Do you tend to give best response to your friends?
@jewelenterprises (1996)
Australia
June 16, 2008 9:23pm CST
When you start a discussion do you really read all the responses to decide who gets best response or do you tend to give it to your friends?
I mean, I know you would read all responses but when it comes to allocating best response do you re-read?
For me, it depends on the number of responses my discussion gets. I tend to be a little lazy. If I have a lot of responses and one of my friends has made a really good response I'll give it to them without reading any further through my responses. If it's only one or two pages of responses then I'll read them all before deciding.
I know... slap on the wrist for being lazy 
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@danishcanadian (28954)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
I don't often give best responses, but when I do, I give them to outstanding people. My friends and my husband have all receied best responses from me, as well as total stranger, but all have earned those best responses.
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@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I must admit that I won't bother giving a best response unless I feel the person has actually earned it. Sometimes you will get all pathetically short answers that basically show no thought at all... in such a case I don't bother allocating best response.
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@desertdarlene (8911)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I give out a lot of best responses to my friends, but I don't limit it to them only. I actually go through all the responses and choose the one I think deserves Best Response. If there are a lot of responses that are very similar, I will often choose the one who answered the best first. In a real pinch, I may add more weight to a friend's response than someone I don't know. But, that's extremely rare.
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@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
Yes, I'm the same. I certainly don't limit my best responses to friends. Even though as I say I sometimes get lazy about it if there are a lot of responses to read through.
What I'm trying to do now is to allocate a best response when I read it. If it looks like the person has really considered their response and made an effort to communicate it well then they will receive best response... whether they happen to agree with my point of view or not.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
Oh yes, if I allocate best response to a friend it's not just on friendship basis, it's also because they have thought about their response and contributed something worthwhile to the discussion.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I give best responses to friends a lot but I don't just give best responses to friends. I'm not even sure who all of my friends are aside from some people so I can't always be sure I'm giving a best response to a friend or someone that isn't a friend. I get lazy when I have tons of responses though so I tend to give best reponses to friends, but only if they really do give me a great responses.
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@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I'm the same, if my friends get best response they still have to earn it, I don't just give it because they're my friend. They have to have given the response some thought and made a worthwhile contribution to the discussion.
@myliezl0903 (2726)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
yes, sometimes i tend to give the best response to my friend.,just like you im kinda lazy when it comes to reading all the response in my posting.,so if i saw my friend in that topic i do give it to him/her.,Ü
have a nice day ahead! 
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@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
Yes, if I see a friends response is thoughtful and valuable then I will give them best response without reading the rest of the responses... but only if there happens to ba a large number of responses.
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@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
Heheheh, this discussion is going to be one of the hard ones to give best response, because it has received a lot of responses.
Perhaps this time I should make a point of reading all responses before allocating best response and make sure that if a friend gets best response that they genuinely have the best response.
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@balasri (26537)
• India
17 Jun 08
I have hundreds of friends here. And nearly a dozen of them are always busy. Since I have selected my friends on the basis of their smartness and wit naturally their responses are always good and any one of them is always makes a great response that deserves the BR. It is not intentional .It happens so. Hope you will understand.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Actually, I gave you best response BEFORE you sent me the frienship request.
@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I feel anyone on here deserves the Best Response. Why should it only be one of my friends? There are so many New people coming in here daily, and sometimes some of these could become one of your Good friends, or someone you will always want to reply too, so why should anyone choose to limit themselves like this here?
I am sure there are some on here that do this though, and never take time to read some of the others. But hey, if you do not give others a chance, you are cutting yourself short, and really could be missing out as well. Just my thoughts.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I agree entirely. I'm not saying that I ONLY give best responses to friends. In fact, I sometimes give best response to a person who outright disagrees with me. But if they have proved to me that they have really thought about the topic then as far as I'm concerned they have earned it.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
17 Jun 08
I read all the responses and give it to the best irrespective of whether the person is my friend or not. Sometimes there are a couple of responses (including that of my friends) that are really good and then I most often than not...give the BR to the friend.
I've also made new friends based on some responses people give.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I think it is responses and discussions posted that causes most of us to make friends
And I will give best response to people who aren't in my friend list... I sometimes even give best response to someone who presents an opposing viewpoint.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Yeah, I've noticed some people get all offended by opposing opinions... like they want every person to agree with them... I find it educational to have someone disagree with me LOL... as long as they do it in a respectful manner
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
20 Jun 08
It is a temptation once you have gotten to know lots of people on here. Some people you just get along really well with.
