A moment of sick satisfaction

I'm glad I read not only your starter but your responses to some others. I'd say your initial reaction is fairly typical.
I'm sure many of us have an ex who we have 'wished was dead' and others we've hated enough that we've 'promised ourselves we'd dance on their graves'. She sounds like the sort of person who'd have many with even more reason to hate her.
It's not a 'nice' side of us, but hate is as much a part of us as love!
I must admit that in your place I'd feel the same! I even admit feeling 'satisfaction' every-time I hear of anything bad happening to an Ex of mine. I used to wish he was dead, but now I hope he has a long life! He's already a sad and lonely man and has learnt the hard way that what you do to others, some-one will do to you.
However I would have stopped 'laughing' the minute I knew how she'd died! Having 'nursed' people who have suffered horrific burns and once being treated myself, I can't think of a more horrific way to die and I couldn't wish it on anyone, not even MY worst enemy. I have a phobic fear of fire and as my hubby drives for a living an even greater fear of car accidents!! I hope it was quick for her! No human deserves that amount of pain!

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I disagree with you on this. with you not forgiving her God cannot forgive you. Do you want to end up with Satan? If you do not forgive that is what will happen. Also what about the child left behind. It willbe hard ffor him. It is hard when you lose your mom no matter what age. For a child it is even worse.

No, you're not bad.
You're just feeling that right now because of the pain you felt when your ex-hubby left you for her.

I usually laughed when something bad happens to my enemy but not to the extent of her death. I usually have this positive way of looking whatever happens to me. If someone has done so much and mean to me, I just let it pass away and forget about it.

i completely understand you. it is very natural for you. say some peopel have really done damage to us. now when something bad happens, we think they are treated the actual way. it is such case.

Yes Foxy, when the man who sexually molested me as a child died, I said I hope he burns in hell. I later learned to forgive him, so it wouldn't eat me alive inside, but though I forgave him, I still couldn't forget the things he put me through. We are human, and there fore will never be perfect. Blessings Marilyn

I have been in the situation of having lost a husband to another woman but I would never wish another person dead for any reason. At the time I know that I was angry and hurt and might have wished to hurt the woman myself, but I found that I was more angry at him than I was at her. HE was the one who betrayed me and the marriage and not her. She was just conveniently there and was able to pick up the pieces that I wasn't able to take care of. To this day I have no love for her and I could care less if I ever see him again, but I would NEVER wish either of them to be dead. I think that it is terrible that you would wish her to die and I think that you probably should be thankful that she took him off your hands unless you are still in love with him, then he is now free to be with you again. I know that I would never take him back, but that would be your choice.

Well Foxy, I don't usually respond twice, BUT I thought of a little song that sums this up nicely.

Isn't it ironic? Don't you think? A little too ironic? And yeah I really do think... it's like rain - on your wedding day, a free ride - when you've already paid, it's the good advice that you just didn't take.. and who would have thought? It figures.

"Ironic"~ Alanis Morrissette

I still don't think there's anything odd about your reaction. I have seen quite a few people who were respondents that I don't want anywhere near me though. LOL! I get the feeling they want to burn me at the stake for having a healthy sense of 'irony meets justice'.

Strangely enough I don't think you're a bad person, after all you didn't cause the fatal accident, (did you?) If you had of done, then that would be a very different discussion, and the law would be on to you. With out trivialising you past experience, your reaction too here death was one of closing a bad book, you liked the cover, but not the read, the important thing to remember here, your "joy" over her death, is not so much that she died, but she is now out of your exhusbands grasp, even though they are not together, and have not been for some time,it's a bit like egg on his face, and not yours, your real issue is, or was with him, and not the "other woman" When your young, and something like this happens its the worst thing ever, and we all look for some one to blame, when the truth is, we should blame our selvs, we reck our marriages, not some one else, and in most cases, the other party is there to pick up our dirty washing, and have hate campaigns put on them. The other woman didn't set out to ruin your marriage, she set out to have that man, I'm only sorry that you weren't wife enough to keep him, and was not husband enough to stay.
I placed a posting on here, asking, When, and If two people truly love each other, and I mean truly love each other, When do you say "Enough is Enough" well I got back some good answers, but the correct answer is NEVER! Buddha be with you...

Well, quite the plethora of responses, eh?

Of course it was just a HUMAN REACTION. And I'm sure God forgives you for it. He is not like some of these bible thumpers.

I understand where you are coming from and you had every right to blame both your husband and her for their actions in making your life a misery back then.

I don't think you are a bad person at all. You are brave to admit this openly, in fact and open yourself up to criticism.

I think the child is now better off, actually, because at least he won't be feeling neglected that his Mom chose not to be with him. Now she just can't so he can go on with his life with his Grandparents loving him properly, I hope, anyway.

I have some of those death wish feelings right now for someone, that I won't go into now to detracat from your discussion. So I understand how you feel.

In my opinion, you were simply satisfied that Karma took it's course, that's all.