No baby sitters here
By bonnie
@bunnybon7 (50973)
Holiday, Florida
April 22, 2017 8:08pm CST
So, being disabled as I am, I almost need a baby sitter myself, so all I can manage is to talk to and play with the 2 yrs. old here very briefly . Which I do if she manages to come to my room at times, yet she does not mind very well. If you keep her from having what she wants, she insists and throws a fit . she won't walk peacefully out, so its either drag her or pick her up, neither easy for me. Usually they come and take her out.
My daughter works a lot and from time to time will carry her around and watch her a bit when home, but then the 2 yrs. don't want to let her go into her room so cries when my daughter gets tired and returns her.
Probably what started the whole disagreement a few days ago was because I was in my room making my bed, daughter was in the kitchen getting coffee and 2 yr. came in my room.because daughter would not pick her up because if you do she will scream and cry when you put her down. Just making my bed is a hard task for me and I decided to put 2 yr out and close my door. I finished making the bed and plopped down exhausted but heard the little one in the bathroom talking and I honestly thought her mom must be in there. I came out and said "are you in there with her?" guess what? no, mom came out of her room and my daughter had been in hers not wanting to get "stuck" as she called it cause she was tired from work. so 2 yr had been playing in the sink or maybe the toilet? and had soap and stuff in her hair and some toilet paper etc.
Her mom was pretty mad as though she had expected my daughter was watching her. Like I told her though, if they are very quiet for long you need to see what they are up to. lol. So now both was mad because we did not feel we should baby sit. not always be doing that with grandkids you know? sure if you don't work a lot or are not barely able to do for yourself of course you will baby sit. even then not all the time. I went through it and had to learn with mine at 19 yrs with 3 babies. and had no one to baby sit at all. did not even want one to baby sit. and yes sometimes they got into stuff. but not often. of course there was no face book back then or cell phones to watch youtube on. lol. maybe that started the mess in this house?
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
23 Apr 17
Isn't that the mother/parent's responsibility to look after her own child? It's kind of you to do it from time to time but the litttle girl is not your responsibility, especially when you are not 100% well yourself. And should the little girl be taught some manners?
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
yes and the problem is she was more managable when she came. its almost as though someone expected to let her be a bit spoiled and in this house it does not work out well to have a spoiled one. plus, i sadly admit that i think daughter started it by being so happy to have a grandchild at first. but then grandmas always spoil and take up for the child it is the parents place to make politely sure it doesn't effect them. i say politely because grandson has a habit of loosing his cool with his own mom. which i don't appreciate myself.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
@atoz1to10 oh yes i blame it on both of them . one for not watching her and one for (actually both) spoiling her. into thinking whatever she gets into or does is okay. i am sorry, i don't believe in abusing a child but i do believe in spanking to sting, not to injure but so they will remember what is good and wrong
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@atoz1to10 (6781)
• Australia
23 Apr 17
@bunnybon7 In my culture there is a saying about if a child is bad, blame it on the mum and if the grandchild is bad, then blame it on the grandma... Just hope that she, the little girl, will not be a handful for you all the time... 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
not if you are young and not tired from work. which either of us were not. daughter is usually tired from work and i am usually having a rough day on my own
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
17 Oct 17
yes today they don't seem to worry as much as we did about our kids safety
@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 17
Why were you watching this child and not the parents?
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@celticeagle (159105)
• Boise, Idaho
23 Apr 17
@bunnybon7 ......It's sad that people have kids and don't care of them. I took off when young and went on the road for awhile but, when I got back I took responsibility. I got a job and took care of my daughter. My mom watched her while I was at work and I paid her for doing so.
I hope you get to see all the tv shows you missed. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
@celticeagle been working on it but so many years there. probably never see them all but fun catching up
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
not much but sometimes she comes out of their room to run around as she should. but her mom should keep an eye on what she is doing. as i did when mine were little. she sometimes comes in my room even if i say no go to mom. but thats okay as long as she would listen i don't mind so much. but she screams if you don't let her have what she wants, so her mom needs to be attentive of what she is doing. i don't like to have to keep my door closed completely all the time especially when daughter is home to come visit me and keep an eye on me. living here like this is just not really good for any. young people today have their own thing like facebook, etc. and often just let the little ones do whatever. it is different then when i was young. most of my day was taken up playing with and watching kids. its why in my old age now i am just catching up with so many tv programs and things i missed back then. lol the kids always watched what they wanted till after 9 pm.
