My Ceserean Section Nightmare keeps haunting me!

A C-section done when it is needed is quite safe. You have carried you baby for 9 months you are obviosuly attached to him/her and am sure that same passion and love continue. Being unable to deliver normally does not make you a lesser woman or a lesse mother. Enjoy your children and your family!!

what is ceserean section befor you tell us how you have suffered from it

I know what you are talking about. My first one was a normal delivery and I expected my second to be normal too. But it turned out to be a C-section. The first question people ask is normal or C and then they look at you as if having a C-section is some undesirable thing. I'm lucky I had one or else I would have lost my baby. I say ignore those comments and get on with life...enjoy your baby. I had to go through pain for both my deliveries...and took the same time to recover. If it's a medical condition that requires a C-sec, then don't have second thoughts is my suggestion to all those getting into motherhood.

Having a c section is not a failure! I don't know why women feel this way. In many ways I think it is harder than natural birth. At least the healing part. For goodness sakes it's major surgery. It's not like having an episotomy, and given the two choices, I'd rather have a csection. I had to because the cord was wrapped around the babies neck. My second child they wouldn't let me go vbac, so another c section, which was easier than the first.

what is ceserean section befor you tell us how you have suffered from it

Yes you are. And as you said, you now have a healthy baby. That is the most important thing! I have found many people that prefer c-sections over natural births. I don't understand this personally (I've experienced both) but it is a choice that women can make now with induced labor and all the advancements of science. It is also good to know that it is there for emergencies like you experienced. Take care and cheer up!

Feel happy that you and your child is safe.Thank God.Many people have C-sec DELIVERY.There is nothing to feel inferior.

no idea.

i think so u r thinking bit hard on this.

are you mad? what you are saying is total crap. wake up! you're in the 21st century and this marvel of science (c-sec) was developed long time back to give women a choice of safe and painless birth. just think......... if you dislocate a bone or have a gaping wound on your body, would you wait for nature to heal it the natural way??(it did happen when medical science was not so advanced, but that was very painful & time-consuming)no, you would take the help of science, take pain-killers & get admitted to a hospital for surgery. its exactly the same here. women have been suffering the pains of giving birth for many centuries too long. if creating a child is indeed a pleasure, why should women suffer the pains of it? (its like the male-centric explanation of EVE having eaten the fruit first) all bullshit! go ahead and enjoy the benefits of science. i went for C-section by choice and am no worse off for it. i have a totally healthy 7yr old son and am pround of opting for the more scientific thing than being pushed and prodded on a table like some cow with my legs held wide apart!!! ughhhhhh

you are thinking too hard on this- carrying that baby is all woman to me. how the baby comes out is just a technicality. you produced a human life!! way to go momma!

Try to think of the Love for your child. I cannot speak, on this matter as a woman experienced in childbirth could, so I shall simply comment on the matters of thought and feeling. We have a choice in this life--to be led and controlled by our thoughts and feelings, or to be master to our thoughts and feelings. Think on the positive. Reflect on the miracle of life you were able to bring into this world--as many are unable. Look to your baby with the most joy and Love as possible. Accept your thoughts and feelings, but do not brood on them--change them!

caesarian section is perfectly fine..some women who have C section manage to maintain their normal waist size.. thats a plus for you :)

you are thinking to hard but little seriously is grait in that way to kep that :)

I think you should focus on your babies and not the births, they are what matters now, well I had a natural birth the first time and an emergency c-section the second time, I have not been myself since, I have to go see my doctor and get checked out again. I think you will be ok or maybe you should speak to a professional about your feelings if you can't shake them.

rubbish, a c-sec doesn't make you less of a women. I think you suffered much more than an ordinary women, you were in pain for at least a month while natural mother ios okay once baby is out so who suffers more. Suffering any way doesn't make you less or more women. These days many doctors themselves make a choicew to have a c-sec rather than normal one because its safe and avoids the pain and you can avoid so many risk factors for the baby by c-sec.

I wouldn't be too hard on yourself about it. I to had to have a c-section. Up until my 39th week i was planning for natural, had discussed the c-sec but still opted for natural. Towards the end my fluid started deteriorating pretty quickly. In my 39th week, regular visit to the gynae he told me that i didnt have a choice and that i was going in to surgery immediately. Whilst on the table, i asked if i could have natural birth afterwards - NO! he won't do it. I really just wanted to feel and know what it was like to give natural birth but i guess i won't be able to. I was quite cut up about it but like my hubby told me if it was not meant for me to go that route, i should accept it. Everything happens for a reason. It doesn't make you less of a woman, only stronger! you too have a baby, just like everybody else...............

well first of all u must be clear as to y doctor's perform c-section.In earlier times no 1 performed operation to remove the baby it was only natural birth. but u see these days they basically do it so that they dont loose a good healthy baby jus becuz the baby was not in proper position to be delivered naturally or there was something serious for the mother. in earlier days women had to loose their healthy babies unnecessarily due to its improper placement or small unexpected problems. but now i think it is boon that we dont ned to loose our babies like that . so c-section is a boon .be happy that u were able to get ur baby defenitely safely.

Sorry nobody knows exactly that they are going to have a natural birth as anything can go wrong and then they need a c-section I have had 3 c sections I did although have natural births as well so I do not think that you are less than a woman as I certain am not. So stop giving yourself nightmares about this and get on with your precious life for both your sakes.

I know how you feel. My first was natural, however my second was c-section delivered. I refuse to have another, due to the fact that c-sections are painful and I don't want to go through it. I may not have bad nightmares when I think about c-sections, however I get the creeps. YIKES!!!