As a child you were...

Wow! such a sweet child.
My mom probably wishes she could say the same about me...though she does say I was a very easy child till I was around 10. No trouble at all...but after that I started arguing about everything. It's another thing (which she realizes only now) that I wouldn't go against what my parents' said.....but I would argue and try to prove my point in everything.

Oh yes, that was quite a phase! Even I went through that. Actually I was talking about an earlier phase. And I think that was quite nightmarish for ppl around for I was very introvert, am still is. When my sister would blabber everything and anything I would just keep mum and my mother would have trying times in getting things out of me.

hmmm..I had phases for that too....one time I was very quiet and into my books all the time...one time I was so talkative they had to ask me to shut up...or specifically ask me NOT to mention this to anyone (I have to do that with my son now!)
The arguing was mostly when I was a teenager and was with my mother (dad was in a different country working then)...I get along better with my dad because he tends to LISTEN a lot more than my mother. But now that I am a mother myself, I understand how my mother felt having to cope with so many things...AND me arguing for each and everything! It didn't help that my sister never argued (another story altogether that she just went out and did what she wanted to do....no waiting for permission..lol....while I always wanted approval even when I argued)

I get that you are more like my sister who you yell, argue, reason and then wait for permission even to go to another floor of the house. Once I remember, she asked if she could cry out loud in the stairs for she felt like crying after my mother snapped at her over some trivial thing!!

Those were the days...
Thanks for this discussion SV.

lol..your sister sounds exactly like the child I was!

Yes, she was....

A very good morning dear. What are the children up to?

Good morning to you too.
The kids are playing together this morning (oh...I wish there were more days like this...lol)....and great to see the older one trying to walk (after 2 months of being unable to move).
So, what are your plans this weekend?

Good to hear that, SV. That gave you a chance to spend your 'me time" - I am glad.
I am in office right now. Saturdays are more hectic for me. Tomorrow I would probably watch some movie or else sleep out the day. lol..

What about you?

Weekends are very busy for me...my husband is a part-time professor is some far-off college and he's doing his PhD too. So, he leaves early and comes home late over the weekends. That gives me two kids and lot of housework to handle all alone..lol
I'm just waiting to get back to work next month. Hopefully, I'll get a maid by then.

lol..no one would say I was a quiet child...and I didn't think it was bad...till I had my first son and he started to talk!!
How I wish he would stop....now I know how my parents felt when I was a child:P
But on the whole I was obedient....and very rebellious as a teenager ..especially with my mother....I wouldn't dare talk back to my dad.

lol..I was rebellious because I thought my little sister was getting away with everything!
I guess each child has their own set of problems.
I've changed a lot since I was a child...at a point I was a brat.
I've gone through so many transformations to be the person that I am...that I can write a book on it. When I think back, I can't believe the kind of child that I was....no one who knows me will believe me if I told them what kind of a child I was (my husband wouldn't believe me!)

Well, it's good you have transformed into a better person. Why don't you try to play with your life and write down about it. I'm sure each of us has a story to tell.

My second eldest sister was known to be a spoiled and rebellious prat because she grew up with our grandma. But now she has changed a lot too.

I'll probably get down to writing a short story on my life when the kids are a little older.
By brat I didn't mean the tantrum throwing kind (though I would be argumentative with my mother when I was a teen), more of a snob because I didn't know any better...and the luxurious lifestyle was the only one I knew till we moved to India.
Now, I know why I did the things I did....no one else (not even my parents) would...but I'm glad...because those experiences helped me be the person I now am...and I've learnt to appreciate a lot of things in life.

Don't worry I know what you meant by that "brat" thingy. You are right. Our previous actions and mistakes can make us a better person and I'm glad at the positive transformation that happened in your life.

I used to love to read and wouldn't give much trouble to my parents.
I wasn't a brat in the sense of throwing a tantrum(never did that...but would argue a lot when I was a teenager)...but I did take the luxuries I had as a child for granted and found it hard to adjust when we moved to India when I was in 6th grade. The kids in class thought I was a snob then ('brat' was a term they used then for lack of a better word....but they helped me change within a year).

lol...I was a dreamer too. But I would think of myself in different situations...one time I was a princess...once I was part of the bunch in 'The Faraway Tree'..then yet another time...I made a special appearance in 'The Famous Five'...lol
I would also wonder if I was a part of the family ext door...or some family that I would see in a car passing ours, how would life be!
But I didn't think much about other people...in the sense...what are they thinking...how do they feel...that kind of stuff (I started doing that when I was in my late teens)

Oh yes, we all grow as people. I've changed so much through my experiences. I'm a totally different person now and still growing and changing.
I used to argue a lot too....but that has come down a lot.
And I learnt to appreciate a lot of things I took for granted when I started living alone.

As the saying goes: You dont realize the importance of a thing unless you lose it.. So we do learn from our experiences when we become independent and start living by ourselves.

I can understand...and am so sorry that you had to go through what you did.
I was sexually abused since I was around 10...and it took me 5 years to muster the courage to tell someone I hardly knew (who thankfully told my dad)...but there are still more cases that are still in the closet...and it's only after I was in my mid 20s that I understood one of the reasons for my acting out was that.
lol..having friends got me into a lot of trouble too (mostly at school)..I was a scape goat most of the time.

childhood is not something i look back on happily, it hurt a lot. Yet it made me a determined adult and the best mum i can be to my kids
blessed be

Yet it made me a determined adult and the best mum i can be to my kids

Ya me too..I think the ONLY good thing I got from my parents was how NOT to be a parent!

I'm so sorry to hear that.
I know how it feels. I went through the same myself. But I started acting out....and don't remember going through depression. But I remember being scared of people coming close to me....but never telling anyone about it. I still do not like people standing physically close to me...one reason why I hate travelling in crowded public transport.
But my experiences have made me tougher (it took some years for me to get over and move on)...and hope you have moved on too.
God bless!

my depression has been with me since my childhood but I was a crybaby instead I was quite withdrawn...in fact holding things in and not going to ppl for advice, help or to lean on etc STARTED when I was a kid and just got more intense the older I got...

crybaby....such a horrible word isnt it..

I'm more like Raven....withdrawn. Though I have friends...I don't really open up easily to people.

I wasn't shy...but as usual I meant something and said something else.
I didn't mean a brat as the throwing tantrum kind. I was so used to the luxuries of life..that I didn't know any different....so when we moved countries, it was too much of a shock to me. Now I know it was a little bit of snobbish behaviour (but no one had prepared me)....though my friends then said I was a 'brat' (the vocabulary of a 11 year old around 20 years back).

lol..I can relate to that when I was less than 10. I didn't blame it on anyone...just made sure I did things that no one noticed.