What's in a name?

@AmbiePam (85734)
United States
March 13, 2018 6:13pm CST
I don't know if you can tell from my past posts, but I'm proud of my parents. I was thinking the other day about a situation that really impressed me when I heard the story. So, my dad is one of 16 children (no twins, & one died right before turning 2). They were hard workers to an extent I cannot describe. I'm the mid 1970s when my dad went to college he needed to get a job close to his school. He got a Pell grant, and a part scholarship, but he had no other way to pay. Since two of his other brothers had worked for Wonder Bread, he decided he'd apply at the same facility. So when he called to set up an interview they asked his name. He told them. The person doing the hiring said, "Wait, I recognize that last name. Are you the brother of Larry and Albert?" My dad confirmed he was, and the guy told him there was no need for an interview. If he was their brother he knew he'd be getting a hard worker. He gave him the day and time of the first day they expected him. I just think that says a lot. That someone need only know your last name, what kind of family you come from, and it's good enough to land a job. I never wanted to do anything to sully my parent's name. What's funny is when I went to college I got a phone call from a woman who I knew of, but had never met. She and her husband had attended the same church as my parents for awhile. The woman heard I was starting college early (at 16), and her own daughter was due to start college that fall. Keep in mind, I had never met any of them. But the woman wanted to know if I would be her daughter's roommate in the dorms because she really needed her to room with someone who would be a good influence on her. I thought that was so funny. I guess she assumed any child of my parents would turn out to be a good influence.
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@JudyEv (326278)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Mar 18
You have every reason to be proud of your parents and I can understand how you would never want to do anything to spoil their good name.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
14 Mar 18
Yes. I just can't put into words how much I admire them. I can at least rest assured when my mom left this earth she knew without a doubt, how I felt about her.
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@JudyEv (326278)
• Rockingham, Australia
14 Mar 18
@AmbiePam It is really something to have no regrets when you lose a parent - to be happy that you said when you wanted to say and didn't just think it and keep it to yourself.
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@GardenGerty (157692)
• United States
14 Mar 18
How great. A little bit of the opposite happened in my life. My first husband was one of five boys. We bought a car before getting married and needed to insure it. My dad called his insurance agent and said I was marrying one of the H_________ boys. Last name omitted you might have met the family in Spencer. The agent asked "which one" and said if it was B_________ he would not insure us, cause he had too many tickets.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
14 Mar 18
Oh my word. That's pretty bad.
@Tampa_girl7 (49161)
• United States
18 Mar 18
You are truly blessed that your family was so well thought of
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@moffittjc (118625)
• Gainesville, Florida
18 Mar 18
Wow, that is a great story! You should be very proud of your family and their strong work ethic. I have always believed in having a strong work ethic, and it is something I am trying to instill in my kids. I work at a municipal parks and recreation department, and my daughter applied to be a summer camp counselor at the city I work out (I work in a different division). One of my co-workers saw her application and came and told me she was going to hire her, because if she was half the worker I was, she'd be getting a great employee. I told her my daughter would work even harder than I do! (I hope I was telling the truth...this will be my daughter's first job)
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
19 Mar 18
That's so cool! She should feel pretty proud about that.
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@moffittjc (118625)
• Gainesville, Florida
19 Mar 18
@AmbiePam She's pretty humble, but I am pretty proud of that! haha
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• Midland, Michigan
30 Mar 18
My parent's instilled in us a good work ethic, but my dad was brought up thirty miles away and the name wasn't that common back then. My mom was brought up in a big family and many in town know them, but we didn't tell people we were related to that side of the family when we were still growing up. I think that more of the kids of the baby boomers probably had better work ethics than many kids do these days and that may be mainly due to the fact that most moms back then stayed at home to raise their kids. Kids can still be trained if both parent's work outside the home, but the training has to start early and many don't think about it until it's too late. It's great that so many people had high regard for your family name.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
30 Mar 18
I think you are right about the work ethic. And things were harder then, and I think each generation wants better for their kids. But better doesn't mean let people do what they want when they want. As each generation comes along, it feels like I'm general, less effort is given. But maybe that's just me.
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• Midland, Michigan
3 Apr 18
@AmbiePam some patents try to be less strict than how they were raised which can backfire and you find out too late. If parents try to do the best they can that's all that matters and it's hard to know looking from the outside in.
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@Hannihar (129600)
• Israel
30 Mar 18
@AmbiePam So how did it work out being roommates with the girl? Yes if a name has a good reputation then the person applying for a job or something else will get the job possibly.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
30 Mar 18
I didn't room with her. The college paired people up without anyone's input.
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@Hannihar (129600)
• Israel
1 Apr 18
@AmbiePam I see.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
14 Mar 18
I have no doubt you are a very good influence... from what I know you are a deeply kind person! Did I tell you the story about my 11 year old in the church play? He was going against an older, more experienced girl for a particular part. This girl has done acting classes most of her life, so I was trying to convince my son he might not get the part. He says to me "Yeah, she has more experience, but I'm a (insert our last name here)" In the end my son got the part! LOL
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
16 Mar 18
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Mar 18
it is funny since often people are not like their parents and many times surprisingly opposite . but i see what you are saying. you can also be judged by reputation . my first housekeeping job many yrs. ago i handed in 50 bucks found in a check out bathroom floor and my honesty got me a letter that got me almost any job i applied for after that . sometimes even if they did not need help right then.
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@toniganzon (72279)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
I know exactly what you mean. I love my parents as well and I've been keeping trying to keep our family name's reputation for so long. Everywhere I go, people would recognise my family name and would remember my father and my father's family. One thing I have to keep up with are the expectations.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
14 Mar 18
That's wonderful.
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@mydanods (6513)
• Nigeria
14 Mar 18
@AmbiePam Very wonderful.
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@BelleStarr (61047)
• United States
21 Mar 18
Well that certainly was a testimonial to your parents and to you.
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
21 Mar 18
I wish I could make my parents as proud as they made/make me. The good thing (one of the good things) about my late mom is that she was always proud of me, no matter what.
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@jstory07 (134743)
• Roseburg, Oregon
18 Mar 18
People usually assume if your parents were good people than you were good to,
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
18 Mar 18
Boy is that not true for my mom's brother! Unfortunately.
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@Juliaacv (48459)
• Canada
14 Mar 18
That's a blessing to come from such well-respected stock. I can tell that you come from a good family, you are so respectful and loving. I know that my maiden name got my husband a job before we were married. And the name Julia Anne is so common in my family, with generations before me, its not just our last name that is well known, its my entire name!
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
14 Mar 18
That's pretty cool!
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@sol_cee (38222)
• Philippines
14 Mar 18
So did you become roommates?
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@AmbiePam (85734)
• United States
14 Mar 18
No. I decided to live at home for awhile since I was just sixteen.
@FayeHazel (40246)
• United States
14 Mar 18
That is a huge family your dad comes from, you have a lot of aunts and uncles. Cool! What a great thing to be known for - your work ethic. And for you, that's an awesome compliment.
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@peavey (16936)
• United States
14 Mar 18
Our family is so diverse neither one of those things would ever happen!
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@snowy22315 (170699)
• United States
14 Mar 18
That is great. The family name must mean alot to you.
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@jaboUK (64361)
• United Kingdom
14 Mar 18
That's great that your name carried that good reputation.
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@Deepizzaguy (95026)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
13 Mar 18
That is a very good story that the good name of your family is reaping some great benefits.
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@mlgen1037 (29886)
• Manila, Philippines
14 Mar 18
Yeah. Sometimes the name gives us the reputation of who and what we are. And the next generations had to keep up with the name, most especially if it had given a good impact to others.
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