A moment of sick satisfaction

I think it was a normal reaction. I probably would have had the same initial reaction that you had if I were in the same position. There are a few people that I have come into contact with in my life that I have wished would just drop dead. And honestly if one of them were to die today I would not feel bad about it at all.

I think that woman got what she deserved. At least she got it in this life and not in the next. I think she took advantage of your ex and lured him with her charms. She would have gotten punished in hell, but at least she got a taste of what she has to go through in eternity. I would not be doing the happy dance, but I would still say she got punished. I never had feelings like that, but I have had, why can't something really bad happen to someone who deserved it, who was not repentant of the wrong they caused?
And why can't the results happen to them now instead of waiting until they die? I got punished for the bad thing I did in this life and -well it never works out what you want. At least in your case it did.

fOXYFIRE33, I have been cheated on too. While I very much can relate to how you feel about this woman, you must first consider this.... Your husband is the one that chose to cheat. He is the one that cheated on you! He is the one that broke your wedding vows and broke your heart. This woman, while I agree must have been sleezy and of course WRONG, was not the one to betray you. She really did not owe you any loyalty. If your husband was going to cheat, there just would have been someone else if not her. As hard as it might be to accept it is the truth. Please do not live your life hating and holding grudges. In the end it hurts you more than anyone else. I am sorry for the pain I know you must feel or have felt. I know that pain very well. In your heart you know that it is wrong to act in such a way.
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In my opinion it is the way you got the news that made you react this way. She is dead and gone, your laughing could not hurt her at that point. I think it is because HE told you-- Your laugh was to get at the one that really hurt you. It is probably pretty normal that you would have wanted to say somthing mean or hateful to HIM about this. What did he expect you would say? I mean really!

I think with given time, you will forgive yourself for the thoughts. Honestly, if it was me, I would feel more for the child than anything. It's ok to get these emotions out, don't let it keep bottled inside. When the person we believed killed my brother was going to prison for hurting a small child, I was happy that he was going to prison, but felt bad for the small child. I don't know how I will react if I ever got news that he died or was killed, I know I won't be sitting here thinking, what about his family. This person destroyed my family, like this woman did your marriage. With your laugh, your probably just getting out all the hatred you had for her a long time ago. Now if you laugh like that everytime you think of her, hear her name, or whatever, then you might have a problem, .

I don't usually respond to these types of heated discussions because they normally get deleted. But, from what I've read so far, there seems to be one thing blatantly clear.

Holding on to that much anger and hatred for 10 years is not good! To have the reaction you had over this woman's death gives testament to the fact that you have been harboring it inside all this time.

My life was destroyed, at the time, when my new husband decided that I was not enough for him. Actually, all the 'girls' (certainly not mature enough to be called women) he bedded while we were married were not enough for him!

He's been divorced 3 times and had several "live in" girlfriends, who all left him because of his adultery or fooling around.

I do not solely blame the females involved. I blamed HIM for allowing himself to be so easily had by these females. But even that does not matter now.

What matters is that I let go of the anger, hatred, resentment and pain this caused me a long time ago!

You just can't go on with that kind of hatred inside. It will destroy you!

My ex had a problem and so did all the females he had while we were married. It's over. Done with. My ex has turned his life around and is now quite happily married. I'm happy for him. I hope the same is true for all the females he went to bed with, as well.

If they haven't changed, their day will come. I will not feel anything about their deaths except maybe sorrow for those they leave behind.

I hope that you can learn to "forgive" even though you will never "forget".

id definitely be checking my Karma on this one. what goes around surely comes back

no I dont think you are wrong. The day my wife's ex-husband is buried...I AM GOING TO PISS BUDWEISER ON THE BAST*RD'S GRAVE...
Now I may have to be bailed out of jail...but it will be worth it...the only reason I haven't killed him already, or that anyone else hasnt for that matter, is because he isnt worth the time it would take me to put a bullet in him...otherwise I would have killed the piece of sh*t a few years ago..full stop...end of discussion...

I have had feelings of someone suffering when I hate them. But, deep dow, I know it won't help my life if something bad happens to them. Conversely, I have been struck by a disabling and terminal disease which has taken away my ability to walk and talk. My life turned to hell since 4.5 years ago. I have lost everything, and I am just about destitute. I have to be cared for 24/7. There is no cure; at the end, I will be totally paralyzed, gasp for air, and die. They don't know what caused this, and it hits people at random, of all races and ethnic groups, and equally both genders. I really feel this is a punishment from G-d.

I have to be honest and say that when I was healthy, I didn't appreciate what I had, and there were times I didn't care whom I offended to speak my mind and/or get what I needed. I often wonder if there is someone like you, someone who didn't like me, someone I offended in the past, who is snickering behind my back. I have even wondered if someone put a curse on me. But I just know there are people who see me in my wheelchair, unable to speak, my mouth and face all twisted, who laugh to themselves and say "ha ha, look at the b**** now! She was pretty, and now she's ugly"

I would say to you what I would say to my enemies: If it makes you feel good to derive pleasure from someone else's misfortune, go ahead and enjoy it. But just the way it hit her out of the blue, something can happen to snuff you out too. Religious types are going to tell you how it is healthier for you to feel sympathy and pity, but how you feel is how you feel. Feel it and get it out of your system. Then, move on.

I feel sorry for you, that you would take delight in the death of another human being, no matter what she did. You need to learn to forgive, rather than to let it fester in your heart and in your life.

Hi. I will not judge you. all I will say is what the Good book says (Bible) ...that vengeance is mine says the Lord. That He will lay a table in front of your enemies. That He will fight your battles.

I am in the same situation at work with this colleague of mine. He is the most evil and slanderous person you have ever worked with. Instead of working, he devices ways of making my life a living hell and picking very childish fights with me at every minute of the day. The thing is, all the time he comes into the office, I wish that God would strike him dead or just bless him with another job (or me) so that I do not have to see him for another day. One day, I heard a woman preacher say that 'forgiveness is a gift to yourself' I started praying for strength to ignore his slanderous comments, his abuses and gossiping meetings he always holds in the company kitchenette. And slowly am starting to regain my footing and love for my job. I still feel that he should not be walking the earth,but I have made peace with God and believe that He will avenge my mistreatment.

I ask you to let it go. It is sad when we get what we want and an opportunity to say 'I told you so' but to be honest, when that day comes and it has not been gained honestly, we feel more worse than we would like to admit. Your Ex-hubby & step son need your help now more than ever. In this act of kindness, you will see God coming through for you in more ways than you could imagine. Let Him avenge, for when He does it, it is sweet and in a big way.

Regards Dear, All the best.