Is There Light At The End Of Your Tunnel
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26770)
United Kingdom
January 19, 2009 3:58pm CST
Firstly, I wanted to say a big thank you to all those who supported me and gave me some wonderful advice about my discussion 'Should I Stay or Should I go'
I have returned from my retreat and my friend actually made a recovery so WAS after all able to come, I guess I do what I always do worry! Wolfie the Worrier!
I had a wonderful time and I came home with a big smile on my face, I had a couple of admirers while I was away which made me feel real good about myself. I was able to be 'ME' and able to fully 'Relax'
Things really came together and I learnt quite a bit about other people as well as about myself. My self-esteem zoomed and I felt great. Even when someone tried to put me down about my body I was quite assertive with them, I said it's my body, I am happy with it and that's all that matters, I didn't realize it had come out of my mouth either!
I had a lot of enjoyment and I began to put Wolfie first instead of others, and in a way it was a weekend of discovery, discovering there is indeed light at the end of the tunnel
There is only one enemy in this world and that's me! I am too hard on myself, I need a break and the weekend gave me that chance, you really only get one shot in life and it's about time things came together for me.
I still have the doubts at the back of my mind, yes it's coming together but when's the downfall, but life ain't perfect is it? We have to ride out the rough parts and we have the power to slow the rollercoaster down if we have the right attitude.
Have you been anywhere where you have found yourself on a voyage of discovery and found out stuff about yourself and things have started to come together?
Have you been stuck in troubled times and finally found light at the end of the tunnel?
Oh and I'm off to the retreat again in February. It's about time I really started to grab life and live it for ME
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@amanda333 (739)
• France
19 Jan 09
I had tears in my eyes reading this lovely story about your life coming together for you. Well done Wolfie for realising that sometimes we are our own worst enemy. You sound a top guy and I for one wish you lots of happiness to come. I'm so happy for you that your weekend was so good
@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
Just on a little 'come down' at the moment because it's all over but I have February to look forward to, thank you my friend, it's been a long, long road but at least I am travelling down a less rockier one than I was and now I know who was putting those damn rocks there in the first place, ME!
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@lilaclady (28206)
• Australia
19 Jan 09
I think there is always light at the end of the tunnel, always a new day and new corners to turn, we just have to appreciate our lives a lot more, and appreciate the small things and be as happy as we can...Life is so short...and it is good you have started to appreciate life for yourself..you are the important one for yourself...
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@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
20 Jan 09
In the past 2 years there has been a lot of positive changes with you Wolfie, maybe you don't see it because your hard on yourself at times but you have taken some giant steps and have grabbed the bull by the horns many times and you should give yourself a pat on the back, you deserve it. Making drastic changes in our lives can be very scary but you were strong enough to do it and make positive goals and you have accomplished many of those goals. Your a lot stronger than you see yourself. Stay on track, your doing great!
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
20 Jan 09
I'm so pleased you went and enjoyed yourself, Wolfie - you do sound very 'up', which is fantastic! It was excellent your friend recovered enough to accompany you. It's very true - we do only get one chance at it, so it's best not to waste a minute - and to appreciate what we are, and what we have. Sounds as if you have all the right ideas!
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@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
20 Jan 09
My favorite quote sums things up for me alot in my life.... There is a light at the end of the tunnel, but most days its a train. LOL
Another favorite is "I've gone to look for myself. If I should return before I get back - please keep me here." LOL Maybe this second quote is best suited to you? It sounds like you often feel pulled in different directions.
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@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Hey wolfie! I am so happy to hear what you are saying! That is
so wonderful that you had such a great time and you came back
all positive and feeling so good about yourself! I am so glad
that you finally listened and decided to go! It turned out
to be a really great trip after all! And you are right about
us being our own worst enemy! Isn't that always the truth!
And even knowing this doesn't always make it easy to forget it!
So now that you feel stronger and more positive about yourself
you will be able to take this to the next level! Keep using
this power every day and remembering this every day! Let no
one get in your way again! Keep this feeling going and don't
let yourself forget it! I'm glad that you're going again next
month! It sounds like this is a very good place for you to be!
I'm very proud of you Wolfie!
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 09
I have determination my friend, a stubbornness to give up on myself, hence the therapy and the pyschology courses and the want to life live to the full and be myself, it's just a case of time, I will get there, I just need to choose the less rockier path to reach my destination ;0)
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@nannacroc (4049)
•
19 Jan 09
Go fot it Wolfie. I did have a period when I felt I had to please everyone else but it started to get me down so I just decided to be me and if people don't like me it's their loss not mine. Lots of people will like and respect you for who you are not who they want you to be. I really think it's their loss if they don't like you.
Now look, you've made me be all nice, I'll have to work on that.
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
Why should I change for others, if I do that I am cheating myself and playing their rules not mine, you are no better off changing for someone else because there will always be people who don't like you, you can't win, the only way of winning is being me and living the life for me not for others. I've been a puppet too long for others to control
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
28 Jan 09
Although sometimes I am a bit pessimistic I always try to put my head high and believe that there is lways a light at the end of the tunnel. It is hard to believe that every cloud has a silver lining but when things cannot worsen much more than they are, sometimes always seem to crop up to save your day. Seotimes it happens to me into financial matters. When I start panicking that I dont have enough money to pay the bills, an unexpected cheque from my part time job always crops up to save the day. I do believe in God and I do think that in some way or another he does take care of us.
