I was honest....someone asked my how my christmas was.....  

No, not at all!! Honesty is the best. Sometimes its good for us to just get things off our chest. I unloaded the other day on the cashier at my grocery store. I too have had a terrible Christmas. I am happy that the holidays are almost over...I think that there are alot of us in this same situation this year.

Hope that things are better for you in the coming weeks, and that you have a good 2009!!!

Happy New Years!!

Shihtzumama

I don't think anyone should stop being honest with how they are. Myself, I tend to do the ok. Sometimes I will it bites or something but don't get into to much detail. But when family asks especially my parents I go all the way into every detail. I think honesty is always the best policy even though sometimes I have problems following my own advice :) So be yourself that makes you who you are :)

I dont think you should stop being honest.. but i guess like everything.. there is a time and a place.. and you seem like a pretty level person from your discussions anywasy so i guess just use your better judgement and go from there in different situations ;)

Like you wouldnt want to be honest about every negative thing in your life to every person you meet.. they may think your a negative person or dwelling even though you are just being hoenst.. that and you dont want everyone to know every Cruddy thing that happens to you do you ?! i dont!!

*hugs*

I hope the new year brings you better luck.

A friend and I were just discussing that issue yesterday, coincidentally. Her opinion was that you should tell people what they want to hear. Mine was that people should stop asking phony automatic questions, and those expected to regurgitate some banal pablum should stop doing so.

On the other hand, one doesn't like to be always throwing out downers, so maybe a good response would be, "Well, I certainly hope yours was better than mine!" Of course, I couldn't say that myself because I had a great Christmas. Sorry you didn't.

Yea, I agree with the others here. I don't think there was anything wrong with being honest about your Christmas. Mine was kind of bad too due to another who really seems to hate holidays but only when it comes to me for some reason, this person seems to be able to be jolly and happy around others, and I used to just keep quiet and everyone thought I was hunky-dory and then if I ventured a small complaint later they thought I was "acting spoiled."

So this time I just told everyone I knew what went on this holiday. They were surprised, but a lot more supportive and more there for me when they realized what was going on, that my Christmas holidays weren't filled with all joy, etc., and I found I felt much better, plus it seemed to make them feel better to know what was what there. So I don't have a problem with people being honest about this. Sometimes it encourages others to open up about the same thing and gives them emotional release as well in realizing it's okay to tell about bad holidays, now or in the past, and seems to make everyone feel better for it after all sometimes.

Hey be honest. In my opinion people shouldn't ask if they don't really want to know. I always tell people when I am having a bad time when they ask...not every day is hunky dorey! We all have bad days...and when someone says to me that they are having a bad day...I just say "oh sorry to here your having a rough time....hope I can make it a little happier~!"
I think most people just ask that cause they don't know what else to say and its' considered polite..but they really don't care to begin with. Sounds like you threw her when you said what you did and she was astounded cause she didn't have a planned statement for that response...

I just shun the question so i didn't bother to ans......

I think there is a time and a place for that kind of total honesty. Just because people ask the question does not mean that you are required to give them the entire history. They are following a pattern of good manners in asking and also in making small talk to pass time. Save the honesty for those who are close to you and would not be in such shock at getting those kinds of answers. If you don't want to respond to the question it is simple enough to answer simply and turn the question back on them to respond.

no, why should you stop anyway?
I mean that's just a simple q & a where will lying take you?
I think she was a new girl trying to have a simple chat and didn't expect to hear the 'worst christmas' because I guess eveybody else just said 'great!' family and all. well they might be honest too LOL they did have a good one

i think honesty is the best policy and i love honest people... so there is nothing wrong at all in expressing how you feel about your christmas as long as you are really honest about it... for me, i love honest people and if other people don't appreciate my honesty, then it is too bad... take care and have a nice day...