Should I have to pay for this gift or not?

I wouldn't pay her in full for the gift. I would explain to your Mom that the reason you didn't take his list is because you really cannot afford what he wants you to get him. Thank her for getting the gift but tell her you cannot pay her for the gift in full. It is up to her if she will take your money and put your name on the gift or just let you do her own thing. I think what they both did is rude an inconsiderate. I think if my mom and borther did that to me I wouldn't get either of them a gift.

No, tell your mother that you were going to buy him something for 50.00, if she want's the 50.00, give it to her and say the gift was from you and your mother. If not, get him a gift card for 20.00, let him call you a cheapskate. Another thing why would your mother tell you he called you a cheapskate, so you will feel bad and buy him something expensive? Make it a 15.00 gift card.

Hell no you shouldn't pay for it!!! Tell your mom too bad shes out for an extra gift!! your brother and your mother are being jerks. If i were you i would take the money your were planning on spending on the both of them together and donate it to a charity and then give them a christmas card and tell them the true meaning of christmas and tell them what wonderful people they are to have "donated" their christmas gifts from you to someone less fortunate. I can not believe their are people like that in the world, no offence to you but they need to learn a lesson!!!

no, i dont think you should pay for the gift. she has no right to go buy a present in your name and then force you to pay for it. and it sounds like your brother is pretty selfish to expect everyone to buy him expensive presents when they can't afford it. how old is he? the $50 gift card is a good idea, but, honestly, maybe you shouldn't even buy him a present to teach him a lesson. but i know that its not the spirit of christmas or whatever to do that...

In my estimation your brother has some real issues. Selfishness being the greatest among them. I am not sure why your mother took it upon herself to purchase an expensive gift for him in your name, I think the clue is in the statement that you would not shop for him...she may have had the issue presented in such a manner that you become the one with the problem in her eyes. I think you should discuss this with your mother explaining your side of this issue and calmly tell her to return the gift she purchased in your name. If she refuses, you can offer the $50.00 you could afford to spend and she can credit herself along with you for the more expensive item. It isn't up to anyone else to decide what your budget will handle when it comes to gift buying, it's up to you and you alone.

i would give the brother....a very big parcel, containing a little smaller parcel with a littler smaller parcel...and so on. every parcel with nice paper. in the last and smallest parcel...he would find a little note.. you are my brother and i love you. and this love you could not compare with any money. have a nice christmas!! perhaps it would be a little awful warning to him.

I don't want to sound mean or nothing but it sounds as if your brother is a spoiled brat! And doesn't care about anything but himself and for your mother to take that into her own hands and buy him something over the amount you requested was rude. I would have a talk to her and tell her not to throw receipts away because when you don't pay for the item she bought that was over $50 she is going to need it and don't let them push you into paying for it by letting you feel guilty because you are no responsible for their actions only your own and since she didn't get your opinion first then If I was you all I would pay is the $50 and tell them the rest is there own to deal with. When one of the people in my family want something that cost more than we usually pay we usually gather together and all will pay on the one gift for the person. They might not get as much but get what they want. Next time don't ask what he wants just get him a Gift card and that will be that andd less problems and gripping. But you shouldn't be made to pay for their asumptions. Tell your brother your aren't a cheap person becuase My limit for my brother is $10 or less sometimes. it all depends on what we have saved and have to spend. And the holidays shouldn't be who can spend the most on what and whom but love and rememberence. Good luck to you becuase you sound like you might have a stubborn family. Good lucka nd best wishes.

I wouldn't pay for it. My brother would have gotten the gift card with 50.00 and he could have added his own money if he wanted something more than that. Your mom is wrong to assume that you would GLADLY pay for something in which you didn't pick out. What happened to it's the thought the counts? I have one of those ungrateful brothers too, he either takes what I give or he gets NOTHING!!! We have one paycheck coming in and it's my son's first Christmas so all of them better feel lucky to get something this year!! LOL Tell you mom thanks but no thanks, get him the gift card and just be done with it. It seems like he's not going to happy with anything you get, so let him pick something out himself with the gift card.

No offense intended but your brother sounds like a self centered spoiled brat to me. I think you ar ebeing very generous and are thinking of him by just wanting to give him a gift. He should be gracious and considered your circumstances and be thankful his sibling thought enough of him to get him something at all. I would go with the gift card and let him pay th edifference if he has such expensive taste.

If I were in this situation, I wouldn't pay for the gift. I wouldn't even take it from my Mother. I'd just give her a funny look, and tell her that she bought it, she could give it to him. If she's your mother, she should understand that you don't have that sort of money to spend on your brother. Christmas isn't a time for demanding what you want, and forcing others to give it to you. That's just down right silly. A gift is supposed to be something from the heart, to show your family, friends, whoever. How much they mean to you. When they go out of their way to try and rope you into something they know you can't do. That's not the reason for the season at all. I couldn't not give my brother something... But that's just me. I really love my kid brother a lot, but I wouldn't let him tell me what I was, or was not going to do. I'd give him the gift card as you were planning, and tell your mother that if she doesn't want to give him whatever it is that she bought from you. That she can just return it to the store, because your gift was already covered.

