Cheating Baby Daddy's

United States
March 18, 2007 11:05pm CST
I am a single mother of 2 boys. I just had my 2nd son 2 months ago and his father and I were together for 1 and a half years. The day our son was born, his "WIFE" called me! I had no idea he was married. He told me he had been divorced for 5 years. She even brought their kids to come visit in the hospital. Not as if that was bad enuff, he had gotten another girl pregnant and had an 11 mth old with her!? He was never divorced and had been sleeping with, what we found out, at least 10 women within that 2 year period. Anyone else have a Jerry Springer episode they are going through?
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@romel_ece (1290)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
It could be better to leave your man while its too early.It's better to live a single mom than to have him as your husband but having a lot of responsibilities from different women.As we grow older, things will be complicated when you will not iron out the problem at present.
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@horsesrule (1960)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I am so sorry for what you are going through. My own daughter has three children with a man who "forgot" to mention his wife and four other children. I guess his wife doesn't understand him? LOL. Anyway, she must have gotten tired of him too because she left him too so now he has to go on to someone else. He is a very bad father. He doesn't want anything to do with his children but he does call once in a while for a b-o-o-t-y call. Thank heaven she says no these days. It's taken her quite a while to get over him. The wife of that guy who keeps contacting you, have you thought about a restraining order? Because if she keeps contacting you, it sounds like stalking and harrassment. Plus it seems a little creepy too.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
19 Mar 07
i think if this women is calling her, she should talk with her and find out what it is she is calling for before going to the police. she might just want to talk. after if its more than that,call the police.
• United States
19 Mar 07
She wants to bring her kids over to hang out with us, I guess in a way i want my son to know his brothers and sister but I am not comfy hanging out with the wife of the man I was in love with for over a year, it's wierd.
19 Mar 07
Maybe by meeting with her (even if it's just you two and you don't involve the kids to begin with at least), you can put some closure on it all hon. I think it might be worth doing so even if it's in a cafe somewhere or something. Give the two of you a chance to maybe talk things through, and decide what sort of relationship you are prepared for the kids to have - after all, she's like you, she's had the dirty done on her too! and the kids are half brothers and sisters!
@gsnarayanan (1705)
• India
19 Mar 07
I am sorry to see that you have been cheated. But, it is for you to call the police and bring such people before the law of the land. He is fit to be punished for his continued acts of cheating women like this. You must show him that you can give suitable punishment for his act.
• United States
19 Mar 07
Where I am it not punishable and besides that he is a Police Officer and a U.S. Marine
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
19 Mar 07
as a person in the us marines, you can report him to his camander and then actions will be taken place.
@missybal (4492)
• United States
19 Mar 07
REPORT HIM!!!! That is sick... All you would need to do is have your child tested and it will prove what a scum bag he is.
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
19 Mar 07
you need to file papers right now and get him for everything you can get from him, major support and anything esle you can think of. do you need a car get his car, tell the court that you have noway to go get stuff for your baby because youdont have a car and you want his. OMG men like that should be shot. take him for everything before one of the others do.
• United States
17 May 07
Im too late she already nailed him...lol
@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
17 May 07
I do hope that you are going to get him for child support. you might have to get in a line as it sounds like but you deserve something for his lying to you. good luck and I hope that everything comes out ok.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
19 Mar 07
So it's better to get to know a guy very well before sleeping with him. It's for your own sake.
• United States
19 Mar 07
Yes it is and I try to tell my friend this but she doesn;t listen. I'm srry you have to go through this been there done that but got out. I hope you see the light and I will be praying for you and your. Tell the wife to stop or you call the police and file harrassment charges against her.
• United States
17 May 07
I knew him before I slept with him the circumstances NEVER showed any signs of him being married, we were together for over a year.
@GuateMom (1411)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
Wow! That is awful. It sounds like this guy┬┤s wife is very understanding though if she came to visit you in the hospital. I am very sorry you had to find out that your guy was such a loser, but better late than never, right? Congratulations on your new baby and I hope you recover from this with a sense of humor. :)
• United States
19 Mar 07
I don't think she's understanding, I think she wanted to meet me and tries to keep tabs on me. I'm sorry but there is a fine line between understanding and being stupid by staying with him and supporting him.
@c2adams2 (351)
• United States
20 Mar 07
Ohhh, I agree that the wife needs a brain check. Maybe you could try to build some kind of relationship with the wife, if only for the children's sake. Maybe she wants the children to get to know each other. Siblings are one of the greatest gifts in the world.
• United States
19 Mar 07
woooo hoooo man oh man I am sorry for what you are going thru. I can't believe this woman brought her children to see you in the hospital. You are leaving him immediately right? If not then you do need to call Jerry
• United States
19 Mar 07
I told him it was over the moment I found out. He still insisted we were still going to be together whether I liked it or not, HA yea right. To make a long story short we do not talk at all but his wife keeps calling????
• United States
19 Mar 07
If his wife keeps calling, tell her that you will take out a restraining order against her if she doesn't stop calling. What she is doing is considered harassment and stalking. Call the police and report her.
