to because I am mostly on the misinterpreting of things. I always have liked to be straightforward and expect the same. I have grown up to accept if there is a fault in me and I would prefer being told straight... because I know, I am mostly with friends here or there. I wear an open heart and expect the same from others.
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@vandana7 (98963)
• India
26 Jun 16
@toniganzon @thesids - I am straight ..without specifying the name of the person...I do indicate what will not be ok with me. But people think as long as they are not named the rules do not apply to them. It does become difficult because we offer sincere friendships and after the direct approach, hints remain the only way to explain things but if the person does not take those, hurting the person remains the only way out of the predicament.
@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Jun 16
@vandana7 Does this apply with flirting too? Because when people flirt, they are not being direct either and some men would even deny it and say that it was just a joke.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
25 Jun 16
And you are one of a kind.
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@koopharper (7500)
• Canada
22 Jun 16
I'm beyond flirting and I find it amusing when someone tries to flirt with me.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Do you feel flattered when someone does?
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
@koopharper That's a total turn off.
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• Canada
22 Jun 16
@toniganzon The one's that try to flirt with me are usually not very bright so no.
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@sishy7 (27169)
• Australia
22 Jun 16
I don't remember when was the last time I flirted but I sure hope I could take a hint and not embarrassing myself...
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
Yeah, i too don't like to get embarrassed that's why I never flirt in real life. Online is a different story.
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
Yes , i can very notice hints . I have an open mind . If one doesn't like me , then i move on .
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
Hi, D! In our case, men run after us!
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@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
@toniganzon Correct !
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@sofssu (23662)
25 Jul 16
I don't flirt with anyone.. gone past that age.. But I am glad that the young man took the hint and behaved decently.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
25 Jul 16
Yes, I learned later on that he's an English lawyer and was here with his mom as he wanted to observe the Philippine court.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
22 Jun 16
I can never tell if someone is flirting with me or not, or they are just joking around
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
There are men who would never admit to flirting and would just say they're just joking but one thing I've learned over the years is that joking is always half meant.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
@Drosophila I have very few female friends and have tons of males friends but we always make a rule, no flirting among friends.
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@Drosophila (16573)
• Ireland
23 Jun 16
@toniganzon ya, I talk to guys a lot and have a lot of male friends. In general, I was always surprised when I find out later on they like me. I tend to be quite bad at picking these kinda vibes up
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
you did it professionally, and i believe you did it well.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
In real life, especially when I'm working, I don't flirt at all. Online, I do that a lot but just teasing.
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@ridingbet (66857)
• Philippines
22 Jun 16
@toniganzon i appreciate your being straight-forward, Toni. it is that quality of a person that attracts many friends and acquaintances as well.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
@ridingbet Thank you.
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
22 Jun 16
Good that he understood- I'm not flirting much theee days- He may be back though---hahaha!
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
lol let's hope he won't.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
24 Jun 16
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@MarymargII (12422)
• Toronto, Ontario
24 Jun 16
@toniganzon Ha ha! you never know---
@Babs0630 (487)
23 Jun 16
Has been awhile since I have flirted. But guys don't seem to take a hint
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
@Babs0630 or they have their brains only in their balls!
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
they're probably stupid Barb!
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@Babs0630 (487)
23 Jun 16
some are just born with no brains
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• Hangzhou, China
6 Aug 16
I also see and know some people around me who like to flirt with others, usually with young ladies. I have some colleagues who do so with those single ladies and vice versa. If it is among colleagues and friends, I think that it is ok. Usually people with sense of humour love it, I discover.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Aug 16
I don't flirt in person but in mylot, i do a lot with close friends as they know it's just our way of joking around each other here.
• United States
5 Mar 17
If someone was not interested in me, I did not continue to flirt with them. I don't flirt with anyone because I'm engaged. I think it's very wrong to continue to flirt with someone after they told you that they're not interested. I would hate it if someone kept flirting with me after I said 'no.'
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
7 Mar 17
That would be annoying.
@shaggin (71665)
• United States
22 Jun 16
Haha well if I am single I like to embarass THEM by flirting with them. Theres a time and place when its funny though. I do not think when you were showing the mother and son around that he should have acted like that.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
He waited actually that the mother was distracted. The custodian was with us as well as his two cousins. He took the chance when we were alone to flirt with me. But then again, I was working and I don't flirt with clients. Too bad, he was good looking!
@OreoBrownie (3755)
• Commerce, Georgia
15 Jul 16
I've had that happen to me a few times in my life but not since I'm as old as dirt.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
16 Jul 16
I don't actually flirt in real life. I just don't feel comfortable doing that. But I do flirt here in mylot but only to those friends who know it's just a joke.
• United States
22 Jun 16
He was not foolish then..that was good he took the hint Toni, but he could not help himself to you lolz Yes, I can take a hint and also give one.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
Me too. I like taking a hint and giving one as well. With a wink! Yeah he was a well educated British man and I appreciated that he was smart enough not to push it lol!
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@ida123 (6206)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
23 Jun 16
yes, you did the right thing friend
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
23 Jun 16
Thanks. I thought so too.
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@lilnana1111 (2305)
• United States
1 Jul 16
I've been married for 38 years, so it's been many years since I flirted with anyone besides my hubby.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
1 Jul 16
That's so sweet.
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@RubyHawk (99423)
• Atlanta, Georgia
26 Jun 16
When you're not interested, it's a good idea to let the person know it and save him from wasting his time. Some would take it as a compliment.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
26 Jun 16
Surely.