Not A Pleasant Weekend

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@LadyDuck (122436)
Switzerland
November 19, 2017 7:39am CST
Yesterday evening, while I was preparing dinner, my niece called to tell me that Mom had to be rushed to the ER. I called my brother and he told me she had a stroke late in the morning, he found her unconscious in the house and she had to be hospitalized. Of course we jumped in the car and rushed to Italy to see her. She was sedated, I could only stay there a little time. My brother (who is a doctor) suggested me to go back home because there is nothing I can do now. Mom is 96, she had a long and happy life, I hope she can recover, I do not want to see her paralyzed or in a vegetative state. I am here waiting for news, If you do not see me around you know the reason.
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@Asylum (47338)
• Manchester, England
19 Nov
Somehow it always seems harder to have a family member ill than being ill yourself.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
You are so right Barry. I have not seen her very well, she does not speak and she does not open her eyes. She is not young, the very strange coincidence is that his younger brother has been hospitalized for the same problem last week.
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• Philippines
19 Nov
@LadyDuck is her brother still in the hospital?
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
@hereandthere Yes, his brother is still in the hospital, he is already 94.
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@JudyEv (101131)
• Bunbury, Australia
19 Nov
I am very sorry to hear this. It is a horrible time just waiting for news and not being able to do anything constructive. I'm so sorry. Wishing you and your mother all the best.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you Judy, I wanted to stay there, but it seems I am more a problem than a help. I hope to have news in the next few hours.
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@GardenGerty (91221)
• Marion, Kansas
19 Nov
@LadyDuck Let us know when you can.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
@GardenGerty I am right back from Italy. I have spent many hours with her in the hospital, but she never opened her eyes and she seems not to hear voices. She does not look well at all.
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@topffer (30747)
• France
19 Nov
I am sorry to read that. I had the two legs paralyzed after a stroke this year and I recovered completely, but I am not 96 years old. I hope she will have no sequel. Courage. Keep us informed.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you, I hoe she can recover, but I do not wish her to continue to live if life should become vegetating in a bed. I am waiting for a call from my niece, my brother had to turn off the phone.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
19 Nov
I am so very sorry to hear this about your beloved Mother Anna. I pray for her recovery. It is good your brother is a doctor...
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you very much. My brother is not optimist, mainly due to her age.
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• Lakewood, Colorado
19 Nov
@LadyDuck Yes, understood Anna, tho miracles do indeed happen.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
@TiarasOceanView She is still in red code, but the Italian hospital has no free beds, so she is "parked" in the ER. My brother said not to go there now, not until she has a bedroom.
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@hereandthere (24198)
• Philippines
19 Nov
i'm glad your brother found her and he knows just what to do since he's a doctor. i'm also glad you're close to the border so you could drive over immediately. i'm sure he or your niece will update you immediately when needed.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
My niece keeps me updated every hour. My brother had to turn off the smartphone in the hospital.
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• Philippines
19 Nov
@LadyDuck i'm glad she's there as your go-between. by the way, are you ahead, behind or in the same time zone as your mother?
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
@hereandthere We are in the same time zone.
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@shubhu3 (13557)
• New Delhi, India
19 Nov
I am sorry to hear this. Have faith and stay optimistic. She is recovering, will recover more.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you, I cannot say that I am optimistic, I had a very bad feeling a few days ago.
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@shubhu3 (13557)
• New Delhi, India
20 Nov
@LadyDuck I understand. It will be fine.
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@Courtlynn (51270)
• United States
19 Nov
So sorry to hear this.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you, I know how much you love your Mom, so you can undersand.
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@Courtlynn (51270)
• United States
19 Nov
@LadyDuck yes i do, shes my bestfriend. Wven when we fight.
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@sharon6345 (102237)
• United States
19 Nov
As you say she lived a long life. I would not want my mom in pain or in any way bed ridden. good luck.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you very much, I wish she can recover and be fine, but I do not want to see her suffer.
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@jaboUK (50761)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov
So sorry Anna, I hope she recovers fully. It was a good thing that your brother found her. Thinking of you.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
He always go to see her on Saturday and brings her to his apartment to have lunch together. I am glad he had the key of the house. He does not know when it happened exactly. I had talked to her Friday around 1 pm, he found her Saturday 10 am. He says she did not sleep in her bed, we suspect it happened Friday in the afternoon.
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@jaboUK (50761)
• United Kingdom
19 Nov
@LadyDuck So she could have been like that for quite a while. I hope she didn't know much about it. It's a worrying time for you.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
@jaboUK For what my brother says, she was not conscious. I hope he is right, poor Mom waiting all the night to be helped.
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@marlina (62543)
• Canada
19 Nov
So sorry to read this about your Mom. Best wishes and keep your hopes up.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
I keep my hopes, but she is no more young, it's a depressing moment.
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@marlina (62543)
• Canada
21 Nov
@LadyDuck I know how you feel. Been through with those moments with my Dad and Mom too.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
21 Nov
@marlina No matter how old they are, you cannot accept that it's the end.
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@Happy2BeMe (69989)
• Canada
19 Nov
I am so sorry to hear this Anna. I hope she recovers from the stroke. I will keep her in my prayers. I hope you hear something soon.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
I had news a few minutes ago, she is still in the ER, but she will be moved to a single room soon. I have been unable to see her today, I go to Italy tomorrow.
