Needing your opinions....

United States
February 16, 2007 9:04pm CST
My sister-in-law has recently started dating this guy. This guy has a best friend that was also interested in her. Well, the best friend keeps "telling on" the guy for being a player and such. Would you trust the best friend or would you believe the guy??? The guy wouldn't answer his phone the other night and then the best friend called asking her if she knew where he was. I think he was just calling her to let her know that he wasn't anywhere to be found just to make her think he was out with someone else...she don't think so, well she wonders but isn't sure. I think it's a tough call...What do you think?
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@winky73 (1396)
• United States
19 Feb 07
She needs to tell her bf about what his "best friend" is up to.Seems to me he's acomlished what he set out to do....making her have second thoughts.Either she trusts her bf or she doesn't.....but believing such a unreliable source.....not a good thing.If it was me.....I would tell the guy to back off and stay out of my buisness.
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
I think the guy's bestfriend is a d*ck. I wouldn't do something like that to my bestfriend. Or maybe those two guys could be playing a game on your sister-in-law. Well, she should use her woman's instinct. Only she can tell whoever is telling the truth.:)
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@c45hfl0w (77)
• Latvia
17 Feb 07
It's hard to tell. She just should talk with the guy about all. And the best friend - it's not his business. If my best friend have a girl, I won`t lean in their relationship. Is this "best friend" really the best friend then?
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@cheenlly (3484)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
i guess you have to know both of them first and dont give too much trust for both. Since the bestfriend likes you it may sound he is concerned but who knows what really is his motive. maybe he is just trying to win your heart by saying those things about the guy but on the contrary the guy should also need a benefit of the doubt but you can only do that secretly by knowing the real him and of course the bestfriend too.
@onesiobhan (1330)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
I would do a little of both. I'd trust the guy, but I'd still watch for signs. It's impossible to cheat and not leave evidence. If I found out he was lying to me, out the window he goes.
• Ireland
17 Feb 07
It is difficult to tell. The best friend might not want your sister-in-law to get hurt. Who knows! Maybe the other guy was actually out and the best friend wanted to know if they were out together. I still don't like the idea of friends snithcing on each other whatever the reason. I think the two best friends should have a good talk with each other. What does you sister-in-law think?
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• India
17 Feb 07
i think if this is true love then no problam for you. they are happy then what was the problam if he is play with your sister-in-law she can know what she is doing.
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@junior07 (975)
• India
17 Feb 07
ya it's a tough situation but i think if u believe anyone then don't make urself tensed by these type of guys or by their comments and information.
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• India
17 Feb 07
i think she should be away from the both of them becasue i think you should trust a best freind rather than other because a freinds relation is too precious
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• United States
17 Feb 07
The best friend could be honest. Some people hate to see others get hurt. I would most likely not want the one who can't be found. It is a tough world out here. There is no real reason to be blind. She has a gut feeling of her own. To go against this would be wrong. Leave them both alone if this is bothersome. It can only lead to trouble. There are too many men around for this mess.
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@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
Well my first observation is that the best friend isn't! He's no friend at all. I believe your sister should have it out with the two men face to face, and see if 'the best friend' says the same things in front of his friend. As for your sisters relationship, well there's nothing you can do, so let her make up her mind after she has it out with them.
• United States
17 Feb 07
I think they both sound like trouble. It may be flattering to her that they both are interested in her, but if I were her I would steer clear of both of them for a while. Has she told her boyfriend that his best friend is telling her all of these things? I also think it's fishy that the boyfriend didn't answer his phone and then his best friend calls afterwards.
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@rubypatson (1842)
• India
17 Feb 07
Since he is also interested in her, he might be just lying, just let her be cautious, just incase it turns out to be the truth
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@hinocki (670)
• Italy
17 Feb 07
The Girl his always right. Whatever is the problem women are always right
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• Philippines
17 Feb 07
i think she should not believe the best friend until there is no hard evidence that he is telling the truth. may be the bestfriend only keep telling those things in order to break up on her boy friend and he can get your sister-in-law.
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@lingli_78 (12846)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
well, from your post, i can see that the guy's best friend is jealous of his friend because he likes your sister-in-law too... so, he is trying every means to convince her that the guy that she is seeing is not good... i think it is very cunning and wicked to do that... he is trying to ruin your sister-in-law relationship with his best friend... and after he succedded, he will start to make a move to your sister-in-law... i think your sister-in-law had to stay away from his bf's best friend and just have faith in her bf without letting his best friend interfere into the relationship... good luck...
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@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 07
wow nice sabotaj but maybe that "best friend" is right about his boyfriend, we do not know. If you ask me, I would have doubts too, but there is still a belief that my dating partner is nice and loyal. Anyway I think she should find out herself, do not listen to others, have faith in her boyfriend, why would you date him if you have doubts that he is a player or such and such?
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• United States
17 Feb 07
That really is a tough one. i mean, it could go either way. i think she needs to gather her own evidence first and then decide whether she thinks he is a player or not.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
Hmmm... does the guy she is dating know his 'best friend' is doing this? Because they don't sound like they are very good friends, to be honest. There are lots of reasons for not answering your phone. My husband turns his ringer off whenever he's in a meeting and then forgets to turn it back on. Or he leaves it in his coat pocket and can't hear it with the closet door shut. I'd ask the guy. Then I'd decide who to believe.
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@Riptide (2761)
• United States
17 Feb 07
This is a tough call.I think that this so called best friend is trying to sabotage their relationship.He sounds like a trouble maker and maybe they both should distance themselves from him. After all, with friends like this, who needs enemies? If the guy is really a player she should maybe think about distancing herself from both. Best thing to do is to sit down with both of them and clear the air.
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