Gone from my mind

@JudyEv (118538)
Bunbury, Australia
February 24, 2017 9:11pm CST
I've been going through some old paperwork and throwing out stuff that is of no interest to anyone but me. Included are some programmes from Music Eisteddfods that we attended back when I was teaching piano in a country town. Because there was no other music teacher I also taught a few other instruments. On three occasions I played in the 'Open Duet' piano section. Obviously in a duet there is a second person and her name is in the programme along with mine for each of those years. And here is the scary part – I have absolutely no recollection of this person. I can't recall her at all, neither her appearance, practising with her, playing at the festivals with her, zilch, nothing. Any similar stories out there so I won't feel so concerned about the state of my memory?
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@jhechorain (1218)
• Susanville, California
25 Feb 17
That is a little scary. I don't know though I mean, I remember very little about my life really. I don't have much to remember as it is but I really don't have many memories...
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
Maybe it was so painful I've forgotten it. :)
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• Susanville, California
25 Feb 17
Yes our brain does do that to us to protect us I guess.
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@AliCanary (1781)
25 Feb 17
I forget stuff like that sometimes--the weirdest part was how I completely forgot going to the Empire State Building with my husband on one of our trips to NYC. (I do vaguely remember the amazing art deco-style elevator doors, but only after he reminded me that we went, and even then, I don't remember anything else). The weird part is that he remembers, and he is usually the forgetful one!
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
This was a once-off (or three times off!) and important at the time so it seems odd I have no recollection at all.
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@allknowing (61550)
• India
25 Feb 17
Such significant events and they have all been wiped out of your memory. With an active mind like yours this is not something that could be considered normal. I am not frightening you but I just could not ignore this.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
If I hadn't come across the programmes it would never have worried me! because I wouldn't have known I'd forgotten!
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@allknowing (61550)
• India
25 Feb 17
@JudyEv Positive attitude as always Judy. I like that
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@TheHorse (62072)
• Pleasant Hill, California
25 Feb 17
Well, I sometimes get former students mixed up.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
This isn't just mixed up - this is no memory at all. Mind you, it was a long time ago.
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@TRBRocks420 (73591)
• Banks, Oregon
25 Feb 17
Hmm not quite like that, but I have certainly forgot things. I should probably remember.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
It just seems a bit strange.
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@Hatley (164757)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Feb 17
maybe some thibg happened back there that sort of gave your mind s0me sort of amnesia that has kept you from remembering her at all.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
It could have I guess. It was a bit of a stressful time in some ways.
@much2say (38683)
• United States
25 Feb 17
What if you got on the piano and started playing the music you played . . . maybe that will trigger some kind of memory of this person? Well recently, one of the co-instructors at the kids' tae kwon do studio was telling me about one of his ex-girlfriends . . . the one that I knew. I knew her? I couldn't recall anything about her even though he told me her name and described her. The way he described her looks, I couldn't have forgotten such a person. But he insists I did meet on on several occasions but at the old studio. (EEK - I don't remember her at all !)
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
Probably it was much more important to him than to you!
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@much2say (38683)
• United States
26 Feb 17
@JudyEv Probably so. Or maybe he's getting mixed up with me and some other person who actually knew her - I don't know! I'm usually quite good at remembering people!
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@Tampa_girl7 (24902)
• United States
25 Feb 17
That occasionally happens to me.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
That's good - if you know what I mean! It's nice not to be the only one.
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@Tampa_girl7 (24902)
• United States
26 Feb 17
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@moffittjc (41170)
• Gainesville, Florida
25 Feb 17
A few months ago I ran into a woman who came running up to me to give me a big hug. She was so excited to see me and couldn't believe it had been so many years since we'd last seen each other. I had no idea who she was, and when I asked her "Do I know you?" she got really upset. She said, "How could you not remember me? We dated for five years!" I was completely embarrassed that I had no recollection of her, but I faked my way through the conversation just to make her feel better. But I walked away scratching my head...I truly had no idea who that woman was! lol
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
Maybe you have a doppelganger somewhere. A woman greeted Vince very warmly once thinking it was her brother! so he must REALLY look like someone else. In your case, it must have been a memorable relationship - NOT.
