Would you mind if your boyfriend/girlfriend went out to party without you?

@mamasan34 (6518)
United States
May 13, 2007 8:12am CST
I don't know about you, but I personally at this time would mind my husband going to a party without me. I don't think he should be going to parties without his wife. Things happen and trouble starts. So, why make a bigger problem? How do you feel about it?
2 people like this
14 responses
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Honestly speaking, it depends on my mood. There are times when I easily get mad with my partner whenever he went out to a party without me. I feel that he don't want me to be around. It seems like he wanted to be alone to enjoy the night. But after some arguments, I don't feel the same way. We talked about it and then I understand that he also need some time alone with other people.
1 person likes this
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
13 May 07
Me too, I don't want him to be with some of his friends. I know for sure that they're a big influence to my partner. I'm afraid that he might do some naughty things, lol!
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
Me too, hahaha! I try to be discreet about how I feel, but sometimes how can I? They will come over and talk about all of their indiscretions and this makes me think it is not a good idea for him to go hahaha!
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
This is true as well. Sometimes we do need time alone with our other friends. Some of my husbands friends are not the type I want him to be at parties with though. LOL
1 person likes this
@donsky14 (5990)
• Philippines
18 Jun 07
If my boyfriend tells me where his going and who his with then its okay for me. I trust him. And he should also have some time for himself.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 Jun 07
Thanks for your response. I am glad to hear that you trust your boyfriend, it is a relief to be able to do that in a relationship. I too trust my husband, it's the other people that I don't trust hahaha!
@donsky14 (5990)
• Philippines
19 Jun 07
lol...same here, I trust my boyfriend...but the other people...uhm...no. lmao
1 person likes this
• Malaysia
10 Jul 07
I would not want to think about it if I can. But if my husband wants to go to a party without me, I would have some doubts in myself. BEcause my husband is not a party goer, and if he wants to go somewhere he will always ask for to accompany him so that he would not feel lonely.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Aug 07
That is good that you have a relationship like that. Not everyone does and some people are ok with going to parties alone. Personally I don't feel that married or committed couples should do that because there are situations that can happen that can cause problems. Thanks for commenting!
• Netherlands
21 Jun 07
No, I don't mind he goes to a party without me. Both my husband and I won't leave our daughter at home while we are busy partying. So....whether we all go together to that party (if possible), or one of us just have to go alone. Most of the time, I let him have the party, he deserves to have fun once in a while. Just because I can't/ won't go doesn't mean he can't too...
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
21 Jun 07
That is very true. I totally understand about having a baby and not wanting to leave little one at home with a sitter. It is very considerate of you to let him go to the party or out with friends to enjoy himself! Thanks for commenting.
1 person likes this
@shinjiao (1457)
• China
5 Aug 07
I think I would mind a little but I can understand him.I don't want to keep a too closed relationship with my boyfrined,and both of us should have personal time and space.So if he wants to go to a party without me,well,it is okay.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Aug 07
That is good that you feel that way and are so trustworthy of each other. Every couple is different and each have different ways of handling and seeing things. thanks for the comment!
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
Having a long distance relationship doesn't give too much thought on the topic at hand. But me and my partner still do have discussions about it. It's ok for me that he go to a party, and it's ok for him too that I go, provided that neither one of us stays out too late and neither one of us would be drunk. Plus we trust that there won't be any foolishness in the party and I see to it that he knows who I am with (which friends or family members) and he also let's me know who he is with. So far we haven't had many problems with regards this one. But when we're together, we'd like to go together to the party. But most often, we'd rather be together doing our own thing ~ bonding.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
5 Aug 07
I was in a long distance relationship for quite some time and I totally understand what you mean. It is good that you communicate together. Thanks for commenting!
@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
6 Jun 07
before we moved i did not mind as i know the friends he would be out with, now i would mind as we have moved and i dont know any one from his work. im not a jelouse type but i would wonder why i was not going with him.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
6 Jun 07
Yes, I completely understand your thoughts on that. I think I would be a little wary of him going out in a new town without you. It would cause me to wonder as well. Thanks for commenting!
@5000ml (1923)
• Belgium
13 May 07
It doesn't happen too often, but sometimes he's invited to parties that I really don't feel like going to (usually it's work related) so I certainly don't mind if he then goes alone if he still wants to go. He'd still appreciate my company, but I'm definitely not stopping him.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
I don't stop my husband from going, but he knows if there is something I feel bad about him going to, he knows about it. Most times if there is a function regarding work I have to be there unfortunately. We just had to go to a military ball and I had to be there with him. I didn't really want to go, but I ended up having a lot of fun anyway, so I am glad I went.
• United States
16 Jun 07
I think it entirely depends on many factors. My boyfriend and I are 840 miles apart so we both do things like this without the other because we have to....but each situation is individual.
1 person likes this
• Kottayam, India
10 Jun 07
That all depends on the discerning capacity of the concerned persons.somebody take it easy some not.There trouble may occur.
1 person likes this
@ellie26 (4139)
• Malaysia
13 May 07
Probably yes if he does that very often. My husband always go to party without me. Sometimes it is because the party is only meant for office workers only. On other occassions, I am not in the mood to go or dont have anything presentable to wear.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
My husband doesn't do this very often, but I know many men who do go to parties and clubs without their wives and I think that they shouldn't do that, it puts them in a position for trouble to start or rumors to start. It is not easy to dispel such a rumor either. Most often my husband does ask if I would like to go, but if I don't and he has to go, he will go, but he always calls me and tells me what is going on. I don't ask him to, but he does anyhow. I trust him and he trusts me, so there is little trouble to be had.
@Woodpigeon (3710)
• Ireland
13 May 07
I couldn't care less if my husband were to go to a party without me. We have mutual friends, and I wouldn't mind him spending an evening with them. He also has a set of friends from school that I find excruciatingly boring, and you couldn't pay me to go t a party they host. If any trouble stared at one of their parties, I'd think it'd be pretty low ket. They aren't really the sort who would know what to do if a lap dancer jumped out of a cake.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
13 May 07
LOL, that is funny! Unfortunately my husbands friends would know more than what to do if a lap dancer jumped out of a cake. I don't stop him from going but I let him know that I really don't approve, but I can't stop him he is a man with his own mind. He normally doesn't go thank goodness, but there is almost always troubles when these parties happen and we hear about it the next day. Thanks for commenting!
@federickp (607)
• India
19 Jun 07
I will never mind if there is any reason i cant go with her. I mean if all the people are her friends circle say from school of college days then naturally i will get bored and she even will never enjoy freely because she will feel that ishe should look upon to me, which i will never want. If she is going to party then she should enjoy with her friends forgetting about me. But if she cheats me, like she lies me and then goes to party or in any way hides from me that she has been to a party with her friends then i will be angry, not because she went to party but because she hide that thing from me.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
19 Jun 07
Trust is very important in a relationship. If someone were to lie to me about where they were going and what they were doing, obviously I would feel as if they were hiding something or was goign to do something that they didn't want me to know about.
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
10 Jun 07
I mind specially if i don't know that he went to a certain party without me. Not knowing who his company or the type of crowd. Its ok for me if he goes to a party without me as long he tells me about it. But it would really be nice to go along with him so that people would know who you are and would have the chance to meet other people.
1 person likes this
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
18 Jun 07
I agree, if my hubby were to go to a party without my knowledge, then I would be very upset about that. there is no reason to hide that from me and it would just mean we dont have a trustworthy relationship.