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@eaforeman6 (8979)
• United States
20 Jan 09
Its wonderful news that it all went so well. Congrats on that! I have found out that in tough times , you find out that you are tougher then you may have ever known and can be more resourceful when its required... I think you reach the light faster when you work your way towards it and think positive and keep going....and just dont let anything stop you. Good for you grab life for Wolfie because its precious........@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
20 Jan 09
I need to live life for Wolfie not for anyone else and if it means playing the game to get what I want then so be it, sometimes it's easier to go with the flow than swim agains the tide of life. Plus it helps to have friends to support, advice and back you and I count myself lucky that I have good friends and I include you naturally my dear friend x
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
19 Jan 09
Hi wolfie Hugs. I am glad you had a great time at your retreat. You always seem to come back feeling great!!! So what happens after is up to you. I have been through many bad times. in fact right now im going through a lot of bad times. But I know i will be ok i just have to ride through it. Some days i cry but the a fe days after that I am fine again. Makes me feel good to know that my sweet Wolfie is feeling good now. Dont let life get you down.. Love ya Hugs
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@chrislotz (8136)
• Canada
21 Jan 09
I am glad for you my friend. I have been a supporter of yours since your break up. I am
glad you found something you enjoyed. I need to find that light at the end of the tunnel.
My problem is I don't know what it is I want in life. I left my husband, it will be a
year in a couple months, and I don't know what I want.
So I have to get out soon and see what the world has to offer me. Maybe then I will find
what I need and want in my life and go for it. Maybe then I would see the end of the
tunnel.
Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend,
Have a good mylotting day, Chris
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@Humbug25 (12540)
•
19 Jan 09
Hi there wolfie34
I missed you and where is my postcard? Nevermind. I am so very, very happy that you had such a good time and you got so much out of going. I am so glad that you still decided to go it sure was the right decision!!! Anyway tunnels, light and all that. I think I don't really have to say much but for the ten years of my marriage I think I probably lived in a dark whole with no doors, windows and certainly no tunnels. I thought that, that would be it for the rest of my life but there was a tunnel and there was light at the end of it and when I saw it I grabbed the kids and ran like ... you know what!!
Good to see you back wolfie now get responding to my discussions you have missed!! LOL
Good to see you back wolfie now get responding to my discussions you have missed!! LOL@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
19 Jan 09
Don't send postcards as the postmen can't cope with them! Not away long enough LOL! I remember that dark hole my friend, it was called a cage with no way out, for me it was a prison cell with not even a window, with help I managed to get a sledgehammer and smash it down, trouble is I jumped into another cell and I had to "disappear" but it has made me stronger and I am sure you are much stronger too, you have three lovely children, we have to search for the positives, everything is balanced every negative has a positive although sometimes it's so heavily disguised and buried! Ok, I hear you off to seek your discusssions out, thank you my friend, missed you too ;0)
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@bookreadermom08 (5614)
• United States
19 Jan 09
first off, congrats on the get away, it must have been wonderful That is great that you took time for you, we all must do that when we can, and most times we pass on the opportunity because the timing is not right, or they have this or that going on.... and such.
but in response to "light at the end of your tunnel" ... well hubby is currently looking for a new job, we had a baby girl last year and have a 5 yr old that just started school and a house that is a fixer upper....so I have to say we have a few more years before we start to get even half way through our tunnel...LOL
but at least I can laugh everyday and take it one day at a time for now. LOL
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Hi darling Wolfie. I don't know about light at the end of the tunnel but I am able to accept things more easily now that I'm older and have little in the way of options. I'm even able to smile and be content. Life is not giving me what I want or taking me where I want to go. But I'm ok with where I am and what I'm doing. I'm currently working on being at peace with what I look like...so I still have challenges...lol.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
21 Jan 09
Hi darling Wolfie. I don't know about light at the end of the tunnel but I am able to accept things more easily now that I'm older and have little in the way of options. I'm even able to smile and be content. Life is not giving me what I want or taking me where I want to go. But I'm ok with where I am and what I'm doing. I'm currently working on being at peace with what I look like...so I still have challenges...lol.
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@sweetie1026 (1718)
• Philippines
31 Jan 09
Hi, Wolfie. Miss you my friend, i haven't been here for almost 3 weeks my pc was down. So, i missed that part of your life that you are so happy about right now. I am glad that you have enjoyed your retreat and is planning to go on again this February. Yes, it is better to do it for yourself and not let others put your self esteem down. I have been there and it was not easy but i have learned from it too and now i am a stronger person than i was before. I hope you enjoy your retreat this Feb. take care my friend. Nice to see you once again.
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
20 Jan 09
I'm so glad you had a great time at the retreat and I hope you have a great time at the one coming up in February :)
Well, I don't see the light, but, I have faith that there is light at the end of my tunnel because I have faith in Jesus Christ. I know He'll get me through it. It's just that my tunnel seems so endless........... You know what I mean? Life can be so hard at times, but, my faith is what keeps me going.
Purrs,
Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@AbbeyB (670)
• Spain
20 Jan 09
I think there is always light even if it seems murkey and that your path is blocked there will always be a way for you to continue on that path. I am a great believer in the fact that our path has been choosen for us so we have to continue down it until it ends, so there will be obstucles and problems but all will be solved maybe not how we want them to be but they will be solved all the same.
I am glad you came back feeling refreshed and ready to move on, maybe I should check into your retreat lol
@roselynm1023 (950)
• Philippines
20 Jan 09
i am so happy to hear that! it is our thoughts that we become. :) God bless. continue walking towards the light in your own tunnel. remember the sentence ends with a period. be happy and think that God's love endures all pain.
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