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myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships2 years ago

My bf's asking me to do it but i don't want to,. He's my 1st boyfriend and he's telling me that it's his assurance. I want to break up with him because he can't undrtsnd that i rili dont want to do it,. What should i do???

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 90/100. argie713 (709)   ranked 180 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

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myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

that is what i'm afraid of. we're just in a relationship for like 5 days?? and he already want that.. that's why im confused because he's my 1st, but i really cant do it..


myLot reputation of 90/100. argie713 (709)   ranked 180 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

If you are not sure then don't do it. It's better to be safe.


myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

5 days is too premature relationships. Don't.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Thanks.. i just need sum1 to talk 2 about this matter, because my parents doesnt know about him..


myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

That's too heavy on my opinion. 5 days, it makes sense your parents didn't know who he is, because it's still early until you have introduce him to them. But what I want to tell you is, you don't want an unexpected pregnant happened to you, right?Besides, he is your first time, when you did pregnant, you will trap inside the circle, it's getting heavier to solve the stuff if he washes his hands off your problem, and you will need to pay the responsibility to your parents later. This is the worst scenario.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

yeah, i already think about that, but he keeps on telling me that i wont get pregnant.. but of cors i know that it's not impossible. he also told me that if sumthing like that happen, he will support me, but still, i dont want to do that, i dont want to take the risk. and besides, i want him to meet my parents but he doesn't want to, at this time.. i want our relationship to be legal but he doesnt want to..


myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Leave him, this type will never scratch his toes in my journal.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Thank you for all your comment.. i really appreciate it.. actually im thinking of breaking up with him, i just need some opinions on this matter... thank you very mch..


myLot reputation of 95/100. swirlz (1211)   ranked 13,072 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

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myLot reputation of 90/100. flowerchilde (6827)   ranked 3,087 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

...I agree with the other posters... also there's no sense in it, you will only get hurt.. it's usually not the same for a girl as it is for a boy, it would likely be wham, bam and be over so quick your head will spin and you will be left empty and feeling a little the worse for wear/use.. especially if he then drops you and moves on to the next girl(friend) - sorry, sweetie, but he's likely a cad. Five Days! How many five days can a gal go through in a life time? There's good guys out there.. If that's what you want (love) don't settle for anything less.
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2. myLot reputation of 87/100. anuraa30 (768)   ranked 1,396 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

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myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Thank you verrrry much..*sigh* i really don't know what to do anymore, he can't just understnd my reason.


myLot reputation of 87/100. anuraa30 (768)   ranked 1,396 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Follow your gut instinct my dear. Just go off to someplace where he wont be there with you. You know go off for a walk or a ride someplace, noisy or peaceful which suits you and then make a decision

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3. myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

Just follow your heart, my dear.


myLot reputation of 92/100. MsTickle (8950)   ranked 1,068 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

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4. myLot reputation of 94/100. gemini_rose (10123)   ranked 1,004 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

If you are not ready hun, then do not do it. From what I see from what you have put you do not want to. If you end up doing anything just to please your boyfriend you will regret it and you will end up resenting your boyfriend. You will know in your heart when you are ready, and if your boyfriend does not respect this and wait until you are ready then he is not worth it. It sounds like he is only thinking of himself, he is not taking your feelings into consideration at all. If a man truly loves you, then he would understand that you are not ready and would be willing to wait no matter how long it took.


myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Some boys take an insurance to those virgins to make she will be hard to leave him. Then they will be up on the wind. It's not a fair healthy relationship anymore, they hit two birds with one stone.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

thank you, i feel relieved.. you are right, i really don't want to do it, but he keeps on telling me to trust him, and that i don't undertsnd him. but i cant force myself to do what he wants me to do. so we end up, or rather he ends up getting mad at me...


myLot reputation of 91/100. aowaow (1097)   ranked 114 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

You had made a wise decision. There are still many other men that can understand what is the meaning of respect.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

thank you.. i think i already have a decision...

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5. myLot reputation of 94/100. easymoney75503 (1372)   ranked 399 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

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6. myLot reputation of 97/100. deebomb (9001)   ranked 3,208 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

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myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

thanks.. really appreciate it..

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7. danangPinoy (76)   ranked 12,107 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

It is your own body and you have the right for it. He is asking for assurance, then you can ask the same what is your assurance from him. In our country there are many woman leaved by their partners after getting pregnant. Your body your choice.

Sadly if something bad happens it is your problem...because he can run...
So what is his assurance for you?


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

he told me na pananagutan nya daw.. but i still cant...

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8. myLot reputation of 94/100. schilds (287)   ranked 8,279 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

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myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

wow!!! i laughed at ur comment, i dont know but maybe because it's true..


myLot reputation of 92/100. MsTickle (8950)   ranked 1,068 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

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9. myLot reputation of 96/100. dragonfly242 (852)   ranked 427 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

This relationship is to young for anything to be sure. Dont do anything that you dont want to do. Let him know that you will not do it. If he presists then leave him, because it shows his lack of respect for your feelings. Furthermore where's his assurance that he wont just leave after getting what he wants. There's just to much of a risk for you my dear.


myLot reputation of 77/100. basurera07 (206)   ranked 1,359 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

i don't know whats he's assurance, but he keeps on telling me that he will not run away, and that he will support me..


myLot reputation of 96/100. dragonfly242 (852)   ranked 427 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

Support you in what? I hope he means in your decision not to do it. You sound like a smart girl, i'll trust that you'll make the right decision.... Good luck.

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10. myLot reputation of 93/100. stephcjh (22847)   ranked 3,107 out of 23,311 in relationships   2 years ago

I would break it off with him if he cannot understand and accept that you do not want to do it. I would not do it until you are good and ready to do it yourself. Never give yourself to someone if you are not ready to.


kriztin08 (25)   ranked 18,178 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

break him up.. if he love you he will understand and never force u to do it.. i tell you if u give in he will just leave u.. don't be weak, there's lot of guy who is not like that.. who respect.. good luck to you..


myLot reputation of 96/100. book1962 (14619)   ranked 854 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

steph your are absolutely right. I had a similar decision to make, not about sleeping with that guy whom my mother did not approve of anyways, but about some other things where he wanted to set pressure on me. He then told me there are others around who would sure follow his wishes and so I firmly said then go there and leave me alone and I broke up with that insensitive person. It was hard but the right decision.


myLot reputation of 93/100. stephcjh (22847)   ranked 3,107 out of 23,311 in relationships  2 years ago

I'm glad you made the right decision. I had a one night stand from a guy I thought I was madly in love with. I knew him since we were in the 6th grade and he used me and we now have a 16 year old daughter that he has never had a thing to do with. He had nothing more to do with me when I told him I was pregnant.

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