She is With Us Now!

United States
March 28, 2017 8:32am CST
Yesterday was a very difficult day for me. My husband was present for support. Thankful that he was there. I know my daughter wasn't happy with the outcome, but that is not my concern. My granddaughter is the one I worry about most. It will be a long transition for the little one. Getting her to sleep in her own bed is proving to be one of the biggest problems. Also finding a daycare that will accept subsidy, and will take her now because she is under the age of 2 and considered an infant until she turns two. I do have one day care that will take her in April when she turns two. However, that doesn't help me now. I may need to take family leave for the next two weeks. I do have some earned time that I can use so it could be done. Right now she is trying to help me with this discussion. Her little fingers keep tapping the keyboard and using the mousepad. Too smart for her own britches. So, please bear with me as I adjust to this new lifestyle. Thank you for all of your support.
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@Happy2BeMe (75120)
• Canada
28 Mar 17
I am glad that she is there with you. Everything will fall into place. It will just take a bit of time to adjust to your new lifestyle.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I hope I find that second wind soon! She is a handful. Love her to bits though.
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@Happy2BeMe (75120)
• Canada
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly Yes they do have lots of energy at that age but you will adjust. Just takes time.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@Happy2BeMe She is napping now. I probably should do the same, but I have housework to do and that can't be done with a toddler underfoot.
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@Morleyhunt (19894)
• Canada
28 Mar 17
Having the care of a two year old will be a big transition. Stay strong. You know what your doing is the right thing.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I wouldn't have her go with anyone else. She is secure here and well loved. It is tiring though, I will tell you that!
@Jessicalynnt (47895)
• Centralia, Missouri
28 Mar 17
I am glad you all were able to get her, I hope you were able to work out logistics in the home well. Being home while she settles in might not be bad, could get your yard in order and spend some time with her while she adjusts. as for her mom, she made her choices, as you say, she can be whatever, she is an adult.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
Hoping to get the spare room cleaned out and get it set up for her bedroom. That will be a huge undertaking. My husband will need to assist with that one. Most of the stuff in there is his.
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• Centralia, Missouri
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly well, I guess that is incentive to clean, lol!
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• United States
30 Mar 17
@Jessicalynnt I'll start it on Friday. We are supposed to get almost 10 inches of snow. Yay.
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@UncleJoe (10308)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
28 Mar 17
I love my grand children and there's nothing I wouldn't do to fulfill their needs. My problem is usually with their parents. They have no right to drag us into problems they created.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I felt that we needed to step up to the plate and take over where our granddaughter is concerned. She is the innocent one in all of this mess. I would rather she be with us than with strangers.
@UncleJoe (10308)
• Virginia Beach, Virginia
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly Oh, I agree. I didn't say I wouldn't help my innocent grand kids. I was just saying that my own children have no right to impose their mistakes on us. I had to take care of my own problems and never expected my parents to help with anything. I didn't have the right to put my problems on them because they already had enough of their own.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@UncleJoe they do assume that we are their parents and we should pull them out of the muck and mire. Well, I will be there to help when they are through it. I'll nudge them along.
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@LadyDuck (164044)
• Switzerland
28 Mar 17
You will need some time to adjust to this new situation. Good luck, it's not easy to take care of a young girl not even two years old.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I have forgotten how much energy they have. Little one is napping right now.
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@LadyDuck (164044)
• Switzerland
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly They move all the time, it would be great if we had at least the half of the energy they have.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@LadyDuck I would even settle for a quarter of it!
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• Pamplona, Spain
28 Mar 17
Very smart little Girl and it sounds like she will adapt to you both very well. Wishing you all the best with her in your lives.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
Thank you. She is a quick learn. Of course kids often do better with technology than most adults.
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• Pamplona, Spain
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly I bet you she will be teaching you all about those things on Iphones and on the Smart Televisions and all the applications.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@lovinangelsinstead21 she has her own little tablet and watches her favorite shows on it.
@melissa1024 (2369)
• Beckley, West Virginia
28 Mar 17
I am sure everything will work out just fine for you and everything will fall right in place. If you ever need a listening ear I am here for you.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I keep taking deep breaths and relaxing when I can.
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• Beckley, West Virginia
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly Great! I will all work out!
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• United States
28 Mar 17
Hope things work out for you
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• United States
29 Mar 17
Taking it a day at a time.
@DianneN (79947)
• United States
29 Mar 17
I'm so very happy for you all!!!!!
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• United States
30 Mar 17
Thank you. It is a lot of fun having her here.
