Yesterday a lady was very upset   

Hi there
I think this is a very sad story!
I also think that the mods shouldn't have stopped the responses - it is possible that if they were supportive, they might have helped her through a difficult time - you know, sometimes just knowing that there are people out there supporting you makes all the difference.

Abortions in South Africa are illegal so no matter how far she is in her pregnancy, in South Africa, she would end up having a back street abortion which could (and often they do) end badly for her and her baby.

I think that those who thought she was perhaps depressed were correct and she no doubt does need help, but unfortunately, in SA the health service is all private and it would cost her to get the help that she needs - it is possible that she doesn't have the money or resources to get the help she needs.

I hope somebody comes to her rescue.

Violetdreams

What a sad storymax. She really needs help and love. Fancy considering between a back yard abortion or suicide. These cases show how much work governments need to do in some srears.

Hi maximax8,


That is so very sad, hope she hasen't done anything to harm herself or the baby, don't really know what the cultre like in South Africa but she should have got on with having her baby and washed her hands of her husband and got on with her life.


Tamara

I didn't see this discussion, but I desperately hope the lady has found someone to help her, support her and give her some sensible advice. What a horrible situation to find herself in - and I hope she is able to take a deep breath and think of the ramifications of whatever action she chooses to take - it's not something which should be decided in haste, so I hope she has good friends to support her at this time.

Sounds like a really sad situation. Hope she finds some help.

Yes I feel sad to because what the lady is experiencing is a traumatic one. I think she might be unlucky with her husband but she should just think of the baby in her womb. It is not right to think just of yourself when you are to become a mom. I was in the same situation before but the difference is my husband is very caring and responsible. He does not have any affair and I am a witness to that. I myself guarantees that fact and I thank God I am very blessed. I may not be ready to be a mom but I just thought of the baby.

In her case she really needs help. I guess if the comments that were written in that site does not help (that is if she is hard to convince) then she should seek advice from friends and more importantly family. We all may not know her story but in case she will not listen to our advices despite the trial she is experiencing then let us ask her to deliver the baby and give to an orphanage or someone who could take care of the child (in case she can't support the needs of the baby.) That I think will convince her.

This is tough decision. I can say that it is better that she and her husband live now on their own because they might end up hurting each over and over again if they continue. With regards to the baby, it is really her choice what to do. But on my part I rather let the baby live.

I also feel sad about the story, I think she needs to go to the nearest gov't welfare who helps like in her situation, so she would be attended well and they could help her situation.

That is vey sad. I hope this young mother-to-be finds help before she hurts herself or the baby she is carrying. Regardless of what the father did or is doing, she needs to think about that baby and herself before all. I hope that the site managers that read this discussion, tracked her IP address and tried to get her some help or at least called the local authorities and had a wellfare check done on her.

First,the lady should calm down and think about what happened between she and her husband. why her husband betray her.
Second,She should have a conversation with her husband and find the reason.
Third, After careful consideration, then she can make a decision. If the husband is worthy of forgiveness, then forgive him. If the husband's nature is bad, is it worthy to do suicide for a not loyal person?