Are you a pushover?

I used to be a pushover but I am becoming a person that says NO and let me tell you sometimes it feel so good to say NO
I changed my pushoverness because I started thinking of myself and when someone would take advantage of me they where being selfish and so I thought it was time for me to play the selfish card. I say yes to somethings but only when I know in my heart I should say yes.

I wouldn't consider this a pushover. This is some of the attributes that I have. But after awhile you have to take a stand especially given up your rights whenever there is a dispute. Person will just start one with you so that they will come out the winner. It is nice to do charities. I always enjoy doing it, it give me as sense of caring and responsibility. Don't label yourself as a pushover more as a God fearing person who know that having love instead of them is better then storing hatred.

Enjoy being who you are and do not change for another person.

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Hi There,

I have learned the hard way in life that a pushover is not the way to be. People sense it and will jump all over that. Being taken advantage of is an understatement! I have also learned not to go too far the other way as that is just as bad and in some cases worse. I try to reach a middle ground where I stand firm in my beliefs, but have some flexibility.

cheers,

I am far from a pushover. I can not be pushed, and I am not afraid to let people know what I really think. I am not the kind of person who'd make a pushover of someone else either. I am content to leave people alone, if they leave me alone.

Yes my friend I am definitely a pushover, I have been all my life and I think I am now to old to change:) .

I'm a real pushover when it comes to people who ask for homework. I guess I just hate disappointing people if I say no to their face. I know that I shouldn't allow myself to let people copy my homework once I'm in college. I should just offer to help them with their homework next time anyone asks.

Well I used to refer to myself as "the doormat" in my previous marriage. Like you, that wasn't a compliment but was a sad description of what my marriage was like. After over 20 years of abuse I said ENOUGH, and got divorced. Now I've learned to stand up for myself, say no when needed and be happier in the process. Sometimes it just takes enough of the world pushing at you before you finally say enough and put a stop to being pushed around.

I can relate. I come from a loud, dominating family and I was always the quiet one (in fact I still am). This meant that when I was younger, I was just kind of pulled into things, even if it was something I didn't want to do.
Even at work, I can find it difficult to say no, even if I'm at maximum capacity.
I think a lot of being a pushover comes from not wanting to let anyone down. So we try and do everything for everyone so no one is disappointed with us.
As to changing the behaviour, for me, moving overseas by myself and working in China as an English teacher helped me to become stronger. Of course that's not an option for everyone though!
The only other method I've ever heard about is to practice saying 'no' to people, starting off with little things before gradually building up to those larger situations that you would have normally gone along with.

I used to be a big pushover because I just could not say no to people. I wanted to but felt the need to always say yes to them. I got the point of where I got tired of it. Alot of people used me. I then learned how to say no to them. they got mad but I didn't care. They didn't show me any respect to begin with anyway. People will use people and never return a favor to them. People have to know when to say no to someone if they do not want to do something. I got tired of doing what others wanted me to do. I do what I want to do now and I have learned how to say no to them.