My second mom..
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
United States
February 7, 2017 6:04pm CST
When I was young I grew up in 2 different homes. Not because my parents were divorced.. but because I had a mother that didn't care, so a family friend took me in. I split my time between the 2 homes the way a child with divorced parents would. I spent school nights at my mother's and non-school nights at the family friend's.
When I was 12 and finally fed up with my mother's abusive boyfriend, I moved in with the family friend permanently.. until I was 16 and hit a rebellious stage and got kicked out, but that's another story..
The family friend's name was Carol. Sometimes I refer to her as my foster mom, or my second mom, or sometimes I just call her my mom.. because she was more of a mother to me than the woman who brought me into this world.
I do not know who I would be or how I would have turned out if it weren't for Carol. Honestly, I think I probably wouldn't have survived childhood.
Today is the anniversary of Carol's death. She died 10 years ago. It was one of the worst days of my life. I cried for 2 months straight!
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
8 Feb 17
I am so sorry. I am glad you had her in your life when you needed her the most. She sounds like she was a special lady.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
8 Feb 17
@katsmeow1213 everybody has their flaws but she knew you needed somebody and she was their.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
@Happy2BeMe Exactly.. and I think I helped her also.. I gave her a chance at redemption.
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@Happy2BeMe (99399)
• Canada
8 Feb 17
@katsmeow1213 yes you both made a difference in each other lives.
@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
8 Feb 17
So sorry for your loss. I am glad to hear that she welcomed you in and made your life happy.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
She probably saved my life as a child.. I'm sure my mother's neglect would have killed me.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
I have lost many people I've cared about, unfortunately.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
Thank you.. I am glad too. It helped make me the person I am today.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
We did, it took a few years, but we did and had a good relationship again after that.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
10 Feb 17
It wasn't too difficult. Lots of kids do it when their parents separate.
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@JudyEv (325693)
• Rockingham, Australia
8 Feb 17
That is a sad story in some ways. You were certainly lucky to have Carol as a backstop. I'm sorry you have lost her.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
Yeah, it's sad in a lot of ways..
I was lucky to have her, I'm sure if left solely to my mother I wouldn't have survived childhood.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
8 Feb 17
I understand many foster kids are difficult to handle due to the abuse they suffered. I have a friend who adopted 5 kids out of abusive homes, and she has a mess of problems with 3 of the kids. One of the kids ran away and went back to his birth mother, and eventually my friend signed the rights back over to the birth mother. The child is older now, almost an adult..
It takes a lot to be a foster parent..
@TheInvisibleMan (17603)
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8 Feb 17
This experience can be good or bad, depending on who the people are. I'm glad that everything went well for you.
But I'm sorry for you lost.
