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myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people11 months ago

Okay, I responded to a discussion about abortion. I had read a few other peoples responses and everyone had mixed opinions. Well all of a sudden I just started getting attacked by this very cruel user! She was cussing at me, being very ugly, and acting very immature.

I mean, doesn't she get that everyone who responded to a discussion about such a sensitive subject were going to have different opinions? I NEVER attack any for their opinions.

I ignored her first response to mine, and she hadn't cussed in that one (but she was still mean). But after I read the second one I was shocked at how cruel she was! And that's when the cussing started. So, I reported her. Was that wrong of me?

I just got so angry at her disrespect. I don't care of someone disagrees with me, unless they share their feelings like she did!

 
 
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1. KH0389 (38)   ranked 6,909 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

Wow...Yes, people in this lifetime are very cruel. I can't believe the way that you were treated about the abortion status. It sounds extremely harsh, and what people need to realize is that everyone has different opinions. I am highly agaisnt abortion. But, in my standings, I wouldn't get one for myself, but I have nothing against those people who do such a thing. And People should respect everyone's wishes and opinions, that's why opinions are made. At the first sign of an attack from this person I would have reported. You definetly did the right thing. And for those people who don't quite understand why it's right, that person would attack probably everyone who disagreed with them.

I'm very sorry this happened to you, good job on the report though.:) Proud of you!


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

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KH0389 (38)   ranked 6,909 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

It is such a heavy topic though. I'm not quite sure where she got the idea that there was even a slight comparison between germs and children. I love children, but I'm not one to want to be pregnant either. I would adopt first because there are several adoptable children out ther ein need of good homes.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Yeah. After I told her I couldn't believe she compared babies to germs she went into this whole "scienticfic" explanation.

That is my thoughts exactly. If and when I decide I do want to have a baby in my life I want to adopt. I have the same exact feelings you do about it. I want to give a home to a baby who needs one.

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2. myLot reputation of 96/100. ravinskye (4341)   ranked 137 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

I've noticed that alot on here. People will ask a question and then it starts a big debate. then people just get down right mean. I had asked about leaving the kids in the car for a 5 min or less with the car in full view...I had one woman tell me I wasn't fit to watch kids. I was upset that she questioned me being a good mother. its not like i was forgetting my kids were in the car in the hot sun. I had elimated every possible threat and was just going to be running my daughter in the building to her class. you'd have to read the whole discussion. anyways...some people nicely told me they didn't think it was a good idea, while some were kind of mean towards me. I'm glad you reported that woman.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Oh! I responded to that discussion of yours. I believe all I said was I don't think it would be awful for you to do it, but then I gave you some tips at what else you could do so you didn't have to leave them in the car.

Someone said you weren't a fit parent!??!?! It's not like you had even done it! You were just asking. People really need to grow up.


myLot reputation of 68/100. kathisharpe (118)   ranked 8,955 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Um. Perhaps the way you were told was awful... but unless you're standing right outside the car (and maybe even then) it's too dangerous to leave them in. Too easy for a little one to try their hand at driving - all they've got to do is slip the car into gear and it'll roll.

Plus countless other things might happen - hundreds of "what-ifs" - not just on their end, but on yours (what if you dash back into the house for something, trip over a toy on the floor, fall and smack your head? Stuff like that happens (ask me how I know)

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3. myLot reputation of 99/100. nancyrowina (1694)   ranked 696 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

It is an annoying thing when people attack each other on here over differences in opinion. Mylot is a discussion forum for sharing our interests and thoughts people shouldn't get rude or attack each other over differences in opinion.
Abortion is a controversial subject and there are many different opinions on it and it stirs up all kinds of emotions, best to just avoid discussions on such a hot issue. It's sad I have to say that but there's nothing mylot can do to make everyone agree about abortion is there?


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Yeah I wasn't going to respond to this discussion, but the person who created it seemed like they would be very understanding for any opinions shared. And I had already shared my views on other discussions about abortion, and no one had ever been that cruel to me.

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4. myLot reputation of 91/100. wisconsin26 (1913)   ranked 918 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

Well Lily that's the way people are.. They sometimes think they are better than others and will be very immature about such things.. I know when I start a discussion rather it's good or bad, I do respect everyones oppions but I won't swear at someone to make myself feel better.. That won't happen.. I think when it comes to that point it's best to leave things alone and not act on them.. I've done that... People would say rude things and it upsets me. I just sometimes act like I've never read it before.. That's really all you can do so their isn't a conflict between the two talking on the subject, How ever you did do the right thing on reporting her because there is no excuse for swearing and attacking people for their oppions...


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Thank you Wisconsin:)

I have the same feelings you do. I respect peoples opinions. I will gladly share mine, and let others share theirs. But I would never be mean to someone because of their opinions. And I would never, ever cuss at someone and use bad language.