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@moffittjc (41170)
• Gainesville, Florida
26 Feb 17
@JudyEv The thing that upset me most about not remembering her was the fact that she was absolutely beautiful! One of the most beautiful women I have ever seen! So not only was I upset that I couldn't remember her, but I was also upset that I let someone so beautiful get away! haha And of course, as soon as I said "Do I know you?" it ruined any chance of ever reconnecting with her!
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
27 Feb 17
@moffittjc Are you sure she didn't know you at all but thought you were really a hunk and came up with this line? I suppose she wouldn't have walked away if it were like that. You'll know better next time won't you?
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@Jessicalynnt (47791)
• Centralia, Missouri
27 Feb 17
um not offhand, but then again, I've moved so much, and lost almost EVERYTHING from my childhood, so I dont have old things anymore.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
27 Feb 17
Wait till you're much older - then you'll have more to forget. :) I'm sorry you've lost so much from your childhood although I don't have much left either, now I come to think of it.
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• Centralia, Missouri
1 Mar 17
@JudyEv some of it I sorely miss, some I dont even care about
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@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb 17
You have not mentioned when did you participate in the programme, how many years ago? If it is more than 10-15 years, then you need not worry about your co-performer. Our mind has limited memory, so some of the people, events or things vanish from our memory.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
It was around 1982/83 so a long time ago.
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@dpk262006 (56109)
• Delhi, India
26 Feb 17
@JudyEv It means you are talking about an event which happened around 35 years ago. It is very difficult to remember something which happened so many years ago, so don't worry your memory is intact.
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@BelleStarr (36949)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Feb 17
I bumped into an old friend in a store who I have known for 40 years but hadn't seen in 10 and when they said hi I just looked at him blankly, even when he told me who he was, I didn't recognize him, I don't believe anyone could have changed that much but I really had no idea who he was, the name I knew, the face not at all!!
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
Some of my old classmates have changed so much it is like meeting strangers. It's quite a weird feeling.
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@BelleStarr (36949)
• Portland, Connecticut
26 Feb 17
@JudyEv I still haven't recovered, I must have looked like a looney, I just stared.
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@sueznewz2 (9648)
• Alicante, Spain
25 Feb 17
I can't remember what happened in the drama I watched last night... lol I hope that helps.. but don't worry too much... we all having something we have totally forgotten.. my brothers often say to me.. do you remember when we.... etc etc... and usually the answer is .. no I don't ....
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
Now I'm pretending she doesn't remember me either! :)
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@sueznewz2 (9648)
• Alicante, Spain
26 Feb 17
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• United States
25 Feb 17
There are days I look at my husband and can't recall him - just joking!
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• United States
25 Feb 17
@JudyEv Interesting - Just 1/2 hour ago I came out of the shower and said, "I feel like a new woman"
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@LadyDuck (146886)
• Switzerland
25 Feb 17
Do not worry for the state of your memory Judy, this happens to me too. I remember almost all my teachers, except one. I suppose I did not like her so much.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
It seems very strange. I wonder if she has completely forgotten me too.
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@LadyDuck (146886)
• Switzerland
25 Feb 17
@JudyEv It is very possible, when there is no feeling with someone, you forget about that person.
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 17
Perhaps she was not as talented as you so you have erased her from your memory!
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
25 Feb 17
It is more likely that she was more talented than me so I have erased her from my memory!
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@garymarsh6 (13204)
• United Kingdom
25 Feb 17
@JudyEv I don't believe that for a moment you have a passion!
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@teamfreak16 (40499)
• Colorado Springs, Colorado
26 Feb 17
I get Facebook requests from people that I obviously went to high school with or grew up with, and I cannot remember them at all.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
27 Feb 17
At our high school reunions there are some I have no recollection of but mostly they are the boys who came for the last two years and did totally different subjects to me so I feel there is some excuse there.
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• Eugene, Oregon
26 Feb 17
My wife could relate, I think, but I am blessed (or cursed) with a mindful of trivia like that.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
It was a long time ago so I'm hanging on to that thought as my justification.
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• United States
26 Feb 17
I have chunks of memories that have vanished. I believe that it is a part of time where I was having many problems that I do not want to remember. So, the good, bad, or anything in between are gone with the wind. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
That could be the case. We had other problems going on around this time.
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• United States
26 Feb 17
If it was the same person all three times it is unusual that you have forgotten her. Something may jog your memory.
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@JudyEv (118538)
• Bunbury, Australia
26 Feb 17
Perhaps she's forgotten me too. :)
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