Teaching children RESPECT!!!

When I disciplined my children I would warn them first with a question, "do you really want to say/do that?" If they continued, they would get a swat on the butt or if they were mouthy and in my face, I would silence them quickly with a little pop on the mouth when it was wide open and ready to pour out the disrespectful words that they knew shouldn't be spoken. They knew that when that happened I had enough and they had gone too far. The tears would come quickly, but they learned a lesson from it. This was at a time when the kids were taught that abuse was when a parent struck you. My daughter was running her mouth one day after I told her to do a chore. I swatted her on the shoulder (if a fly had been on the spot where I struck it would have shrugged it off and flew away!). She boldly told me that what I did was abuse. My work in the school system required me to call the department of social services quite often regarding children within the school, so I had memorized the number. I told her to call ***-****. She called the number and when they said "SRS", she froze and slammed down the phone. MOM, I thought you gave me the weather phone number. I said, well, you said I abused you, so I gave you the number to call them if you really felt you needed to report me. She laughed and said that she knows I don't abuse her or her siblings. A spank never hurt anything more than one's pride in knowing that you disappointed your parents. It made you try harder not to repeat the act that got you the swat in the first place.

well i would always go by the proverb "charity begins at home". so if you want your child to learn how to respect others you have to create such a surrounding around your child, that is at home. children learn from what they see....so of they see you giving respect to others including them they would alos give you back the same kind of respect! now i hope you understood what i meant!

When I was a child I had a nice healthy fear of my mother. I got spankings when I was bad. I would have never dreamed of talking to my mother the way I hear kids talking to their parents these days. I would have been thrown through the wall or as you said had a few teeth knocked out. I had my mouth washed out with soap before. I am a pretty well adjusted adult. The problem is that parents are pushovers. They are fearful. They don't spank their kids because they are afraid of being called abusive. I will spank my kids - I don't care what Dr. Spock says. He is an idiot. There is a difference between spanking your kid and beating them. You have to show a child who is boss. You can't negotiate with them. And what good is sending them to their room when all their toys are in there? Not every offense is spankable... but come on! Be the adult and take control of the situation. Carlos Mencia was just talking about this same issue. He said take the little brats to the Cuban or Latino neighborhoods and spank your kids. Those people aren't afraid to spank your kids! They will have your back. IT was a really funny sketch... you should check it out.

I don't believe in spanking. I agree that kids are very disrespectful these days, but that is due a lot to their parents not paying attention to them, or letting them do what they want with no consequences. They don't learn that what they are doing is wrong. There are other ways of discipline that work a lot better than spanking. The one thing to do is always have a consequence for the action and make sure the child knows what it is. Also, always, always follow through. If the child thinks they might be able to get away with it this time, they won't learn. Don't let younger children get away with stuff just because "they don't know any better". That is the best time for them to learn.

things were a lot different when I was a kid...I never disrespected my parents or I felt the consequences of my actions. when my kids were small they were treated the same way as my parents did me but my grandkids...now thats a different story. at this point in time its gotten to where if you touch a child in any way to discipline them, its considered child abuse. I don't agree with this!! you can spank a child without beating them! you can teach them without hurting them! we grew up with values and knowing it was wrong to disrespect others so I don't think all the spankings I got when I was a kid have hurt me at all, in fact I'm pretty sure they made me a better adult!

i believe that spanking is the best way in teaching a child what respect is and desciplining too... i do spank my child sometimes i use belt in spanking him if he really commits big mistake... in our place we allow it... in some places there is this welfare department that protects chidren thought here in us we have also welfare department that protects children but they just comes out when the child is really in danger or being hit by a baseball bat or whatever.... then after spanking my child i talk to him and ask him why i spanked him and that i did that because i love him and i want him to learn what is right and what is wrong...

Two of the first words my daughter learned were please and thank you. And, she uses them often. That's why I can't understand how parents can't teach their children basic manners.

oh, yes. i think, though, that this is largely due to the tv shows that we allow them to watch, and maybe, too, the seemingly lack of parental guidance with working parents.

It is the challenge of the new generation that we need to combat. It goes it the changes happening every minute of our lives.

