My Friend is in Danger,What Can I do?

YOu know if she can't put him in jail as he mite kill her then there is this old country song. But I wouldn't do that. She mite have to move to a different state or something. But she couldn't have anyone help her with kids As they would end up telling him. What state is it in? call ploice and ask them what to do as they can help. But yeah one of them paper's is crap if they have no respect for the law let alone there woman and kids. If the police won't help. There are other things like get a hole bunch of woman and kick his Butt. I know that won't work or it mite. I tied my ex. to the bed and beat him with a fry pan and told him you will never put your hands on me again as I will kill you. and put you in jail. He never touched me again. But I still left him. Your friend onlydia.. No man will ever beat me again. if they try I will die trying to fight them off or they will die.

Obviously she must live in a state that doesn't automatically pick up the case even if the victim doesn't in the cases of domestic violence. I understand your concern for your friend as, you are right that probally someday she wont survive the beating. But she has to be the one to walk away. Its nothing that you can say to her that hasn't already been said. But for whatever reason she feels like she needs to stay with him. Most of it is probally fear, that if she leaves him that he will surely kill her. She probally is co-dependent on men and feel like a man that beats her is better than no man. Its sad to say but a lot of abused women feel that way. She probally feels that another man would not be interested in her with 8 children. With that many children I am sure that she is probally dependent on him financially and will likely use this as yet another excuse that she will give for why she wont leave. I hate to think of the fact that her children have to watch their mother being treated this way. The messages that she is sending to her kids are horrific. She is raising girls to think that this is the way that a man treats a woman that he loves. She is raising boys that think that this is how you treat a woman. Sadly enough studies show that her kids may very well mirror her life in their future relationships. Abusers most times come from abusive homes and think that its okay. The only hope that you as a friend can have to that one day, she will learn to love herself and her kids enough to walk away. She is the only one that can set her free from this madness.

hi miraclefreebies she needs to get away from him, but with eight kids. wow. thats a hard one. Does she have any close relatives she could go to that would take her and her kids in? I would suggest the battered womens shelter but I wonder how many kids could they put up? this is a rotten shame. no woman deserves to be treated like a punching bag. I would suggest you and her go viist a battered womens shelter and see just what they could do for her. also she should be contacting childrens protective society too for her kids safety.

You can not help her if she does not want the help, but what you can do is help those 8 kids that are also being abused. It may sound very harsh but if you call authorities they will intervein telling her she has to chose her kids or him. As a mother that would sure in hell open my eyes. This might be the only way to save all thier lives. Bless them all

I would try talking to her but unfortunatly there isn't much you can do. She has to get up the nerve to leave on her own. I mean obviously you could call the authorities and alert them about the situation. Does she have photos or anything of bruises he's left on her? Because the only problem with that if YOU call and there is no proof she could deny it in fear of him and then he could be angry and do it again. it's a very tough situation. Maybe you could research womens help shelters or counselors and give her the information and let her know that she has help if she leaves. That she doesn't have to live like that. There are alot of assistance programs for woman in the situtation. Just make sure you tell her how much you care for her as a friend and hate seeing her hurt! Let her know you'll do anything to help her.

sad to say, but there really is not much that you can do. unfortunately, if your friend wants to be with him, or doesn't want to leave him, then there is nothing you can do but be there for her to support her or give her whatever help she may need if and when she does want it. even if you were to call the police, they may come and question her to see if everything is ok, but she is the only one who can press charges against him. and unfortunately, doing this may make things worse for her at home with her boyfriend (or husband) if it angers him to have the cops showing up there- which i can imagine that it would. the only thing that you have the power to do would be to call social services if you think the children are in danger. but you need to weigh the implications of that as well- if they show up there she could be in more danger because of it. or if they do show up and determine that the children are in danger, they could be taken out of the home and away from their mother as well. in any case, if the children are in danger, that is a risk that i would take, but that is up to you. i know it is a crappy situation, but there is not a whole lot that you can do without your friend's cooperation. :( just make sure she knows that you are there for her no matter what, and keep your eyes and ears open. good luck with whatever you choose to do.

I'd call the police and an orgnization in your area that helps victims of domestic violence. They will give you the best advice on what to do. I take it that you have told your friend your will help her already and that she will not leave. You absolutely should take action. Good luck tp you and your friend.

unfortunately there isnt much you can do other than offer her help if she wants out since most people wont leave abuse till they are ready and wont budge till then i would keep trying to talk to her about it

well you can send him to my house.. lol.. but sadly until she sees what's going on,and that he will never change she won;t leave him. what the abuser do is make them feel completley like crap about themself and get them thinking no one else will want them. depend on your state law, the cops who goes to their call will have to lock him up. which he needs to be. and just whip like a mule. but right now be there for her, trying to encourage her that she don't deserve this kind of treatment from no man at all. and love isn't suppose to hurt. also call your local law enforcement and see if they have that new spouce abuse law in effict. and the next time you call the cops. if she's has brothers let them know what the jerk been doing. because if it was my sister i would beat him down. he's not a man, he's a punk, bullie, and a few other choice i could think of. she's in my prayers

Help her, take her to meet with a DV counselor. They can help her get help. If you want i can send you some links that i have found. I hope she gets away from him because the kids will grow up & think thats normal in relationships. I will keep your friend in my prayers

miraclefreebies, as bad as this sounds, until she's had enough of his abuse, she'll stay with him. Hopefully, someday she'll reach the point of 'enough is enough' and grab up the kids and leave. I just hope she doesn't wait until something really bad happens. Apparently, her hospital stays hasn't triggered her yet. She's only staying with him out of fear and there's no way of knowing what he's threatened her with. That's always one of the biggest issues in cases like these.

realy sad to know this..still the people are beating..ohh god..you should do somthing for this..whatever you want to do..do it fast..i can not give any ideas to you..how can guess that whole environment..you think deeply and take one decision..that is a best one..because you only know the problem..have a nice time

first thing to do is to pray.. then try talking wit ur friend.. her safety is first.. speak to her husband if you can.. help her and never lose her..!