It is good to be worried about the society and find faults with the system,But

In a way you a correct ansd it is what like minded people like you and me are doing right now...Bringing up our children to be good and not to get affected by the bad influences around them.But it is not an easy task,and our kids tend to be more comfortable with their peer group as they grow up and tend to ape them a lot.Only if they are able to mingle with like minded people ,will they be able to retain and practice what they learn at home.So it is esential that they have a good atmosphere crteated by society ,to grow up,for our efforts to bear fruit.

Hi Bala, Yes you are 100% right. I wish what you have said could come true like a dream. But now it is too late for our country to achieve such perfection. Over- populated country with 70% in rural area, without education and maturity to take right decision ,it is not only difficult to find example setting families but also impossible to some extent. I think only when each and every citizen of our country will be educated and will have maturity to take right decision, only then we can have mass improvement in our country. Of-course I agree that if those who can take your advise and do something for society , must do it.....I am good girl, I have already brought up my family to become a good example for society.......lol

It is the case. always we can start from home. But I have also seen at times the home front do not also help society always. some may follow the path, but still amny will deviate

Everything starts at home ,and in order to have a good society, we need to have a strong and good family. We usually follow the example of our parents in almost every situation that we encounter.

Up to a point, you are correct. I was a good example. People (my bank and my realtor) tried to sell me a house that was worth twice as much as I could pay for it. I didn't go for it, I was stubborn and went with a house I could afford. If everyone had been like me, we would not have the housing part of the current crisis in America. But not everyone did. So now I'm paying for what other people didn't do. So if, ideally, everyone had done what you said, paid attention to doing the right thing in the first place, then we wouldn't be in this crisis. But they didn't, so now I'm suffering, too. Our government should have had safeguards on people buying things that they can't afford to pay off. So on the one hand, we all need to do the right thing. On the other hand, all people are tempted and will succum to temptation at some point, so society and the system need to protect all of us from when a significant amount of people are weak.

Hi bala really nice and thoughtful discussion. every one say it but its very rare who believe in it and act on it, mostly are just talks with no action Trust me if every one start believing and acting on it then i am sure soon u will be living in good society and u will be enjoying, peace, harmony and happiness. Socity is made up by individual and if every individual start work to improve oneself and his home then no doubt it would be very help full. Society will grow and bonding will be more so i fully agree with ur statement and hope we friends can start it Take care

Absolutely Bala. Set ourselves right first, then things at our home and only then can you look beyond and set an example. Introspection is must no matter how difficult it gets. And once you become a good example people will follow you instead of you trying to dig for faults.

*clap* *clap* *clap*...you are so right and I truly wish to follow that (I do try my best). I believe in it and think that for society to change, we should first change. I wish everyone understood this logic and follow suit...then this world would be a better place, wouldn't it?

you are right. we have to start by being good people in our homes and in our family units. Then we can go out into the world and be good people there too.

Yes, Balasri my friend, I agree that teaching and correction begins at home, but when your children go out into the big, wide world, they have to claim their own ground, and alas, they will find a lot of conflicting ideas on the way life should be lived. The important thing in society is that your children believe in themselves and what they give to society. They don't follow others who are on the wrong path just because they are told it's the right way. They stand up for what they believe in... even act as mediators in society to turn it around as much as they are able to a better place for all to be. As long as they know they can come back to you and talk things through as a family when they find conflict, for guidance to carry on being the good citizens you bring them up to be, then all will be well. Your children will find much success in life, for your way of life, I think is a very solid and upstanding one. Brightest Blessings, my friend.

True enough, finding faults and everything would not resolve a problem. Being a role model might help of course at least that is the passive way to change something out from the society you lived in.

Very appropriate and practical suggestion Bala, I really appreciate your stand. If we start doing our duties sincerily and with due deligence and honesty, we'll be able to cure many ills of our society. I feel very bad, when people cricize the society in general and starts finding fault with the Government. Finding faults is the easiest thing to do. Those who find faults with the system need to check themselves, what they are in fact contributing towards society. People blame the system to cover up their short comings and their negative deeds, I believe.

I agree with you... complaining ang fault finding usually doesn't help solve the problem... but creates more tension in the situation... if we want to change the system... the best way that we can do that is to start within ourselves... we want to have more model citizens... so we can help by being one ourselves... and instilling its importance to our children... so that they will grow up to be model citizens too...

If you make a mistake, you should take the blame and not other people. If you have bad luck, you should take the plan for not having a backup plan. From there, people can learn lessons and grow. No point blaming the society and system. In the end, it all drills down to yourselves and how you influence the people around you with your attitude.