Reciever of gifts

Hi jillhill, You have a very interesting situation here. It's obvious that you mean a lot to her. The fact that she cried when you gave her a gift, probably means that she treasures your friendship. I think that you are the best one to decide what to do here. Give it a lot of thought, the answer will come to you. Blessings.

She probably just does that because she doesn't have a daughter. It probably just makes her feel good. There is an older gentleman and his wife and they give my mom stuff all the time. They will call her and tell her they got some veggies out of their garden for her or they canned her some tomatoes or they made some soup and they want her to come get some (when they make my mom's favorite kind). They are giving her one of those cameo necklaces that was the wife's years ago. They said they just know that when they pass on that my mom will take care of it. Then they want her to pass it on to me and just keep it going. They are all the time giving her things though and I think it's sweet. I guess they just know that my mom will take care of what they give her and they know that she appreciates it. I also love when she gets veggies from them because I get some too. LOL My mom's fiance's little girl went to their house with my mom one time and she liked a doll that the wife had (the wife collects them) and the doll was like a $300 doll and she is going to give that to my mom's fiance's little girl and I just think that's so sweet. They also gave a collector's knife to my mom's fiance's little boy and he promised to take good care of it. He has stuff that he wants to sell and I told him I'd put it on ebay for him and he told me to put it on ebay and he would give me a percentage for everything I sale for him plus he'll pay the shipping and he'll pay the listing and ending price. They are just really sweet people.

Oh, that makes me so sad. It sounds like she thinks she has to do that to be liked. The next time she gives you a gift, I would take her hand (if you feel comfortable) and tell her that she is the best gift you could ever get, with her friendship. Nothing else is really needed. Of course you'd still thank her for the present, but this might open her eyes that she can be liked for who she is. And that might stop the stream of presents, or at least they wouldn't be as expensive.