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@DianneN (79947)
• United States
4 Apr 17
@ElusiveButterfly I'm so happy for you! Hugs!!!
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• United States
4 Apr 17
@DianneN Thank you. Every day is a new challenge. But, it is how you face those challenges that count. We smile and get through the hiccups.
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@shaggin (37049)
• United States
29 Mar 17
That is cute I used tell my daughter the letters to type and she would find them and type for me. It was a very long process but she enjoyed it and I loved anything that got her learning and made her happy. Is your granddaughter living with you now permanently?
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• United States
29 Mar 17
It may become permanent depending on what happens with her mother. If the state finds her unfit to care for her, she will remain with us.
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@shaggin (37049)
• United States
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly how sad I do not know much of what is going on but I hope she can get better to be able to get her child back.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@shaggin I hope so too. Until that time comes she will be here with us.
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@Gillygirl (17340)
• Sutton, England
28 Mar 17
I'll always be available if you want to talk. I hope the transition will be smooth for you. She sounds a clever kid.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
Oh she is quite clever. She has learned how to push buttons when needed. She just woke from her nap. Full of smiles. Love that lil gal so much.
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@Gillygirl (17340)
• Sutton, England
29 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly She sounds a real sweetie,
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• United States
29 Mar 17
@Gillygirl she is a delight.
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@Courtlynn (65088)
• United States
30 Mar 17
I hate how some daycares wont take kids under 2. My cousins have had the same problem with their kids and daycares. Enjoy the little one and life.
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• United States
30 Mar 17
The money will be tight for the next two weeks. We are expecting our state taxes back soon so that will help. That is the downside of all of this. We truly weren't prepared. But, it was an emergency situation and we did what we had to do. The daycare providers can only have so many infants in their care without having to hire another person. Once they turn 2 they are considered toddlers.
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@Courtlynn (65088)
• United States
30 Mar 17
@ElusiveButterfly i know. But still. Infants need daycare too.
@RubyHawk (27042)
• Atlanta, Georgia
30 Mar 17
I wish you all the luck in the world. I'm afraid you'll need it. I hope you get the help you need.
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• United States
30 Mar 17
Waiting to hear back from a daycare that may have an opening for an infant. Not sure I want her to go there though.
• Midland, Michigan
30 Mar 17
Well, I'm glad that it worked out. Did your daughter think the state would relinquish her daughter back to her in the near future? To my knowledge when they step in in that manner she'd have to show she was changing before they'd give her child back to her. I'm glad it worked out for you even though you didn't think about who'd be watching her while you were working. Maybe some of your friends at work know of babysitters that aren't too expensive?
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• United States
30 Mar 17
The state is paying for her daycare and they need to be registered or licensed. The only one that can possibly come to our home isn't that dependable. She has health issues that keep her in bed at the drop of a hand.
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@BelleStarr (39069)
• United States
29 Mar 17
I pretty much raised my oldest grandson (my son got custody and worked and went to nursing school) after I adjusted it was the best years of my life when he lived with me. Kids are very resilient especially at this age and they respond well to love and a normal life. I am sending hugs
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• United States
30 Mar 17
Once we get her adjusted to sleeping alone it won't be so rough on us. She has slept with her mother since birth. She also had odd sleeping habits due to her mother keeping her up until 12-1 on any given day. She slept later too. Now to get that one switched before I go back to work. Life sure is different with her here. We are loving every minute.
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
29 Mar 17
I am glad you are able to care for your granddaughter.
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• United States
30 Mar 17
We are as well.
@Juliaacv (31306)
• Canada
29 Mar 17
I'm relieved to read this discussion. And I hope that your daughter seeks out the help that she needs so that she can be a good Mom again. In the meantime, enjoy your granddaughter.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
We are enjoying her company. She is quite a little spitfire though and keeps us on our toes. Thankfully Grampy chases after her when I am down for the count.
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@Hatley (164629)
• Garden Grove, California
28 Mar 17
You are a wonder taking oh the care of that sweet little granddaughter and having to get leave to do itl HOpe it all works out for you all. So under two is considered infant that is interesting I learn here everyday.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
I guess it is the term used by licensing regulations where the daycare is concerned. I consider her a toddler.
@Kandae11 (38752)
28 Mar 17
Hope that everything works out fine.
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• United States
29 Mar 17
Thank you. I am sure it will be okay eventually.
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@Susan2015 (21059)
• United States
2 Apr 17
There will be an adjustment time but sure that you will do wonderfully.