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
26 Apr 17
It is often amazing how the younger generations take advantage of family members at times. I shamefully admit that I did this with my older boys and my mama. 
I wish I could take it all back now.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
19 Oct 17
@Shellyann36 don't stress it. we all have those kind of regrets
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Oct 17
some young people just never got experience before having their own kids i think. i made this post back when i didn't understand all that. see myself, i got experience long before i had my kids. I took care of a lot of my younger cousins at age nine. as a teen, i often had to make some of my school clothes money babysitting . so don't feel bad. you didn't realize
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@Shellyann36 (11385)
• United States
19 Oct 17
@bunnybon7 No, I had no idea back then but I sure see it now and I am so ashamed that I let it happen.
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@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
4 May 18
I'm not a parent (let alone a grandparent), but I'm an uncle. The only difference between Uncle & Grandpa that I can see (other than 'age' 
) is 'responsibility' (i.e. whether-or-not the kid is partially-"your fault" 
).
When the kid isn't 'your fault,' you don't care as much if they hurt themselves. It's like they're "a neighbor's kid"---you obviously don't want them to hurt themselves, and might even call out "Be careful!"; but if the kid isn't careful-enough and does something to hurt themselves, it's not your fault.
) is 'responsibility' (i.e. whether-or-not the kid is partially-"your fault" ).
When the kid isn't 'your fault,' you don't care as much if they hurt themselves. It's like they're "a neighbor's kid"---you obviously don't want them to hurt themselves, and might even call out "Be careful!"; but if the kid isn't careful-enough and does something to hurt themselves, it's not your fault. 
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
4 May 18
thats very funny but my point was that young people or folks with small kids under 6 yrs. need to not be on their phone or pc and watch their kids. when the kids are up and not asleep or at least in a play pen or bed that keeps them safe@mythociate (21437)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 May 18
@bunnybon7 But who watches over them better than the glowing picture-box? 
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
27 Apr 17
Sounds like lack of responsibility. Why stick up for someone like that without helping them to see, be a little bit more respoibl e from now on.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 17
yes we have discussed it now a couple of times and she seems to be more watchful now
@epiffanie (11326)
• Australia
26 Apr 17
Oh yes indeed, kids that age need to be supervised all the time... lucky she didn't fall into the toilet upside down... anything could happen so the mother should have kept an eye on her baby..
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
27 Apr 17
true. i do know they get away sometimes but she should not have assumed someone was watching her especially in the kitchen right next to her room when there was no noise in there.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
exactly. why did she not ask daughter if she was watching? instead of just assuming she was. lol
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
yes and i do realize they do things whether or no. everyone needed not to get so upset about it and at least should have chatised the child so she would know it was wrong.
@PatZAnthony (14752)
• Charlotte, North Carolina
24 Apr 17
It seems many parents are distracted these days with all the nonsense in this world.Things have really changed since you were raising children @bunnybon7
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 17
for sure. makes you realize what is happening with society
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Oct 17
i know. so many do that these days.
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
25 Apr 17
yes i know it must be hard in this small house but no way to avoid until they decide to move on their own place
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@chrissbergstrom (10767)
• Banks, Oregon
23 Apr 17
Watching kids is difficult especially those as young as two yo have to keep an eye on them always as just leaving for a minute they can cause trouble, when my nephew was young when I was watching him I had to go to the bathroom so I made him a peanut butter jelly sandwich turned on cartoons and gave him some juice.... When I returned from the bathroom which was only a few minutes time I came out to see he had dumped his juice on the dog and the jelly and peanut butter was smeared onto the couch....
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@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
23 Apr 17
yes and he was probably quiet the whole time. worst part is when like myself and you have to take them with you and just make them sit and look at a book or toy or something. when they was little i often had to do that until they got old enough to be inquisitive , then i had to just tell them how much trouble they would be in if they did anything or moved and wait if i had to go longer then a minute till dad was home