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If someone give you a favor, would you be thinking of returning one to him? email this discussion to a friend?

myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life1 year ago

It is considerable to note that in my culture if someone gives you a favor or you give someone a favor, one would consider it a debt or an owe and in any way, you one had to return it, we call it locally as "utang-na-loob". I was wondering if this is the same to any culture or race for that matter. Was this an individual thought or just us?

Personally, do you do this?

Please share. happy

 
 
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1. myLot reputation of 96/100. alokn99 (2915)   ranked 526 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

I believe there are different ways of handling favours.Returning a favour and more to the person whenever sought and more is one way to go about it. Then there is the way of passing on the favour and doing good to someone else.


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

I figure it out too, the degree of returning a favor varies yet sadly, there are people who does uses someone for their own good, and never consider the other when they needed them the most and thats sad sad

I love the way you put it though, thanks for your insight alokn! happy

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2. myLot reputation of 93/100. salonga (4642)   ranked 1,582 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

I think this is an individual thought. I've seen many Filipinos who have debt of gratitudes but I've also seen many of us Filipinos who don't know how to return favors. Same with foreigners I think! I've been exposed to different culture due to the nature of my job and I've seen how some of them differ as well when it comes to "utang na loob". One thing I am sure though... I am one person who has lots of this. I can't wait for tomorrow to return the favor when somebody does a favor to me. I feel like doing something also that will please the person. It's not that I feel obligated but I want the person to feel how much I appreciated the favors or help extended to me.


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

Yeah, I think it is too an individual preference of returning the favor one way or another. It is good to know however in your part that you do see it as an appreciation and by that it isnt a burden at all, you do it joyfully. Once again, I owe you one, and am glad that we are "good friends". wink

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3. myLot reputation of 98/100. checapricorn (9963)   ranked 335 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

Hi torch,

I will not demand but I am expecting that when I need my friends' time and assistance, they are there for me even if for some reasons they cannot help me, but they will show some support!
When someone also can do favor to me, I will not forget it and will always be there for her or him when it is her or his time to need me...Because, I believed that is the essence of real friendship!
happyhappyhappy


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

That's wonderful to hear checapricorn, too rare to find good friend and wonderful people as you are. You are such a jewel to your friends. Keep up! thumbup

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4. nomi_shomi (15)   1 year ago

yes i think favor


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

whistle

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5. myLot reputation of 93/100. ANTIQUELADY (11248)   ranked 649 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

i always try to return any favor i'm given. i think that's the least u can do when someone is nice rnough to do something for you.not everyone here does that but they should. some people act like you owe them that but never think to return it.


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

I too acknowledge this fact that not all people does the same, gladly madam you are one of those who find the joy of returning one from someone.

Appreciate the thoughts. thumbup

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6. myLot reputation of 93/100. successlog (1297)   ranked 386 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

hello friend, i think i am also in this situation.if some one give me a favor.i will try my best to return one to him as compensation.It is sure. Because i always think it is a debt to owe someone's help.and i think it is general manner to reply some one. isn't it right? of ourse, it is my pleasure to help someone else.and for me, i don't want to get something back from the guy.lol
good luck
happyhappyhappy


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

It is expected that when someone reply someone's favor, but not to all people I think, some people doesnt bother to care what someone has done for him. Glad to know you return one, thanks for the thought.

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7. myLot reputation of 87/100. markroderick (594)   ranked 4,288 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

Of course its always a give and take process. Sometimes i do a favor for my friend and he/she does some favor for me at times when i needed it most.


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

good for you, but there are people too who doesnt even care what someone has done to them. glad to hear your view. happy

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8. myLot reputation of 89/100. notlistening2 (10697)   ranked 7,713 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

If someone does me a favor yes I will do them a favor in return, I think it is only fare, I asked my sister to load me some money to pay my insurance, when I was sick, now I know they say if you load family money, don't look for it back, but with me that is not true, when I got my income tax money, I had my sister take me to the bank and I with drew $1,000 from my account I paid her back here $230 she load me, I didn't duck my sister to keep from giving her here money, because she didn't have to help me. happy

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9. myLot reputation of 86/100. fwidman (5346)   ranked 1,284 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

If someone does me a favor then I will return the favor, yes. I do it out of politeness and manners as opposed to thinking I owe them a debt happy
Besides, you never know when you may need them to do you another favor sometime happy


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

True that is, hmm nice avatar! wink


myLot reputation of 86/100. fwidman (5346)   ranked 1,284 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

Thanks! Shelly saw this avatar and the first thing she said was "Whose legs are those?" lol I better be careful what pictures I use. Somebody might get jealous lol

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10. myLot reputation of 93/100. SuzyQ12 (1893)   ranked 374 out of 38,167 in life   1 year ago

I call it just doing the right thing.
Personally when someone does something for me
I always try to do them a favor in return.
Thats what being a friend is to me. I normally
try helping my neighbors and friends. I don't
think of it as something being owed to them or
me. Just helping each other out and being a
great person.
Hope you have a great day!


myLot reputation of 97/100. torchablazed (1148)   ranked 172 out of 38,167 in life  1 year ago

That is called making a difference to someone else life. Keep up! thumbup

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