I'm all for saving money on postage by using email  

personally i perfere the old fashioned way of doing things ,sending an e-mail invite sems a bit tacky to me. I believe they should have made it clear what they wanted by useing pictures so you knew just what to buy.Also i would yake the invite to include the whole family but now a days I know many people dont want children attending so maby I would check with them about it all.

I think it is safe to think that you and your husband - no kids - are invited to the wedding and there will be no meal based on your wording (I am thinking finger food and drinks for cocktail hour) and the time of the wedding. The email was probably addressed to him because that is how the software they used is set up and the couple probably did not test how the information was going to be sent out.

My husband and I were married last year and we sent out paper invites (allowed them to mail or email an RSVP), but emailed out to everyone our registry information because we knew people would be ordering gifts online and mailing them so they didn't have to lug them to the wedding (many of our guests were out of state). I didn't know there was anything wrong with having a registry? I thought this was something people have done for ages???

Hi patgalca! I would rather prefer having the traditional wedding cards and invitations. They are more formal which is much suited for a wedding occassion. With regards to trying to save, I think I wouldn't be saving on the expense of doing away the traditional invitations because I will really like to make my guests to feel special by sending them the traditional invitations with all the scent and laces maybe. haha.. Well, this is just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day!

Oh dear I am all for new technology and all that but if they want to be so "new age" or whatever it wont hurt to write a short mail to say who is invited and all that. I prefer the old way of doing things as for presents I dont mind having registry as long as it is reasanable things and they dont cost an arm and leg and I can actually check them out (I do not buy over the internet)

And I thought it was bad form when one of my neices sent out an announcement of her upcoming wedding that failed to mention the actual time and place of the wedding ceremony itself! They also did not have a dinner, and the reception only started at 8:00 pm... Is it any wonder some people did not attend?

As for registries... I think that's being greedy. Especially if the couple has been living together for a few years. Presumably, they have already accumulated everything they really NEED. They just WANT new stuff, and they want other people to pay for it. I think they should be grateful and graciously accept whatever people GIFT them with and not dictate specific items.
My ex-husband's parents told us that when they were married, back in the Maritimes in the late 40s, the "rich" aunt gave them a chicken as a wedding present...

Wow, times are changing. I'm sorry, but I feel that sending snailmail invitations is just one of the things that should not be bypassed in an effort to hold costs down when planning a wedding. What if the email had bounced? What if the email had been incorrect and you had never received it? Email invitations to a wedding just seems to impersonal to me. As for the website registry, that seems to definitely be the wave of the future. The last 3 baby showers that I have attended had website registries. Thankfully, the site had pictures of each item. (the moms-to-be registered at a popular baby store and the store's registry as a drag and drop type thing where the mom 'dropped' items in a list and when I clicked on them I was taken to a full page about the item.) Yup, technology is sure changing ourlives...and not ALWAYS for the better in my opinion. Hey, perhaps instead of attending the wedding, you could send an EMAIL congratualting them on their wedding and wishing them well for the future. (an ecard) perhaps then they'd see how impersonal their inviation was!

UGH I don't know if I could do that LOL Having a wedding that late may mean its just a simple get together without all the *big wedding bangs* that go with it. It sounds like it will be nibbles and such and not an actual full on full course meal.

As for the invitations I would expect that even though it was sent to your husbands email address, it would be for ALL of you. I would RSVP for you both and your children (unless they stated no children under a certain age allowed)

As for the registry list I never had one and preferred family and friends to bring what they wanted.

I personally like the old fashioned way with sending out invitations and asking for RSVP's and such.

I do not like it. Obviously they were living together to save money (I hope it was not because 'everyone's doing it' and 'we're not harming anybody' (except maybe the ones who really care for them,) so if they saved enough money, they should have enough to pay for the proper invitation cards. I did not have a register when I was married, but that was years ago when we had hope chests and were expected to save most of the stuff ourselves and I was twenty-nine not some young chick. As for the registry, it is easy to find out what the items are when you go to the store. Just show the list to the store clerk. But to not show who is invited and to not have any food. I guess they only want people there to get plastered and eat ahead of time. It sounds as if they're cheap.

I would call this nephew for further clarification first and foremost, although I don't believe he would have left the rest of your family out by intention. Everything is going high tech nowadays, so having everyone RSVP online is not such a big leap of the imagination, although if I were getting married I would rather send out invitations so everyone can have a keepsake from my wedding. Depending on how the site is set up, they may have it so they e-mail the invitation with details back after a person RSVPs, this way they can filter out any people they don't know who are trying to get in. I wouldn't ask what they are registered for, as long as the prices are listed. They want this stuff for the wedding, so they should know what it is they want. I wouldn't stress over it because its not me that wants the miscellaneous items.

I prefer paper invitations, they just seem more fitting considering the occasion.
I would think that the invitation is extended to your entire family. I've never heard of a wedding where children are excluded. RSVP for 4! yaya
Forget the gift registry and buy them a book- "how to, formal occasions". lol