I dont think your children should fear you hitting them. They should fear what you will take away from them or not give them, i.e. christmas toys, no tv, no friends for a week etc. My mom spanked me and I hated it and dont forgive her for it. Im 26 now and know i will never spank my kids. discipline them? ABSOLUTELY but not by hitting them

well we have always spanked in our famliy their is a diffrence between punishing and beating the child. I dont think there is anything wronge with spanking. oh by the way you should watch your lang on here some one might report you for the part about beating the blank out of them people take that talk personal on here.

I always make sure my kids say "please" and "thank you". I always teach them from right from wrong. If I mean business, I mean business. So many parents over indulge their kids and I have been guilty of it to a degree but its changing now. The over indulged kids are disrespectful.

A brilliant idea that I had a couple weeks ago, and it's worked AWESOME for my boys. They're 8 and 4, btw. oO I used to spank them. I used to take their TV away. That didnt' work, because they're too good at occupying themselves otherwise. My brilliant idea: I bought a dry erase board, and drew a line down the center. I put their names on top of each "Column" that I made. Then I taped 5 $1 bills under each name. Each time they got in trouble, they lost a dollar. If they did a chore without having to be told, or only being asked to do it once, then they got a dollar returned. Whatever they had left, was what they got to take to Wal-Mart on Friday. This also includes getting in trouble at school. After school they know if they've gotten in trouble at school, they get a dollar taken. The first week, neither of my boys had any money left. However, we still went to Wal-Mart as planned, and they knew the entire trip that they weren't allowed to buy anything because they were broke!! This week.. it's Wednesday. My oldest has all $5 left. My youngest has $3 left. A HUGE improvement over last week.

Yes, it drives me insane. I'm only 25 and I would never talk to other adults the way I see kids talk. For example... cussing, talking back, rolling eyes, yelling, telling them what to do. What ever happen to just respect and common courtesy. I sure do hope my child grows up with a lot more respect for others then what I see. Just the other day my cousin (13) made a smart remark to me. I didn't tolerate it. I think if more people called kids on their bad behavior and didn't let them get away with it then maybe that could be a start to reversing this horrible trend starting.

i believe in discipline...and i also believe that it should start at home...i was spanked when i was child whenever i'd do something wrong...and i believe it helped me to become who i am now...i totally agree to allowing parents to occasionally spank their children...as the bible says, "spare the rod,spoil the child."

good morning, i am still youg and that i respect my parents.in india we don;t have welfare separtments working so strictly like .still we are having child labour.most of the parents are encoraging the child labour for the rinning of the family.here every one respect to theirs elders and they should

There's really a big difference between spanking and abusing kids. You cn spank your kids just so they'd pay attention to you and what you're trying to say. But I'd rather do time-out.. I believe that the best time to instill disciple and respect is when they're still kids. But I grew up being spanked and I really hated it. I'd rather that my parents talk to me and if I do such a thing again, then maybe I am better with another punishment. I was also not allowed to talk back to my parents which really frustrates me because I feel like I am deprived to express myself. I'd rather that the kids are giving a chance to explain themselves. In a respectful way of course. Not just reasoning out. Like parwnts give them a minute or two to explain.. then that's it. So long as they're heard. At least parents would know what there kids are thinking as well...

When I was still a little girl,my mother seldom spanked me or beat me.And instead,she would have a talk with me,which made me clear about my ever action.Sometimes,when I Did did something seriously wrong,she would spank me,but after doing that,she herself would cry,which made me felt much sorry for my doing.So I would not do that again.When I was educated,my mother would write to me to teach me how to behave myself.Whenever Mom found me doing something unrespectful,she would remind me of this and asked me to behave myself.So I do think Mom is a very wonderful mom. But nowadays,as more and more parents went out of their hometown to make a living,leaving their young babies to be brought up by their grandparents,who pets these children so much and always neglects to discipline them,which make them grow up to be quite unbehave and unrespectful to other persons,even to their own parents or grandparents.I am really very sorry for these children.(:

Yes, I know what you mean. Children are becoming rude day by day and I blame it to the television. But its our fault too that we let them sit unsupervised. It is our responsibility to teach them how to differentiate between right and wrong.

hmmmm.... i think it is a good a idea to spank your kids when they missbehave and are disrepectful. i cant believe people would take away childrens just cause theyre getting spankys when they do deserve it.