Is a discussion really a discussion when...

maybe since every one that replies reads others that have replied (and some times reply to the other people) it kind of makes it an discussion?? but then again if there was a group of people and a question is asked and every one blurted out one sentence and thats it then yeah i agree..

You said it. Before in my discussion, I emphasized the the imprtance of reading. Many people are not reading the discussions and responses. To get paid more, they are writing the discussion or response or comment and leaving. That is why the people are not expressing anything about their thread. So the mylot authorities should see how much time a person sending on the site and consider it for the payment calculation.Then members will give attention to the discussions or responses.

Personally I think it's up to the individual what they want to do. If they feel like responding, go ahead and if they don't, they shouldn't have to. I respond to mine when and if I feel like it and if I have something to say to the person...but I also feel like my time can be better spent answering other ppl's discussions. I feel like this is a discussion board...you post a discussion, ppl reply. It's not meant to be a chat board where ppl spend all day chatting back and forth, I guess if that's what ppl want to do, it's up to them. I guess the bottom line is "Do what makes you happy". [b]~~IN SEARCH OF PEACE WITHIN~~ **AGAINST THE STORMS, I WILL STAND STRONG** [/b]

This is a very good point. Although I guess people can post a topic for discussion and then leave it up for everyone to take it from there. Perhaps it should be rule for those posting discussions to reply to some comments if not all. I wouldn't want to respond to all the comments on my discussions but some of them do deserve a response.

It's an interesting question, there are probably quite a few discussions here on mylot that wouldn't fit the typical definition of a discussion. I don't think it is a discussion when somebody starts one and then doesn't reply to any of the responses at all, that's more like question and answer, although it can be hard to respond to all of the responses, not just because some mylotters get loads of responses but also because often answers are very similar and it's difficult to think of something new to say, either that or the response just doesn't seem to require a comment, which means you end up just saying thanks for responding, which is against the rules!! So i think it only becomes a discussion when the person who starts it comments on at least some of the responses, even if they can't say somthing back to every single one! xxx

I agree with you. I always try to respond to a discussion that I start. I don't get every single one of them but it really isn't a discussion if there are no replies to the responses. That's more like just statng an opinion and going on if you don't reply. Have a great day!

you have to respond to have a discussion and keep up on the discussion i will answer three are four times depends on the discussion. but the point is you have to respond thats the key.

I definitely agree with you. I just stopped for a while from commenting to my discussion (I was on the 17th comment, 20 more to go ). I like to maintain my post in a "discussion" level. As much as possible, I give my comments to my responders' thoughts even if the numbers tend to grow so fast. I just think they took time in reading my discussions and giving it their best shot, I owe them a reply. Besides, there are replies that needs to be answered (follow-up questions) and really appreciated. I tend to say more, I guess, I love to have the "last word". Hahaha!

hi redkathy but sometimes there are a lot of valid and good reasons one discusser doesnt always get back to each and every response to her discussion, I know I have some I am so behind on but I cannot be on here allday now as I am packing and sorting and getting ready to move 600 miles up the coast and this takes a lot of time. it was so easy when I only had ten answers but when you get thirty or forty or even more this does take some time. I feel really bad about it too, but am trying to get there aroung all the other must do things I have to do.I do think if I have got at least half of my responses replied to I am at least making it a real discussion.

I guess I can understand the people who selectively respond. LIke if you don't think a reply adds anything to the discussion... But not to respond to anybody at all ever, nope that ain't no discussion nohow.

istart very few discusions but i see where u are coming from. i try to answer every reponse i get but know people don'talways do that. i'm on here for the fun & alot of people are just on here to make money & that of course is their buisness. take care.

I am not sure but I can see your point. I try to answer to every reply to any discussion that I posted in here.

Ya you are right. I used to spent most of my time with my own discussions. I used to give comments for every response. Even if I don't have anything to say them(It happens when the response is just a line), I will just comment saying that I am happy to have their response. But at times when I couldn't log in mylot for some days, I just leave out that if my discussions got so many responses. I will try to add my comments as soon as possible. I also have some discussions(not many) without commenting. I was not able to do that because of my busy schedule. Hoping to finish those in the near future. Lol. Happy mylotting.

hi ms kathy i never had that happen before but iam new so it could happen to me i try to respond as much as i can if someone didn,t respond it would hurt my feeling.

Well,I keep the better ones pending,to choose the best response,after deliberating!

Certainly! I'm bewildered if a topic asked for something and then I responded then I heard nothing at all. It's as if the one who asked is not really serious about what he is asking about. I'm quite disappointed also when I only receive a thank for my respond. It's as if the person did not really read my response but just said thank you to acknowledge. I am happier if he would comment back on what I said, whether he never agreed or he agreed. What matters is the impression that my response was really read and I did not waste my time in giving the best response I could ever afford. I am happy because most of my good friends and others as well here really know the meaning of discussion. They do comment back substantially and that make me feel my responses were really read and understood. I believe most people do not comment back because they are busy with making new discussions or participating in other discussion which only show they are only for the money. However, they are wrong in assuming that commenting back will not earn them anything. Based on my experience, giving quality comments to responses also yield me good earnings and how much more it also established good friendship with most of my respondents. As for me, I believe once I post topics I have the responsibility to comment back to my respondents especially those who responded substantially. In order to cope, I don't post so many topics which I can't handle. I have learned that it is the best way to open a healthy discussion. I don't just open so many discussions then just leave the others to discuss it by themselves. I don't want the respondents to think that I took them for granted after all the supports. Thank you for posting this nice topic. Have a nice day!

Hi there! You are right about everything you when it comes to the description of a discussion. But being able to create a good discussion doesn't just rely on the exchanging of views alone. I think to be able to have an exchange of views would start on the kind of response a topic holder will receive. If the response would merely just answer the topic holder's questions then it would be hard to create another discussion. The response would have to be interesting too and should add another point of view in order to arrive at another discussion but still related to the original post. Ciao!

Mylot could have named them questions and answers, I think they chose discussions and responses to encourage more interaction. I can have a discussion with myself and often do.

i respond to the discussions what i have started and only when i have something more to write more. if i get the response of one line saying nothing more about the discussion then i will surely have nothing to tell so i dont reply those and i really wish to reply to the discussion which contains matter and it will surely induce some answer form me and then i reply them. for one line responses i dont even answer by only thanking or so as i doenst matter. when i response to the discussions i will never think of whether the person will reply me or not and i maximum try to write more put more of ideas so that the person can reply me back and we can have a good discussion but if the opposite person dont response me after putting so much of matter also then i feel a little weired but i cant help it and hence i just dont think of all those as we cant force anypone to reply us and i dont think it is compulsory. so it is their wish if we can have good discussion it is always welcome but if you are not willing to then also it is fine. and morever i think we have to never expect anything from anyone and also we have to understand that there are few people who hardly remove time like the people who go to job, stay at home mothers and all, cant repond to all and also they just remove a little time and mylot but i also agree that there are a few people who spend most of the time and i think they can reply to all but it is not compulsory. so as far as everything goes healthy i dont mind whether they reply or not.

You were right that if a certain discussion posted was participated by several members but then the person who posted the discussion didnt respond to every person who made there post. It is considered to be a question and answer rather than a discussion. But usually i take into consideration first the persons situation since some of them might be busy and didnt have the chance to respond right away to the discussion they posted. But if the person is always participating and posting new topic yet same thing happen then that person obviously missing the point of a discussion.