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@Happy2BeMe (69989)
• Canada
19 Nov
@LadyDuck glad you finally received some news. Hope things are improving for her.
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@louievill (16341)
• Philippines
19 Nov
I could only wish the best outcome for all of you, I could understand your feeling not to see her a vegetable at her age but I still wish for a miracle.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
We can never know, it's not yet the time to be pessimistic, we can always hope for a miracle.
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@louievill (16341)
• Philippines
20 Nov
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@Platespinner (18579)
• Winston Salem, North Carolina
19 Nov
I'm so sorry to hear that, Anna. Praying for the best!
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
There is not a lot we can do now, she is in the hands of the doctors. I hope she is not in pain.
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@ridingbet (38080)
• Philippines
20 Nov
i hope she is fine now, but reading the last statement of your discussion, i am thinking otherwise. living for 96 years is more than enough for somebody to enjoy life at its fullest. nonetheless, i hope she will still recover.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
I am waiting from news from my niece. I will go to Italy today to see her, as you say, she had a long and beautiful life, I do not want to see her in a bed like a vegetable.
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@ridingbet (38080)
• Philippines
21 Nov
@LadyDuck won't she be staying in your house if ever she is stuporous?
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
21 Nov
@ridingbet She must stay in the hospital now, she cannot be moved. No, she cannot come here, because I live in another country and she has not the authorization to live in Switzerland. Not to mention that she has the medical assistance in Italy. At most she could be moved in my brother's apartment, but not now, she is in coma.
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@rebelann (32501)
• El Paso, Texas
19 Nov
My prayers go out to you and your family, I hope she recovers without any kind of paralysis.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
She has lived a long life, I do not ask to see her live longer if she had to stay immobilized in a bed.
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@rebelann (32501)
• El Paso, Texas
20 Nov
That is understandable @LadyDuck I did not want that for my mom either.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
21 Nov
@rebelann I have been to Italy yesterday to visit her in the hospital. She is in a comatose state, I hope that they will not insist to keep them alive attached to the machines, there is no reason to do this.
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@much2say (35427)
• United States
19 Nov
I am sorry to hear this about your mother. Hoping for the best for her that she will recover from this. Keeping you and her in my thoughts today.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
Thank you very much, tomorrow I go to the hospital, I hope they will let me see her by tomorrow.
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@much2say (35427)
• United States
19 Nov
@LadyDuck I hope you will be able to see her too.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
@much2say I have seen her, but she is not conscious. She keeps her eyes closed all the time and has no reactions to the voices and even to the touch. My brother now goes there.
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@Kandae11 (27242)
19 Nov
Sorry to hear that news about your mom. Mine is my best friend, and I'd probably collapse if I got news about anything bad happening to her.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
I knew something was wrong when I called and she did not reply to the phone. I am so stressed now.
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• Philippines
19 Nov
@LadyDuck i was about to ask about that because i know you call her weekly and at the same time.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
19 Nov
@hereandthere I called her every single day, not weekly, always around noon. If she was not at home because she went to my brother's house she called me to let me know.
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@snowy22315 (34427)
• United States
19 Nov
Oh I am sorry to hear that..It's in God's hands now.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
So true, she is in God's hands and I do not want the doctors to keep her alive artificially.
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@poehere (17879)
• French Polynesia
20 Nov
I am so sorry to hear this Anna. I hope your mom will recover and be fine. It is hard to lose a parent no matter how old they are. I am thinking of you and hoping for the best. She is in good hands, your brother is there watching over her.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
I am glad that my brother is a doctor. He can understand how serious the problem is, he will be the one who decides what is better for her.
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@poehere (17879)
• French Polynesia
20 Nov
@LadyDuck I know this is so hard. When my dad was so sick my mom called each one of us. He was on life support and this is not what he wanted. She told us she had to take out the feeding tube because he asked. I said you know mom he has suffered for so long. Please make him happy in the end and don't force him to go on if it is his time to go. Your brother loves your mom and he doesn't want to see her suffer either. He will do all he can for her and make her so comfortable. I'm sure he'll call you to go back to the hospital if there is nothing more he can do. I just hope she will wake up and be fine. It is so hard when one of your parents is sick an you have no idea if they will be fine or not. I know you wnt the best for her and she is getting the best help from your brother right now. Maybe tomorrow you can go and spend a bit of time with her. I know she'd like that.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
@poehere My husband will drive me there in a few minutes, people are allowed to enter the hospital starting 1 pm, I will stay as long as they let me there.
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@pgntwo (21767)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
19 Nov
Oh dear! 96 is a good length of time to live - I hope she is not immobilized for long by the stroke.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
She would have turned 97 in 3 weeks. If she has to stay immobilized in a bed, I prefer to see her go, because this is what she would ask if she could speak.
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@pgntwo (21767)
• Derry, Northern Ireland
20 Nov
@LadyDuck I have read some of the comments here, sounds like recovery may be slow. I am thinking of you and your mom.
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@LadyDuck (122436)
• Switzerland
20 Nov
@pgntwo I have seen her today in the hospital. I cannot get off my mind what I have seen. I am so depressed tonight.
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