 
5. myLot reputation of 38/100. zukepr (10090)   ranked 5,161 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

Well that happens alot in those controversial topics.
People feel strongly about their view on the topic and tempers flare and sometimes unsuspecting innocent opinion holders get caught in the crossfire between other users that are simply trying to continue with a discussion that they feel too strongly about to let go
I am sorry you got attacked like that
I left a comment on your response and I meant what I said
You handled yourself well.
The others had no right
I dont understand why opinions cant be given in a respectful way
I also dont understand why people cant just respect conflicting opinions and leave it alone when they know it is a heated and controversial topic.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Thank you very much zukepr:) Your response here and on the abortion discussion made me really happy! I'm glad you think I handled myself well, I kind of blew up at the end there X.X Did you see that girls response after yours? She said that I was being rude and attacking people with my opinions. I really don't think I did, and if I did I really didn't mean to. But I do not think I did X.X

Thank you!:)


myLot reputation of 38/100. zukepr (10090)   ranked 5,161 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

I just went and looked
And I couldnt help but laugh
I read the whole conversment between all of you 3 times and I honestly dont see what that person is talking about
You werent snotty at all
You maintained your composure and you handled the situation very tactfully
My best advice for you is to just walk away from that discussion
Dont feed them and they will leave.
If you keep trying to communicate with them they will only keep attacking you so just walk away.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Okay...:) Thank you. I'm glad that I have some people on my side. When things like this happen I always end up questioning myself X.X But you saying that makes me feel better.

 
6. myLot reputation of 74/100. dragonryder (3574)   ranked 1,533 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

I don't think it was wrong to report her. I guarantee other people did. A lot of people on here don't like seeing others get attacked for no good reason. It's too bad you had to experience that.


myLot reputation of 74/100. dragonryder (3574)   ranked 1,533 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

I just went to that discussion. Who attacked you? I was getting a bit confused with all the back and forth. It sure is a busy discussion though.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

GloomCookieLex is the person who has been attacking me. Here is some of the things she said to me.

I had just told her that my sister, who has been wanting a baby, had a miscarriage and she found it appropriate to say...

"Yeah, life is unfair. Tough sh*t, get over it...you have the gall to p*ss and moan over a clump of cells that doesn't even know it exists yet? That's messed up.


myLot reputation of 44/100. GloomCookieLex (1886)   ranked 4,367 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Lol


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Oh...gee...speak of the devil.


myLot reputation of 94/100. OreoCookie3 (13015)   ranked 311 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

You were right to hit the abuse button and report her. That is the thing to do rather than get into a fight. That was clearly abuse.

 
7. myLot reputation of 43/100. free2lmao (112)   ranked 11,923 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

No, thats not wrong of you...i had posted something about abortion and people were so judgemental on their views...like telling people they needa grow and backbone and stuff...its crazy how some people get on here this isnt a place to curse and carry on like that with people you dont even know...People act like they are gonna get into a fight or something over something said on the computer...


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Yeah I know it's crazy. And I find it sad that people do behaive like this, especially to strangers! I mean, I could never say things like that to people who I don't know. I could be hurting a nice person and I just wouldn't want to do that.

 
8. myLot reputation of 98/100. marciaj (804)   ranked 1,078 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

Was it wrong to report? No. If you felt attacked, then you need to report it. That's why users have the ability to report abuse. That said, when you respond to a discussion that is on such a senstitive issue, you have to expect a certain amount of that. I'm not saying that you should expect to be attacked, but you have to expect strong opinions and have a thick skin, because there will always be someone who disagrees.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

I understand what your saying. But I read other discussions before mine, all with varing opinions, and no one was spoke to that bad at all. I felt like it was a safe discussion to put my opinions on. I don't know why I was singled out X.X Thank you.

 
9. myLot reputation of 88/100. clrumfelt (934)   ranked 847 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

I like to think that myLot can be a friendly enjoyable
place but for it to be one we all, even if we don't
respect another's opinion, must at least have
enough respect for the other person to disagree agreeably.
I don't think you were wrong to report her, b/c she was
being abusive and you are helping all of us when you are
instrumental in putting a stop to that sort of posting.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Yeah overall people I discuss with are always respectful and nice. This is the first time I got really upset at something said towards me. But I do feel bad reporting people X.X I just feel guilty way to easily. hehe.

 
10. myLot reputation of 91/100. cremechese51 (1362)   ranked 659 out of 25,435 in people   11 months ago

It definitely wasn't wrong to report someone who was cursing at you. Disagreement's fine, cussing and abuse isn't. Also it may be someone who comes here specifically to cause trouble -- a troll -- and they may want to get their IP blocked.


myLot reputation of 95/100. LilyoftheThorns (3169)   ranked 944 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

Well I don't think she is trying to get blocked or cause trouble here. I mean...she responded to one of my discussions and she was completely civil. She didn't bring up the other topic and answered my question. Which is very confusing to me! Obviously abortion was a sensetive topic for her, like it is for everyone.


myLot reputation of 91/100. cremechese51 (1362)   ranked 659 out of 25,435 in people  11 months ago

OH, okay. Yes, that's true. . .people can go off about different things.

 
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