A moment of sick satisfaction

wow, that is amazing - you got your wish! I know that I would probably respond the same way.

Wow.....this is kind of hard to answer...I can see your hatred for this woman if she intentionally started the affair and fully knew you two were married, etc etc, making her the bad person, then yes, you deserve a little chuckle, due to karma, the fact that the 11 yr old son was involved....no, sorry yes, it would be cruel. But I have to admit, if I heard my ex was in an accident, I would laugh too, hope that he would die as well, my reasoning, he supposedly cheated on me (don't know if he said that when we broke up just to rub salt into the wound or not) but he was just...overly mean about everything, even after the breakup, whenever I would try to finish up the bills for utilities, telling him what he owed (yeah, we moved in together, stupid thing to do) he just came out of nowhere saying I'm a dead fish, no one will ever want me etc etc, i should kill myself and do the world a favor, just so many things that didn't make sense and was overly cruel...also, I know I'm not a deadfish in bed, and I could have just as easily told him to ask our other roommate (we were fully broken up and I was moving out the next week, I said what the hell MWAHAHAA (see? That is the well deserved evil laugh) I also wanted to tell him, he just didn't do that to me in bed. haha.

Not a bad person persay but in laughing over someones death even though it took your livelyhood away for a while thats what makes you a bad person...One should never feel happy over anyones death and becareful of what you wish for..I pray this never happens but someone close to you could have the same type of death which is just terrible.I don't know you personally and I am sure that you have good qualities as a person but you must never let this happen again it is said to be kind to all people even if they are your enemy not because they are nice but because you are nice.

I cna certainly understand where you are comming from hun. There have been a couple of times in my life that I felt this very same way. I am still waiting on the final one to happen. When that one does, I will feel relief more than anything and I will probably cry but not out of sadness. I will have to go to the funeral just to make sure that he is dead. There was one point in my life that I would have been more than happy to be the one to cause it. When someone hurts you very deeply, it is bound to happen that you would feel like this towards someone. I saw the other discussion you posted and had to come look at this one just to tell you I not only understand the way you feel about it, but to let you know that I think it is perfectly ok to feel this way as well. (((Hugs to you hun))

Well I don't think what you feel is at all unusual, maybe now you can let go of that anger and start to heal. You do realize that you are the one who has suffered all these years. The other woman didn't feel a thing in fact she most likely didn't even think about you. I went through a similar thing, but I never blamed the woman, she was a single mom and needed a dad for her kids. I blamed my husband and it took a lot of years for me to forgive him, but I never did forget. So I understand.

It is bad but to me it serves your ex husband right. After the way he treated you. By cheating on you and leaving you for her. I am not sure if I would laugh or not if my ex husband's new wife died. I feel kind of bad that his father died the day before I divorced him. At the same time he left me for another woman I got tired of being married to someone that didn't live with me so I divorced him. Our marriage didn't even last a year so it was a big waste of time looking back at it now.

hi foxy, i have been reading all the responses and can understand your feelings. many many years ago, when me and my husband were in our early 20's, something very similiar happened to us. the previous year i had lost a baby and things went very wrong for us. the 'other woman' was in her teens and at the time it was rumoured she was pregnant. (she wasnt, she was lying) you can just imagine how i felt. i won't go into all the details, but i wanted her to have an abortion. plus i can remember saying i hoped she would die so i could dance on her grave. many many years have passed, and i have been married to the same man for nearly 41 years. i can still remember the pain and hurt, but now i dont really care if she is dead or alive. i wouldnt waste my time or energy dancing on anyones grave now. i can remember what it is like to hate, but now i dont expend excess energy on hate. as you get older you do get more philosphical and realise that people, some people that is, arent worth the effort. but believe me, foxy fire, i know exactly how you feel and can understand how you can be laughing and dancing. life is weird and strange and its exactly why its worth living.

Hello my dear foxyfire33 Ji,
This is just satisfaction of your un-quenched desire, which, you desired before seperation and came true. But, as a human-bieng, when none of us are associated directly, would feel bad about the ending of other woman, why not you, who has been associated and was reason for your seperation. I reserve my comments and leave it to you. Just think positively. For this you ahve to forget internal ego. Fighting internal ego requires lot of mental courage. Let's see, if you can. But I am sure you can do it. After all She is no more. have a great day.Let's pray for her demise.

Dear Foxyfire,

You are not bad, I can relate to what you are saying here and I can understand why you reacted the way you did. The day that my stepmother dies I will probably react the same way or something similar.

Foxyfire you were laughing at the memories which were bad and you would be thinking that she got her just rewards, that is a perfectly normal and rational reaction so don't feel bad.

It is unfortunate that the 'other woman' died in such a horrible way and that she leaves an 11 year old child behind. I was only 11 when my mother committed suicide after having a stillborn son.

HUGZ from Kitten1954

I'd probably feel the same way but at the same time I'd feel guilty about it.