And this is why my boys aren't potty trained!

Foxy You are right!! I mothered three boys. Been there, done that. I figure if they're old enough to walk they're old enough to find the bathroom. Let them go naked under their shirts every time you can. And, make them clean up any mess they make---they'll learn. You might have to ignore (or beat up) the rest of the family. All the best, and it really DOES work.

Have you tried to find some cute and NEAT big boy undies like Spiderman or some other figure/icon they love? I have found that praise is the only way to go on potty training and the others need to zip their mouth if they can't say something good!

What would happen if you stopped buying the pullups? Yes "they" might nag you a bit, but these are your children and "they" have no business trying to tell you how to raise them. If "they" want your kids in pullups, "they" can darn well buy them with their own money! The only time "they" should have any input is if what you are doing is putting the kids in danger. I don't think a wet bum constitutes danger.

I would personally make a stand and do it the way you want no matter how much others nag and moan at you. All these special pull up and extra dry type nappies just encourage children to be lazy and not use the potty or the toilet whereas the old ones that got them wet would make them uncomfortable so more likely to want to be out of them early. Clever marketing ploy by nappy manufacturers to sell more eh! If you can put up with the nagging perserve and you will probably find after two weeks you may only have one of the three in nappies or maybe none at all. Ellie:D

Are these YOUR children? Until you stand up and tell everybody else that you have heard enough of their opinions and have wasted all the money on pull-ups that you plan to. you will be going to the school and changing their pull-ups when they are in first grade. I know you don't want advice but this can't be good for your children! Potty training is a significant building block to learning other things.

I feel for ya Foxy. I'm trying to start potty training with my Kate, and I don't thinkits going to be pretty.

Here is a tip I got from a mommy site. It works for those kids that don't like feeling wet or messy. Put a paper towel in a regular diaper. A regular diaper is designed to take away the wetness, and the paper towel will make the wetness stick. In doing this, its the same effect as the pull ups, because the pull ups let them feel wet.

Don't know if that will help you, but I hope so.

I think you should set a boundary between 'them' and you and even if your s/o doesn't back you up, I think I would stand up and say that you are the mother and tell them they won't get trained as long as you put 'diapers' on them. I would let them know right quick that they were the ones holding my child back. I think you really need to assert yourself into this situation and tell those people where to get off. And if s/o doesn't like it, you can tell him he should have handled it but didn't so you did.

I hate to tattle tale on my little girl. But, when she was just about two or three years old,when we were potty training her, if I put her in a diaper at all, she refused to use the toilet. She would literally use the diaper, even if she were fully awake.

We had to simply forgo potty training pants and Pull ups and diapers of all kinds for the daytime. Otherwise she refused to use the bathroom. They get confused and think they're supposed to go in those Pull ups. I don't know why more people don't see that.

Part of learning self control for the bladder is to be able to wear big kid under pants and underwear and regular clothes. And, the sooner the child starts the learning process, the easier it will be. That's what I found with mine. I didn't rush her. But, when she was ready, she let me know, that she didn't want to wear diapers anymore. And, that's when we began. But, it took well over a year to perfect the no-diaper process.

You're right about Pull ups, being just big kid diapers. Some women use them for their kids, cause they're afraid of getting pee on the carpet. But, we have stone tile floors, so it wasn't an issue for us.


You're doing the right thing. That technique worked for me, too. Now, mine is 100% potty trained for both day and night. My secret for night time potty training was to cut out the bottle at an early age. And, also cut out liquids within one hour of bedtime. And, if needed, then only one sip of water. And, mine goes to the bathroom at least twice before bedtime. Hope those tips help.

You are doing a super job on your own. Please don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Trust your own best judgement.

Foxy the problem isn't with you per say it is with the rest of your family. On the other hand who is the rest of the family that they hold power over you on how you raise your kids or train them to go to the bathroom or anything else for that matter. That would be the day someone tell me how to raise my kids without an invitation to do so. If your kids can walk run and play they can most certainly find there way to a bathroom and do their business. Recently on one of those awareness news stories they were saying in is only children in America that stay in diapers for longer then a year. For me raising my kids I like them trained within a year but if not for sure they would not be reaching their second birthday wearing a diaper. I have no problem with the pull ups at bed time in case of accident but they were taught to wake me up if that were possible. I do realize some kids don't know or can't catch themselves in their deep sleep. Sore subject for me. Get a load of the girl from Sabrina the teenage witch... her son is over three years old and she has a show now on the net about potty training. If you ask me they should have someone who is working on training their kid long before that to do the show.

I think pull ups do hinder one being potty trained. And the way you are doing it would be the way I would do it as well. I didn't have any trouble at all with training my oldest daughter. Since she was waking up dry from sleeping and her naps, I started setting her on the potty as soon as she woke up and she was trained by 11 months old. Now I didn't have the same success with my youngest daughter and she was about 3 before she was trained. Oh no, 3 in diapers as much as they cost. I was glad that I never even had two in diapers at the same time.