My sister got mad at me because I was telling her something for her own good.

Hi, laydee! You are right! I have blabbed too much. But only because I love her. And I can't stand to see her in this situation. Even though, I know that she is the reason why she is in it. My sister is the only person that I will give this advice too like that. I guess because she is my only sister after my mom died. And it hurts me to see her fall and not have anyone that she can call upon. Yes, I am looking too. We are supposed to be moving this week. My sister got mad at me and told me, that I need to worry about where I am going to be staying and not worrying about her. Well that is what I will do. Yes, I can be kicked out anytime. There is no guarantee that I will be able to stay as a guest. The management calls the shots.

Hi, Cats and Dogs! I really think that she has cut close ties with me. She disowns everyone that she knows. And now she really has noone but me really to confide me. Now, she is giving me the cold shoulder. It is really sad to see my sister hate so many people. She has been like this for years. I will have to pray and ask God to change her ways. I have a bad feeling that if she don't get her act together, she will get hurt, badly. She should calm down, she loves cursing and raising her voice and getting loud. She does it to show that she has power and control. I hate this childish behavior of hers. She has been acting like this since she was younger. Her behavior it is out of line! I wished that she was a more caring sister to me. I have seen many sisters get along and not carry on like she does.

Hi, aisaelliss22! Yes, I have my own problems of my own. I am sorry that I can't help her. A part of me feels gulity that I can't . But even if I could, my sister has to learn to be responsible and stop quitting her job everytime that she turns around. That is what is messing her up in the long run. And then when she makes her mistakes she lashes out at innocent people that are trying to help her. This is not the first time that she has went buck-wild on me.

i see what you're saying..well, I guess you're right, you're sister must learn to be responsible..

Hi, cjforreverknight! You know family members used to ask me this in the past, and I told them no. That it would not work. Me and my sister are two different people. Sometimes she does not respect what belongs to me, even if I tell her that it is mines. She gets mad when I don't do what she wants. She is very paranoid when it comes to people. Don't ask me how.. I could never live with her. I am married to my husband and I have three kids. Staying with my sister is like looking for trouble. We would eventually clash and it will be more confusion to deal with! I did stay a week with her one time, she went crazy and took down all of her lights in her home. She took the fan out of the room that me and my kids were using. She left us all in the dark, hot and sweating! She has a very bad temper. She got mad just because I was telling her that my husband knew of a job that she could do. That way she won't have to move out of her home. She quit her job and she was under a lot of stress. It made her went wild!

Hi, specialkdub! I am sorry too. I guess the reason why it is bothering me so much is because I don't want to see her fall again, because if she does this time, she will have no help from any family members. She will be all on her own. It is sad, at this moment she has cut loosed many people that she knows. It is like I was the only person that she had to depend on. And now she has given me up.

I some what know how you feel my little sister is the same way and what I did to put her back in check was when she did want to talk again I didn't talk to her for another month and I know it's hard but sometimes tough love is the only way. Best of luck I hope it all works out.

Yes, in this case, tough love will be my only option.

Its just hard to get through to some people and wen they take you for granted then it's time to put them i their place and hopefully the will bounce back and see you were only trying to help them.

Well,obviously,you do all things to your sister beause you care her and love her very much.But from what you said,I think maybe your sister have got a little autistic(don't worry,maybe not so serious) because of the experience she had before she came to ask for your help.She don't like to get in touch with any other family members because she thinks that nobody care her and love her.Actuely,she feels lonely.I think maybe she is very frangible now,and she don't want to face the reality.So I think first you can have a talk with her,not give advise,just let her know you are her sister and you realy love her and realy want to help her.Encourage her to be strong to face the reality.And then give her a piece of advise gently.I don't know whether it would be work,but I wish you and your sieter can get over these problems.Good luck to you.

Hi to you both! Thanks for your generous comment! I do hope that she will realize that I was just trying to help her and not hurt her. It is a shame that she can do me wrong everytime, and I will still be here for her when she needs me in the end. And if I didn't really love her, I would not do that for her. So, she needs to see that I am not her enemy but her friend and sister.

Hi, checapricorn! She told me that she was trying to save up all of her paychecks and child support checks just for this new place. But even if she is saving up, she still will have to take out money for gas to get to and from work. So, she will be short on cash, no matter how much she saves. She told me that she does not want to rent a room because all of her money will go for the place, which I can understand. And she has asked me to let her sleep on the floor in our room. I told her that it would not work. She even offered to pay half on our room while staying with us. The manager is not going to go for this. They are about getting paid. If she stays in my room and pays half, then she mind as well go and rent her a room with her own money. If she stays with us the manager will lose money that way. She said that she would just stick it out by sleeping in her car.

Hi, Foxxee! I liked what you said. My sister has ways about her that can be funny. She gets mad easily. And when she does she starts cursing people out. And if she starts this mess in the motel room, then it could cause us all to be put out. The manager will not allow her to stay with us. We already have five people to our room. And it is full. If anything the manager will want her to pay for her own room.

Hi, sanuanu! Yes, that has all happened in one night. Thanks for reading part of my discussion. You just about summed up the reason why that she is mad with me.

Oh I understand that point.

but what has happened to you. you are now writting very long discussion every time I can see. There are five you have started and I could only manage to read one because of lack of time, why is it that you have started writing long articles?

Hi, sanuanu! I don't know maybe I like writing long discussions. There is no special reason why I would, all of a sudden just write long discussions. There is no particular reason.

Oh, I see. I thought that you are either very happy or very sad because when I was really sad at one time, then I enjoyed writting at its best!

Hi, sanuanu, when I am upset and feeling stressed, I will write more than normal. It is a habit that I have. I kind of enjoy writing my feelings out, it helps me to better deal with myself and the issue that I am having. I hope that I am not boring you with my long discussions, that is never my intention. But, I do hope that you will enjoy reading them when you are able to.

Yes, I have enjoyed one which I read but most of the time I am a little short on patience, you know.

You didn't bother me at all. It was just happening so, I thought I must ask if there is anyting I could help!

understand, my patience runs very short at times too. Everything is fine, I just was writing my discussions to get some things off of my chest..

I got cut off. I understand is what I wrote earlier. Sorry for the error.

Oh, thanks for the clarification as I was not getting the point of only "understand".

Hi, SomeCowgirl! I am in nowhere offended by your comment. You are telling the truth. When she gets in another jam, I can't help her. I am tired of her spitting in my face then needing me down the road. She will have to learn that when she makes her own mistakes, I will not be able to get her out each and everytime. It is going to hit her hard the next time she decides to quit her job.

I'm glad it hasn't offended you. In a way I was taught that way, as before I even started spending I was told that it was my responsibility. Lol, I guess you could say I was afraid to ask for help because I didn't want to disappoint, lol.