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In deciding to be brutally honest with myself I have come to the conclusion that I'm a pushover. That's not exactly complimentary from my point of view. I'm the person who gets all of the phone calls soliciting donations for some charity or other. I'm easily persuaded to buy something when I know deep down that I should be saving instead of spending money. I am often the first to cave in when I have had a dispute with a family member or friend regardless of who was right or wrong. Yep, I should have a big P stamped on my fore head for being the pushover that I am. I really hate finding it so difficult to say no to almost everyone in most circumstances but I have not found a way to change myself. Do you find it hard to say no to people? Do you consider yourself a pushover and an easy mark? What would you do to change your behavior? Thanks for your input.
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3. Marcola (1176) | 3 months ago | This post contains content of a mature nature. You must be Signed in or Registered to have the option to view this content.
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worldwise1 (4996) | 3 months ago | Most of the calls I get are from law enforcement agencies and environmental agencies, Marcola, that I have donated to in the past. I was better able to afford it then but they don't seem to get that I am unable to any longer.
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4. golfproo (1614) | 3 months ago | Hi There, I have learned the hard way in life that a pushover is not the way to be. People sense it and will jump all over that. Being taken advantage of is an understatement! I have also learned not to go too far the other way as that is just as bad and in some cases worse. I try to reach a middle ground where I stand firm in my beliefs, but have some flexibility. cheers,
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5. danishcanadian (13951) | 3 months ago | I am far from a pushover. I can not be pushed, and I am not afraid to let people know what I really think. I am not the kind of person who'd make a pushover of someone else either. I am content to leave people alone, if they leave me alone.
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6. weemam (6671) | 3 months ago | Yes my friend I am definitely a pushover, I have been all my life and I think I am now to old to change:) .
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7. emskoneko (496) | 3 months ago | I'm a real pushover when it comes to people who ask for homework. I guess I just hate disappointing people if I say no to their face. I know that I shouldn't allow myself to let people copy my homework once I'm in college. I should just offer to help them with their homework next time anyone asks.
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worldwise1 (4996) | 3 months ago | I think, emskoneko, you should rather be asking yourself why these people are not doing their own homework. It is unfair for them to benefit from your hard work.
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8. TessWhite (949) | 3 months ago | Well I used to refer to myself as "the doormat" in my previous marriage. Like you, that wasn't a compliment but was a sad description of what my marriage was like. After over 20 years of abuse I said ENOUGH, and got divorced. Now I've learned to stand up for myself, say no when needed and be happier in the process. Sometimes it just takes enough of the world pushing at you before you finally say enough and put a stop to being pushed around.
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9. kriszelunka (395) | 3 months ago | I can relate. I come from a loud, dominating family and I was always the quiet one (in fact I still am). This meant that when I was younger, I was just kind of pulled into things, even if it was something I didn't want to do. Even at work, I can find it difficult to say no, even if I'm at maximum capacity. I think a lot of being a pushover comes from not wanting to let anyone down. So we try and do everything for everyone so no one is disappointed with us. As to changing the behaviour, for me, moving overseas by myself and working in China as an English teacher helped me to become stronger. Of course that's not an option for everyone though! The only other method I've ever heard about is to practice saying 'no' to people, starting off with little things before gradually building up to those larger situations that you would have normally gone along with.
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