Is your past over, or does it replay it's self over and over?

To a degree, I think our past always affects our future. We frame our opinions and our actions, many times, by what we have done - or what has been done to us - throughout our lives. I know that, when I met my husband, we had some bumps getting over a person from HIS past who had caused him much trouble (including financial) and, so often, it was me that wound up hurt. We did progress well from that situation but I know I will never completely "move on." He asks me sometimes if I will ever "let it go" and I tell him, very honestly, "probably not." I've been able to forgive but not forget... and, you know, sometimes that isn't ALWAYS bad. There are lessons to be learned from every situation and I learned from that too... mainly about myself.

So many things have happened to me in my past, that if I was not able to move on from them I would probably be in a funny farm by now. I have always been good at filing things away in my mind, they have been so far buried that most of the time I do not remember them unless something happens to jog my memory. Since I have joined here a lot of discussions have jogged my memory and I find myself remembering a lot of things that I had forgotten about. Sometimes I find these memories incredibly sad, and sometimes I get angry, but then I look at how far I have come and how far I have yet to go and I put them back in the file they escaped from. Because to let those memories over take my future means that all those people who caused them in the first place, have won. And that is not going to happen.

There are lot of things from my past there are still there, hanging just behind that curtain over there, you can't really see them, or hear them, but late at night, especially when I am under a great deal of stress they will rear their ugly heads and I will relive every ugly minute of the various incidents wondering what I could have done differently to make things different, to be a better person, and sometimes during the day these same things haunt me. So I guess I haven't really been able to move on from the past. I have tried to put them into abeyance.

My past is over, but sometimes i've noticed that if you are not careful it will try to creep back up when you least expect it.

Too many people hang onto the past.
They need to let go or will never move forward in life.
I had to let go of the past or I would have gone insane.
Somedays it rears its ugly head, but I do not let it interfer with my life.
All we need to do is push it away, and think of today and today only.

I have moved on from my past and don't let it affect my present. If I did then I don't think I would be where I am today. I had to make a lot of changes within myself to be able to move on.

Sometimes something in my present might spark a memory or glimpse of the past for a small time, but the good thing is, I can brush it away and forget about it and not let it take over my thoughts in the present.

The past is just that the past. I can do nothing about it nor can I change it. The only thing I can do is learn from it and make my FUTURE a much better place to be. I guess that would count as a having moved on.

I try to mnove on from the past but every time I turn around, it comes right back to haunt me. It isn't just one specific thing. It is several things that have happened in the past. No matter what I do to try to get away from the things that bother me most about the past, it always comes back around in some way, shape, fashion or form.

Hi momma,
There are certainly particular events in our past that we must let go of and move on. Everyone has experiences that are used to teach them particular lessons, if they choose to learn from it. Some of those events are meant to be left in the past, while others are meant to be kept in our memory and kept as a part of our general makeup.
While it is true, we are taught to live for the day, the events of the past keep us, for the most part, in the moment while the lessons we have learned from the past mold and shape our 'moment'. We can't hold on to the past, it is gone, but we can certainly learn from it, recall moments from it, which bring us joy (and in some instances - sorrow).
I don't think the past can take over someone's future, as the future is shaped by current events. The only way I think the past can take over someone's future is if they, like you say, have an event that is so filled with drama that they won't let it go.
Depending on the event, like a death of a loved one, a break up or something like that, it takes time to 'move on'. People have to process the event the best they know how. Some people are over it in an instant. Others have to live with it for a while.
Personally, I've been able to move on with life, day by day, but I will always have a certain portion of my past that I choose to carry with me. If we totally let go of it, we totally let go of the lessons we've learned and the things that shape who we are today. There's a difference in holding on to memories and holding on to the past. The first is very healthy, I think. The latter can sometimes be detremental to our well-being.
How we move on and/or get over the past will depend largely on the event itself and how we deal with other related issues. It also has a lot to do with choices we make;whether or not we choose to move on or be stuck in the past.
I think the past shapes our thought process for today, giving us hope for a brighter tomorrow.

My past almost ruin my life. There are things that i can see and remind me of my past.
Its not easy to forget like it was easy to forgive but hard to forget.
What did i do to move on.
It was all simply because of my family and my daughter.