• United States
19 Mar 07
I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this and I'm especially sorry that the "wife" was so thoughtless to show up at the hospital. This woman has to know that her husband is unfaithful and should have had some consideration for your feelings. After all, you didn't know he was married. Quite honestly, the first thing you should do is have yourself and your son tested for HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases. If he's been sleeping with that many women, you need to know if you've been infected with anything. And, since you just gave birth, you need to make sure that your son didn't catch anything through him or you. Secondly, if all is well medically, I think you should cut off contact with the father and his trailing family and raise your son with better values than his father has. Ordinarily, I would want to see a child have both a mother and a father but this father would not be a good influence. I also think you need to be more careful in the future and not sleep with a man unless he's married to you. That way, if he's lied, you can have him prosecuted for bigamy. You really do need to be free of this man, though. He's not the kind of influence you want in either of your sons' lives. Of course, I don't know your entire situation and I haven't walked in your shoes but if you can take care of your boys without him, I'd recommend getting as far away from him as possible. You don't want your sons to turn out like this man. He obviously doesn't have the first clue about how to respect a woman or how to love. He just uses women for what he wants and moves on. The other reason you should stay clear of him is because he is endangering you and your sons with his lifestyle. If he sleeps with this many women, eventually it is going to catch up to him healthwise and if you are free of disease now, you could be infected later. Don't put yours and your children's lives in danger for this man. He isn't worth it.
• United States
17 May 07
The ties were cut with him completely for 4 months now and they test you automatically and the baby for everything known to man. We are doing good and don't need him.
• United States
19 Mar 07
WOW!! that is bad. i would be getting that guy for child support so fast his head would spin!
• United States
17 May 07
I want to nail him but here if the father pays he has rights and the other child he had, he doesn't take care of his wife does and I don't want my son raised by some other woman. Yes, unfortunately he is the type to fight for custody and pawn the kids off on his wife, I don't want any part of it.
• United States
19 Mar 07
OHHHHHHH MYYYYYYY..I am so sorry you are having to go through that. I could not even imagin the drama in your life right now and you don't need that with having a new baby. I can't believe his wife would come to the hospital. So what had he been telling her over these last few years.
• United States
17 May 07
I don't know what he was telling her, she says he used the main excuse he used with me...he was doing off duty work.
@7nicole1 (1634)
• Canada
19 Mar 07
God you always hear about stuff like this on tv but you never figure it really happens but you proved me wrong. All I can say I have never been in any situation like that ever in my life and all I can say is I wish you the best of luck.
• United States
17 May 07
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• United States
19 Mar 07
Oh my goodness, that is terrible. How in the world did he hide his wife from you? He must have always been at your house. And if I would have found out that my husband had two children with other women while we were married then his butt would be out that door.
• United States
17 May 07
We both worked night shift and slept during the day. His wife worked 3-11 so when we were up and off work she was at work
• India
19 Mar 07
hi emtstacy it is very difficult for a single mother to brought up the kids. i thought u should give divorce to ur husband. marriage is based on faith &love. u should start a new life. give him divorce &start ur new life. hope for the best.
• United States
19 Mar 07
I am not married to him he was married to someone else.
• United States
20 Mar 07
isnt it wrong how guys can do these type of things?im not going threw it now but almost 3 years ago i have gone threw something like this after i got pregnant with my daughter my boyfriend at the time was always running around come to find out he was tring to get with this girl and ended up getting her pregnant left her then got someone else pregnant and left her isnt sad how guys can be.
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
That's too bad. I belong to a monogamous culture and that kind of story is not so much heard of.. I wouldn't know what to do if that happens to me.
• United States
20 Mar 07
I have definitely experienced a Jerry springer episode in my past. The only difference between you and I is that I was the wife in the picture. I will tell you from experience, stand strong and don't let crazy ideas of needing the perfect two parent home to raise your child enter your head. I know right now that may seem easy because you are angry with the dad, but the older your child gets the harder it becomes not to fall into that old trap or even a new one with another man just as bad. Give yourself some time to be alone with your child. Remind yourself for as long as you need to how much you hate him in order to stay away from him. Then when you are finished hating him let it go. This way your child can never blame you for keeping them away from their father. Good luck! I know what a struggle this is. Keep your head up.
@loujac3 (1188)
• United States
20 Mar 07
I am so sorry to hear that you got used this way! I also believe that distance is probably the best thing all around for you and the bum's wife. Of course, he thinks that you and him are still an item. It is a male ego thing! I do hope that you go after him for child support. That will put a chill on his desire to be around. It will also put a strain on his marraige, therefore, you don't want to be on friendship terms with his wife. Cut those ties now! I really do wish you the best!
@c2adams2 (351)
• United States
20 Mar 07
My godmother's son...good lord. Five children, four mothers. Once he was with his girlfriend, whom he had a 1 and 1/2 year old daughter with. He got his girlfriend pregnant, and then, within a week knocks up her best friend across the street! The two women were actually in the hospital giving birth at the same time!
• United States
19 Mar 07
I feel for you here.I never had to deal with that type of problem but I was once set up to have made to look like I was messing around with a guy who showed up at my house . And my boyfriend used the time to go mess with 5 women in a week and halfs time.One being my neighbors sister!If you would like to have visitations with your child and hers, then have her meet you in a place like a park where there is a playground and for good measure have a couple of girlfriends go with you so to talk with and they can help the uneasiness of the deal.I hope you find a real man to love you and only you ,everyone deserves a good man or woman in thier lives.Good luck.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
19 Mar 07
Wow, what a mess you got into and even it's not your fault it's his. It's a shame that he didn't tell you the truth I know you had to be hurt finding out like this. I can't believe that his WIFE actually called you and brought their kids. I feel sorry for you and wish you luck in whatever you decided to do with him .