But no-one gets left feeling left out in my discussions. I always respond to everyone who posts. Just that I get to give a real buzz to one person with best response
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
20 Jun 08
Kind of a loaded question. For one thing, its usually only friends that respond to my discussions, unless I talk about something "oh noes" controversial. So the answer would be yes... and that's because they are the ones to respond to the discussion and they are the ones that give responses worthy of BR too. Double the credit in my opinion.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
20 Jun 08
You have a point there too. I think at least half the responses to my discussions come from friends anyway... because they've seen my discussion in their 'discussions my friends started' sortie.
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Aug 08
i did similar sometimes when i am little bit busy attending my customers while reading responses from my discussions. but i make sure that the comment from my friend is good and have something i can learn. if no idea i can post, what i did was denoting best response to all my discussions. i consider everyone's comment either from my friend or not, i choose the best post no matter what the friendship we have.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
4 Aug 08
Yes, I believe that the person who receives best response really does have to make a good response... just that sometimes if there are a lot of responses it can be very tedious reading through them all to find the best response.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I try to give the best response to either the response that either had the most useful information or the one with the most touching story, ect. Though I have yet to receive enough replies to a post yet to get lazy.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
17 Jun 08
I've had several discussions with over 40 responses... it gets a little tedious going through them. Especially if you do what I've done a couple of time and gotten behind on allocating BR and had to do about 20 in one go.
Nobody would feel underappreciated though since I respond to every contributor.
Actually, I've done well today, two posts have received heaps of responses... one of them even got into the digest. It's only the second post I've had appear in the digest.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
It's okay, I didn't think you were having a go at me. I was just pointing out that I always try to make every person feel special by acknowledging their responses.
Hmmm, though I did create one monster yesterday LOL... I've got 60 responses already. And I still need to respond to about 30 of them LOL.
@freedomg (1684)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I'm looking forward to the day when I start getting a lot of responses. I hope you didn't think I was saying anything bad about you, because I wasn't. And the fact that you do respond to everyone with that many posts is not only amazing but very appreciated.
@bombshell (11256)
• Germany
17 Jun 08
yes i give a best response if the response fits to my topic or a nice comments.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
The only time I don't allocate best response is when I don't feel that people really bothered to give good responses.
Having said that though, I still have several unresolved discussions that I haven't gotten around to giving BR for yet.
@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
I always read all my responses, and try to respond to all acoordingly.... As for Best response I will give it to the one I think has made the best response I don't favortise.... Sometimes I do have trouble selecting the Best response and leave it till a later date, when I can reread over my responses....
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Yes, I always read all responses and reply to them. In any case, the one that receives best response must always be a quality response... my friends don't get it just because they are my friend.
@checapricorn (16060)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hi jewelenterprise, I always read and learn from each responses and I don't consider the handle or name of the one who will get my BR, it will be given to someone whose response or message has quality and wonderful content, not necessarily a long one nor it agrees with what I stand for..
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Hi checapricorn... I don't particularly either. I just occasionally get a little lazy (usually when there are several pages of responses to read through), the response must still be a quality response... otherwise it won't get it.
@carolscash (9491)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I try my best to read all of the responses on a subject before I rate one of them as best response. It wouldn't neccessarily be the best one if I just gave it to my friend and I hadn't read the entire thing. I know that my friends know that I am always glad to hear from them but if they haven't given the best response then I don't give it to them.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Heheheh, well it would have to be pretty pathetic to get all pouty just because you didn't get best response. I don't think any of us is dependant on it to make us feel good.
Even if I get a little lazy with best response I'm confident that I've made all responders feel good by acknowledging their responses.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
17 Jun 08
HI jewelenterprises, I give best response to whoever I believe deserves it. Many times it is one of my friends but not always. I always wait a few days, often more than a week, before giving best response. This gives more people a chance to respond. I always read all responses carefully and sometimes it's very difficult to choose and others might have chosen differently. Of course I've never had more than a hundred responses as I know some do. Blessings.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Yeah, sometimes it can be really hard to choose between them. In any case, I know I make everyone feel good just by acknowledging their response... and I LIKE making people feel good... unfortunately I can only allocate one best response.
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
I would read all the responses and there are lots that catch my attention at once and I would just memorize them so I'll know what I must reread in case there are lots of good answer. I don't go after who are my friends or not, its the post that I read and not the one who responded to my discussion.
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Even if I'm being lazy the quality of the content is important to me. I won't just give best response to a friend on the basis of our friendship... the response must still be a quality response.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
Yes, of course I do read all of them especially when there's a lot of responses and when I get a lot of good answers. I still give best responses to my close friends but that depends of course. :)
@jewelenterprises (1996)
• Australia
18 Jun 08
Well, it wouldn't be right at all to give it to a friend based simply on the friendship... that's not what I do, their response has to be a good one.
