What if it were the reverse
By suspenseful
@suspenseful (40192)
Canada
April 29, 2009 9:13am CST
The other day, one of my friends here at myLot asked what if someone in your family announced that they were now going to be 'gay' would you welcome them, etc. and in general I got the idea that we were expected to be proud and celebrate that they chose that lifestyle or finally came out of the closet (for those who believe one is born that way.)
Now my question is the reverse. What if you had a 'gay' relative who told you that now he did not like that lifestyle, that now he was going to be a hetereosexual, would you celebrate with him, hug him, or would you feel sorry and try to discourage him from going straight? Would you convince him that he was born homosexual and he cannot pretend to be anything else.
This has always bothered me, when I watch a drama on television and a boy admits he is 'gay' and then his sister hugs him and so does his parents as if they are pleased with his decision, but I have never seen the reverse, unless it may be on a Christian program and usually that would refer to an actual person who changed.
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12 responses
@angel_rain (271)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
If I will be faced with this situation I will be happy and celebrate the decision.For me we should respect each ones preference and what they want to do with their life.I will give them support and be happy with their choices,besides it's their life they are living,we should not meddle with it.
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@saffrondreams (596)
• Canada
30 Apr 09
Actually, I don't really care about the reasons why a person is homosexual, or whether it is chosen, inborn or what. As far as I'm concerned, people should be able to live a life that makes them happy as long as they're not hurting anyone else. So to answer your question, if a gay relative decided to adopt a heterosexual lifestyle, I'd have no problem with that whatsoever as long as he was happy with his decision. No matter what someone chooses, I'd be happy for them if they found contentment.
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@Polly1 (12644)
• United States
29 Apr 09
If it was a member of my family, I would support and love them either way. I don't believe you choose to be gay. I have a nephew with some issue like this. He said he was Bi, then gay, now he is living with a women and they plan on getting married. She is in the relationship with her eyes open and accepts him just the way he is. I believe he wants to live a straight life style, I am hoping that he can and can also be happy. I still think he is searching for himself, I hope he finds who he is soon. I hope it does work out with this women, they truely love and care for each other. I would rather have him with her then anyone else that I have seen him with.
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@blackbriar (9075)
• United States
1 May 09
Hi suspenseful..To me, I treat everyone equal unless they are a rapist, murderer, abuser. Being gay doesn't change how I feel about them. They are still the same person regardless of which lifestyle they choose. I used to have a gay friend that was a better friend than my other so-called friends. He was always there to lean on. About a year after I quit my job, we lost track of each other. I hope he is still going strong for he is a great friend.
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I think what is being "celebrated" is the persons courage to be true to themself despite societies prejudices.
To answer BOTH questions at once...whether my child told me that he or she was gay, after living a "straight" life, OR if my child told me that he or she was straight after living a homosexual life style...I would be proud of them for their courage. I would be happy for them if their decision made them happy.
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@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
29 Apr 09
I would think they were a Democrate since they can't seem to make up their minds about anything. I guess the "coming back home" party would be something to see, like the prodigal son.
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@rusty2rusty (6771)
• Defiance, Ohio
30 Apr 09
If someone decides they are not gay I would celebrate it and tell them it is about time they made up their mind. Usaully ones who can't make up their minds are confused and need time to sort through their feelings. People need to let them. Only problem is people don't come out and say they were gay but now are straight for the mere fact they will be riducled and be accused of being discrimitive against gays.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 May 09
I have never seen the reverse either. I think it is an odd question from any of the two being asked.
@dragon54u (31633)
• United States
1 May 09
I would be very happy if I had a relative that went "straight". That would mean he or she wasn't homosexual in the first place, but just confused. I don't know why tv and movies depict being gay as an occasional for happiness because there are so many diseases out there that they can get and let's face it, being gay is unnatural. I know that they are born that way but it's sad--if a male, they can't have a baby of their own and if a female, they'd have to have artificial insemination. I would be very happy if a "gay" friend or relative discovered they were straight.
@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
I would thank God and praise him for the enlightenment of a relative on who really he is. I would celebrate and be very proud of him. I would ask him to thank and praise the Lord as well.