That's one thing I find about Kids and Christmas these days, is that they seem to think that when they do up a list that it is like a menu and that they should be able to have everything on it. My 2 step daughters are the same we ask them to do us a list of what they would like to have for Christmas, well...you should have seen that thing...Donald Trump would go through the roof...the youngest daughter had XBOX 360, and Wii and she wanted both, not to mention the rest of the stuff on it...the Xbox and Wii alone would have been close to 1000.00 The oldest daughter, She wanted a nintendo ds, and not to mention fifty other things...we sat down and priced the both lists the total....you ready for this.....$6000.00.....we were just BLOWN away, and these 2 know what the value of these things are...they know we don't have a lot of money...but they still think they are getting all this stuff...between the 2 of them we managed to get some of the things and it cost us about 800.00 for the 2 girls...I just hope that on Christmas morning they are not upset and happy with what they got...

I would'nt paay for the gift. You didd not ask her to buy it for you. I would get him a Christmas card and put a $5.00 lottery ticket in it and writte something like "you wanted a game system when I asked you to give me a list for under $50.00 and you just made a list with expensive stuff, so here you go with $5.00 in lottery tickets, you could of got a $50.00 gift card, butt since you want the game system you can take your chances scratching to get enough money or no money."

no, You dont have to pay for the gift, and they have a lot of nerve doing that to you in the first place. They're totally ruining the season by doing what they did. I know you love your mom and brother but they should learn that a gift is supposed to be something out of the goodness of your heart, and this doesnt qualify the category. Just disregard the gift they had bought for themselves. You're not the one who even decided to buy it, so technically its not your gift, well not unless you own up to it. If you still think they deserve a gift, then give them one. :)

Pigglies, I had a similar problem just before Christmas that I posted about here. I certainly do not think that you should pay for this present. It really annoys me that Christmas has gotten to be a "Demand a present" season. I wouldn't have bought him anything, and actually for next year we're putting out the word that we're not buying presents, we're giving money to a local charity instead. Some people are so selfish demanding big expensive presents while there are other people who can't afford the turkey on the table on Christmas day. Makes me sick.

I don't think your mother and especially your brother is reasonable enough. Infact he isn't being reasonable at all. And your mom wasn't being kind too. I think your mom shouldn't have got her involved at all but i think she loves your bro too much blindly. i think you should go ahead and do whatever you feel like with money you were supposed to buy a gift with. Giving it to a charity is excellent idea and it shows how nice human being are who is being treated unfairly. Besides it will teach your brother and mom a lesson too for the future.

Should not pay for that. What your mom should have done was talk to you and ask you if you wanted her to pick something up and you could just pay her back. To assume that you will pay her for it is riduculous! As far as your brother goes, it sounds like he is a little spoiled brat!! He shouldn't think you are cheap for spending no more than $50. Everyone has a budget that they have to live within. Not everyone can afford to by everything. It's the thought not the price tag people!

first off, he's a spoild brat calling you cheap for not getting him something $300 or more. I wouldn't pay, the gift wasn't from you, if your mother wants to say its from you fine...i think your brother deserves a card...and maybe something to teach him how to give...thats the whole point of the holidays, is to give to others, not to get everything you want. your mother is a fool for spioling him and she's going to raise a very rude adult that probably no one would like. what you should do is maybe buy a small gift and give it to toys for tots in the name of your brother, write him a note in the card and tell him, the money you were going to use on his gift you had bought 'several' gifts for children who didn't get ANYTHING for christmas. and tell your mom, that you're not going to pay her one cent. thats not the point of the holidays. with $50, you could buy 5 or more new toys for needy children.

I think that both your mother and your brother are being very rude. I would not pay for the gift at all and if your mother decides that she wants your brother to have the gift then she can pay for it herself and not expect anything in return. I would not buy your brother anything at all! If he is not mature and respectful enough to be thankful for the gift that you buy him, why bother? If anyone called me a cheapskate and was that rude to me I would show his spoiled little butt what it's like to get nothing at all! It sounds like your mother has been giving into him a lot and she's probably the reason that he's like this. If you pay your mother anything at all (and I wouldn't) I would just give her the $50 for the gift or let her return it herself.

i think id be telling your mother that you never said anyting about not getting him a gift you just cannot afford to go all out and spoil his a**

I would do the gift card. If you gave him a gift card for $50, and tell him he can put it towards whatever "Expensive" gift he wants. He shouldn't be so materialistic. Many many people can't even afford $50 for their brother. Me for example, $20 is my limit for my brother. Granted he's only 11 years old. But, I just can't afford to buy what "I" want him to have. Let alone what he would like to have.