A moment of sick satisfaction

I will validate your feelings nor will I chide you. The fact that you let what happened haunt you for so long only hurt you, not them. There is freedom in forgiveness. Yes it is wrong to feel the way you do about her death, but more important than that is why do you feel that way. I understand the hurt she caused but I suspect there are deeper issues.

I'm very sorry to hear this new.But,I even could understand your feeling.But,at the same time.I think your ex-hubby is a man who has no single heart,or this all could't happen.Sometimes,man is weak.

You know what? You're human. I think feeling this way about somebody who hurt you so badly is natural. Many people would have those same feelings but would not have the guts to admit it. I don't think it makes you evil, it makes you HUMAN.

I think that sometimes when we hold grudges, it makes us do things that aren't so nice. I am sure that you feel for her family. She caused you hurt and destroyed your life at the time.

ohh..it really hurt i guess for you to be happy during his wife's tragic death..and i understand it..but maybe since i havent experienced similar like yours i really dont know how to react on such situation..but i would rather say its a bit a relief on your side for having her gone and atleast you had made a sweet revenge unknowingly..

I feel your hurt was very deep that is why you responded in a manner and all this while you was carrying this in your conscious as you have not forgiven the person. May be anyone in your position would have felt the same but at the same time would have felt bad for the 11 year old who lost her mother. As we are a mixture of good and bad inside so at this incidence i would have laughed as well as cried.

I think you have every reason to be pleased about it. Of course if we hear maniacal laughter from you about it and you brag about how funny it is then there would be something wrong with you but I don't think you will do that.
I don't think you are bad for being pleased that someone who helped to destroy your marriage is dead. I had similar feeling - although not near as bad - this week when I heard that a bloke who was my headteacher at school had died. My initial reaction was "about time". That probably sounds mean but he was old, I didn't find him a particularly nice person and I don't see any reason why I should care that he is dead. So, let's make a deal, if you say I'm not evil for that, then I'll say you're not evil for this. OK?!

i can't blame you for feeling that way...even if i am in your position i might also be feeling the same way. but i feel sorry for her son...he is an innocent victim here...let us just pray for the child.

While I can understand why you may be happy, what about that child left behind? We're not talking about some woman who had nothing. We're taking about someone who had a dependant.

To wish death on someone who had a child who never harmed you is wrong. I can understand the reason for wanting to, but that dosen't make it right.

And laughing about it is even worse.

Hi foxyfire, I agree that not everyone would laugh at such a situation, but not everyone would would be honest enough to admit it either. Many would feel as you do and pretend that they felt sorry about it. To be honest, I don't think that I could feel happy about something like that no matter what had been done to me,but that is just me, and we are all different. It is never easy to put the past behind us and move on,I know that from experience. You and your ex-hubby were very young at the time and I feel sorry for the eleven year boy, who has lost his mother. I don't think you are a bad person, you are just having a very hard time dealing with the wrong that was done to you. You were the victim and anyone would be angry,but someday you will be able to leave it behind you and I think you will feel better for it. Blessings.