A moment of sick satisfaction

I think you have let this women (that wasn't married to you) play to big a part in the way you have viewed the world (and maybe yourself) for the last 9 years.

Foxy,

If anyone could understand how you feel, its my wife,

First of all I want to say you aren't evil,

I know how my wife feels about certain people, and I know when we got word that our former landlord died, I have to say she was quite happy, and probably as bad as his death was she hoped he suffered a painful death, she wanted him to feel just a little of the pain she felt from him.

I know there will be no lost love and probably about the same feeling when the peope that adopted her die as well.

I think these feelings are part of human nature, and right or wrong we do feel them....

It doesn't make us a bad person per say, I think it makes us human.

David

It doesn't make you a bad person. It just means that you are human.
I am not sure how I would react if something happened to my husband's ex. I really dislike her alot and don't wish her well. I am not sure if I wish her death or injury. I guess I should wish her well so that she would leave my stepson alone. Although, if she were dead or catatonic she would have leave him also.
When I was younger, I blamed my stepmother for my biological father stopping seeing my sister and me. When I was about 18ish, I heard through the grapevine that she had sat on a pair of scissors and got some sort of infection and laughed uproariously. I can acknowledge now that it wasn't all her fault. He is just a jerk.

If someone is out of our lives, remembering hurt they did only gives them power over you. It doesn't help. Indulging the little hateful and spiteful monster inside you is a decision that is left to your discretion. But I find it helpful to not feed the trolls (or little spiteful monsters in our psyche) if at all possible.

I can understand your feeling.I have the same feeling for someone who hurt me so much.I know God give justice for you and i am also waiting for mine to come and the last loudest laugh would be mine if it happens.I know its not good to hope that one day she should be punished for what she has done to me but we are just human and i know God is fair.He will give justice for me and would let her feel how hurt she did to me or even more painful.So it is just right to laugh and celebrate i think because i will do the same.Its the reward of the pain she had given you.

Sorry to differ but I don't think your reaction was cool.I would be thinking of her innocent 11 yr old son.It must be so painful for him.I always say it take 2 for everything just about.So your hubby was also to blame.I would never laugh where innocent children are hurt.That would be mny first thought. I always feel sad about accidents of that nature as there are always innocents that are hurt by thier passing.

You didnt mention the details but it could have been that your ex lied to her about his marrital status. Most cases i have seen the other woman is unaware of the fact that he is married. I think i would be more mad at him than her.

Long long times ago there was folf poet he says in his poetry

"Death is an ultimate truth soo dont celebrate when your enemies die beacuse one day friends and lover ones also have to die"

I think you should try to change your attitude.

I dont think you are a bad person at all.
You had been hurt before,and this person hurt you
I reckon a few of us had we been in your shoes would have laughed to.

I think that is just horrible of you but to each their own. I don't judge anyone so
anything you do is none of my business. But since you started this discussion you have
made it my business, so here goes.

I think you are only thinking this thing out with you emotions and not with your brain.
We all know it is bad to think that way but sometimes we can't help it. It is how
we handle our thoughts that count. I hope you didn't say anything like this to your
ex because it would just be cruel. Is he taking care of the 11 year old? The poor baby,
it must be awful for the child. At least have some sympathy for the child.

What comes around, goes around. She did wrong and she pays for it now that she has to
face her maker. And you will have to face your maker one day and this isn't one of the
things you want your maker to see, so deal with it and forgive her. Life is too short
for us to hold bitter feelings.

I have an ex-husband too. He had an affair with one of my girlfriends and I just
kicked him out when I found out. That was 20 years ago and he is still with her. But
she didn't get the best of him, as he never had any kids with her and we did, two.
So I don't care what happens with them but I still wouldn't want to see her dead.

Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend,
Have a good day, Chris