The Man Of Your Dreams...

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With so many ppl in prison it isn’t very surprising to find that women (or men) write to them. But how many ppl form relationships with them…planning to get together when they’re released. I’ve known women that have spent years writing to and visiting men in prison b/c they want to believe that when they are released that they can have a life together. Sometimes, although I’ve never personally known of it, it happens. Most of the time it’s a pipe dream that the inmate has made up to see how much they can get out of lonely women. My Hubby worked for the state prison for 17 years and he’s told me how inmates would come up to the Bubble (like an office that’s sealed except for officers) and they’d drop off 20-30 letters all to different women. Most of the time they’d have a standard letter and a kind of fill in the blanks so you could pretty much send the same letter to every woman. They’d have a little bit about daily things, then the section on loneliness and heartache, and then the hook of needing money, gifts, visits, or numerous other things…and finally the icing of how much they love and need you. Women, for some bizarre reason, eat it up. A woman I know spent 3 years in one of these relationships…she wrote to him daily, took tons of collect calls and drove 2 ½ hours twice a month for a 30 minute visit. She also sent him money weekly, bought him things that the prison allowed and even bought him a TV for his cell. When she’d go to visit she’d take a large ziplock of about $30-40 worth of quarters for him for the vending machines. He had it made. When she fell on hard times and had to have neck and knee surgery and could no longer do all of it…he decided it wasn’t going to work out and moved on…what did she get?? Nothing…just the loss. A lot of times when you write to an inmate they will sell your address to other inmates. You start out with one inmate your writing to and the next thing you know your getting letters from 5 or 6. All of them wanting money, phone calls (also 3-way calling), gifts, visits, ect. Some women get so sucked in that they actually go along with trying to help them escape or sneak things in that are prohibited. I remember one news story of a woman with four kids that tried to help an inmate escape, got caught, went to prison and lost all of her kids. What drives these women to take up with these inmates? What can they possibly offer you? Do you write to them? Have you ever had a relationship with one? Did it work out? Would you want your daughter, granddaughter, niece or sister involved with an inmate? **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~