Borrowing things

I don't think there's anything wrong with the way that you feel. Clothing is something very personal...it's worn on your body...and some people feel more strongly than others about the possibility of any kind of transfer. Myself, if I loan an article of clothing to someone, which is usually one of my grown daughters, I have to wash it myself before wearing it again even if she tells me it's beeen washed. So, don't sweat it...pun intended.;-)

I'm that way with clothes also. Just because I've had people borrow some nice articles of clothing and never see them again. I'm a mom So I like my nice clothes and dont have them just to throw around like that. Same with shoes. So I dont do that anymore. So I dont think its you I think you've just learned your lesson and so did I.

I have issues with people borrowing money from me. I've actually stopped doing that because I can never be sure I'll actually get my money back. I don't care about my clothes actually, because I'm sure no one is too interested in wearing what I wear, so it's not a big deal to me.

Borrowing, be it furniture, money, your car, cloths, not a good way to go, for some reason respect seems to go out the door.

My sister does this to me all the time. I swear she only comes over to my hosue to steal my clothes. I say steal because I never see them again and it drives me CRAZY cuz i dont have alot to begin with. I don't think your being differant at all you never know if your going to get it back.

We have different personality and attitude and I have known a lot of people who can afford to do it. Not me, when I ask someone to borrow it is the shoes or clothes that I don't like to use anymore and might end up giving to my friend. I can allow my sister to use my favorite shoes and clothes but not anyone else, but my sister also doesn't like the idea of borrowing, which is good thing!

I do not have a problem with people borrowing things from me either as long as they repay me or return my items the same way the was before I lended them to them. I hate to lend things to people who do not repay or return my items in the same condition. I would never lend my clothes to anyone because I do not want to wear them after someone else wore them. I think it is opkay to be who you want to be and think the way you want to think.

The only person who ever borrows clothes from me is my sister but I don't have a problem with it. I, sometimes, borrow her clothes too. I'm okay with family members borrowing things from me because I know they'll return. I use to let my friends borrow things (DVDs, books, etc.) but now I'm not too keen about it. I take really good care of my things so I expect them to return to me the same way I loaned it out. However, most of the time that's not the case. There was an incident once when I let some friends borrow a couple of my anime DVDs (they were very expensive, $30 each) and they in turn let someone I didn't know borrow them without telling me (they kept on telling me that they weren't done with it yet even though they had it for over a month). I was pretty upset that they lied to me about it and when I did get them back my DVDs were all ruined (scratched up and cracked). There were some other similar incidents so I hardly ever let anyone borrow my things anymore.

How's this for revealing something about relationships: I would lend my clothes to friends - because if I call them my friends, it isn't because we've gone to Dunkies once or twice!

I would not lend any of my clothes to family. Here's the interesting/tragic part - they do not KNOW me well enough for me to trust that respect for me would emanate from them onto my clothes.

In other words - I get the "ick" feeling thinking about lending clothes (or sharing a Coke or eating utensils) with family. Not so for my real friends - which, as I said above, is redundant.

I don't mind people borrowing things and money from me as long as they give them back to me later. I don't mind lending people clothes. But as to shoes, I have to think about it. I don't feel comfortable with the idea that some others wear my shoes. It's just not that good. I think you are just ok to be you. Every one has preference. Besides, yours are quite normal.