Aftermath of my Son
By Gabs
@gabs8513 (48686)
United Kingdom
March 18, 2008 10:05am CST
His Fiancee returned home yesterday
They are not back together as such but they will stay in the House together for now
She is one messed up Girl as well at the moment she swears the Rumours are not true as she loves my Son but she does not know what she wants
My Son has told her that it is up to her and no one can make her mind up for her
He has told her that he sees a lot clearer now and that he feels he has sorted himself by talking to me over the weekend because I just sat there and listened
He said they have both gone wrong somewhere and they need to take one step at a time and see what happens there
They both now know where they went wrong and if they should get back together they know not to make that Mistake again
Time will tell what is going to happen, but hearing my Son sounding happier and more confident has taken a lot of weight of my Shoulders
Like he said if they do work things and get back together then great if not then they will stay Friends
He knows if he needs me he is to phone me and he will
I am glad that I never said anything until my Boy came to me
Thank you everyone for all the lovely responses and advice and wishes in my
Discussion My Son and for being here for me
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21 responses
@Swaana (1205)
• India
18 Mar 08
Oh that sounds great. I am so much releived. Being a family counsellor, I knew the first time you wrote about your son, that he could come out of it with a brave heart. Though it will take time for him to heal his broken heart, I think he will approach her more cautiously. It will be better if they just be friends because both will look at each other with greater remorse than with lots of love.
Praying to God that he smiles on him a lot and gives him all the strength and pressure to face anything that happens from now on.
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 08
He's got an intelligent head on his shoulders, and that is admirable, he knows what he wants and he is very clear, I don't need to tell you to be proud of him because you already are. She is a very very lucky lady most other men would have cleared off, I really wish she could understand that and not take him for granted and mess him around, your son is like a rock to her and one in a million xxx
@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I know it made ya feel better to hear the happenest in your son voice but will it last are will she break his heart all over again this time it will hurt him even more but I haope she is teling the truth about learning her lesson
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@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Well that is good that he is taking his time but ya know how them woman can get next to a man just tell him to be careful
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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19 Mar 08
It sounds like he is having a real hard time at the minute, but I think with having his mum there he will get through just fine, because he knows you will be there and he has someone to talk too. That makes all the difference when trying to get through an upsetting time. I hope it all sorts itself out soon and that before long he will find real happiness with someone who really loves and deserves him. But if he does get back with his fiancee then I hope they can sort it all out and rediscover their true feelings for each other. I have not gone through any of this yet as mine are still young, the eldest is 16 and as of yet is not overly interested in girls, but I dread it when he does because I would never want to see him hurt and I always get the feeling that when my son does decide he likes a girl, then it will be for keeps. Its just something that I pick up in him somehow. Take care.
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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19 Mar 08
I think you are very right, I really hope I do not see my children hurting like that, but I think I probably will at some point.
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@Katlady2 (9904)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I really hope that for your son's sake, the rumors are not true, and that his fiancee really does love him like she says she does. But if she doesn't, she needs to cut ties right now and get out of his life. I'm sorry, I know that's really blunt, but your son has been feeling too much pain and hurt for things to keep going on the way they have been. I feel like your family is my family, and I don't like seeing family or friends in pain. Thank you for posting the update hon. Lots of big warm hugs to you.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I don't know Gabs. I don't trust her. She did something to cause your son great sorrow. She says the rumors are not true. But....Has she said what the truth is? Be cautious when it comes to this situation. Protect your son as best you can. But like you said, She is one messed up girl. There has to a reason for that. Listen closely for what is not being said and maybe needs to be said. Omission is equal to lying. Give Gissie a hug also.
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@blackbriar (9075)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Glad to hear they are trying to work their relationship out but don't get your hopes up too high, gabs, and hope your son doesn't either cause it could all be another 'game' to his fiance.
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@olivebranch56 (910)
• United States
20 Mar 08
You are so welcome gabs, I hope that the perfect will of God, comes about in this relationship, I am also glad that your son's blinders are off soo to speak. He is a lucky young man to have a mom like you in his life. Blessings
@mychattime (1013)
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19 Mar 08
Oh hunny you sound so much happier and relieved, just by reading it you can tell the weight has been lifted of your shoulders. Your son seems like he has done a lot of thinking and his head is so much clearer now. Good luck to him. I still think you are an amazing mum, not all children can speak to their parents like he has spoken to you. Like I said yesterday or when I responded to your last Mylot about your son, I adore my son and at the moment we are very close and he does talk to me about things (he is only 4) and I really hope that continues as he gets older, I want to be the sort of mum you are where your cildren can speak to you about anything and everything. Take care
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
19 Mar 08
Hi Sweetie and all you have to do is keep encouraging him on that
Never fly of the Handle when he does wrong sit him down and explain why he has done wrong why you are a little mad with him and always let him know no matter what he can always come to you with anything but never break the trust by getting mad and shouting at him be calm and explain and you will be fine
Both my Children come to me and know they always can with anything
I am sure you will do just fine
Hugs to you
@gigisimbre (272)
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19 Mar 08
having not to get in into your sons love life is a good act. But having to be there for him to talk to when he needed it, was totally awesome. Keep on
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
18 Mar 08
you are a very good mother, hon, I commend you
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
19 Mar 08
You must be relieved at the outcome gabs. Your son needed to talk, and you were there for him, ready to listen - sometimes that's all it takes - a listening ear.
It's good that your son and his fiancee know now where they went wrong, so they won't make that mistake again. He sounds more positive now, and is thinking with a clearer head.
All you can do now is be there for him and listen like the good mother you are.
Time will tell how the relationship works out.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
19 Mar 08
YOur son seems to be able to stay focused and grasp the best way to deal with the situation. That is good and often difficult because this situations are filled with stress, anxiety and pain.
Nobody knows what will happen but it is a very good thing that they are taking it one step at a time and being able to talk about it.
Life is really complicated sometimes, isn't it?
Sending another hug your way
@skysuccess (8857)
• Singapore
19 Mar 08
gabs8513,
I am so happy for the way things have turned out and that your son is being stronger and wiser now.
I am sure things will get better and you have us here rooting for you.
Take care.
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Hi sweetie Gabs, I'm so glad to hear your son is doing better. I pray that he kicks that darned girl to the curb where she belongs because she's not doing him right. But of course, it's up to him to decide what to do and I don't blame you for staying out of it. It's better that way so he'll continue to trust you. Bless you hon!
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