snap!
By candymarie
@candymarie (1368)
Canada
May 11, 2009 12:20pm CST
Ever hear that special little rude comment that just made you SNAP?
Confront them, JUST to embarrass them? Well I totally did just that the other day at work!
I was walking down the back hallway where the service elevators are that we use at the hospital, and I had to pass 2 men, boys really, and they got silent as I walked by. Well when they believed I was out of earshot, what do I hear? “Man the things I would do to her…”. *MENTAL SNAP* I spun around and walked right back to them, and his buddy saw me coming, and I saw the grin wipe from his face. I approached the “boy” and said, “Yes?” The guy stopped and turned around and said, “…What?”
Me - “Yes? What would you do to me? I’m ever so curious…who knows, it might convince me to leave my boyfriend who I just got back together with, if it means ‘the things you’ll do to me’ will make me forget all about him.”
At this point the guy is stuttering and is just LOOKING at me as if I just sprouted an extra head, he just entered full panic mode, and realized how STUPID he is to do this at work especially.
I gave him pity though, I said, “Oh look, there’s your elevator, maybe I’ll see you again, and careful what you say dumb a$$, or next time you won’t be so lucky as to get me, who won’t report…THIS time.”
What made me feel worse? I don’t know, I think the whole event was awesome! Lol.
SO! Any of you had a little mental snap? Anything happen that made you just STOP and do something about something? Put somebody in their place? Stopped a bully from picking on someone?
Yes, I agree that my little story sounds mean of me, but I mean, it’s a hospital setting, what if a patient heard that on their way to their surgery? Does that sound like the last thing they want to hear before they get put under?
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@jillhill (37353)
• United States
11 May 09
Well two years ago at my granddaughters birthday party it was mostly my DIL's relatives. My son and I were the only ones from our side of the family...and we were basically ignored throughout the whole ordeal. Well I had made a few contributions etc to the party but when they went to light the candles on the cake and sing happy birthday they didn't even wait for my son to get into the garage where they were having the cake....and my DIL and her parents were up front with the little one and I was stuck behind a several people and couldn't even see what was going on....well I snapped. I shouted....she has more then just one parent!!! You can wait until her daddy gets there!! THen I yelled to all the people standing in front of me blocking the way.....excuse me....I'd like to take a picture of MY granddaughter!!! Everyone was just shocked....I don't regret it a bit. Her mother doesn't do a darn thing for them and is always treated like a queen. I on the other hand have helped them every step of the way....since the day he wanted to buy her a ring and I floated him a loan for it!!!! Its been different since then....I think they are afraid I'll embarass someone!
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
11 May 09
OH NO! I'm so sorry to hear that! I've had a similar experience before, I was just the cousin at the time, BUT, I was also watching her kids, I was their nanny, they were getting married, and on the wedding day, would you think it would be difficult for someone to watch the baby so I could go grab a quick shower?? And get dressed for the wedding? Oh no! It was such a hassle to do so! I'm sorry, but who's going to be sitting in the front pew, with the baby, in the summer, looking presentable? Or are you ok with me showing up, walking down the aisle to get to the seat with your baby girl, looking like crap, in pjs, hair messed up, and possibly smelling of sweat?
Uh, What the heck?
But good for you to do that! Some people are so stuck in their own little world, and forget about the others, but good for you to make yourself heard! Kudos. Sometimes I have to do that too, because at times, it just gets too much, so I understand how you must have felt during that time. Plus, it makes all the difference when the grand daughter answers, "I'm grammies' girl!" When someone asks her whos' girl she is, I REVELED in that when my Little Miss, the baby I was watching, said that when her grandmother asked her if she was her girl LMAO!
But thanks for responding and sharing your experience!
HAPPY MYLOTTING!
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
11 May 09
*sigh* he unfortunately will at some point, most likely at a bar where he'll use a fake id to get into lol.
Thanks for responding and happy mylotting!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
11 May 09
Whooo Hoooo!! You go girl!! LMBO!! You GO girl!! I'm with you ALL the way!! I'm so sick and tired of the comments these "boys" make to us women that it's about time we stood up to them and hold them accountable!! Yes, I have done the same thing and will again in a heart beat if I ever need to!! My situation was this, as most of you know, I'm hearing impaired, well I was working in the PX on post and apparently this couple came in the day before and had tried to ask me something but I didn't hear them. So on this day the same couple came in and was near enough to me to hear him and he said "Oh, that's the deaf girl from yesterday." Oh girlfriend! I flew into a rage but being on the job, I had to keep my cool so I turned around and said "Oh? How did you know that I'm deaf? Actually I'm legally deaf, totally on my left and about 60% on my right so out of 200% I have only 40%" And the guy was shocked and didn't know what to say but can you believe that his wife had the nerve to ask, "how did you hear us?" I told her that I just barely caught his words and that I read lips very well. But I was standing there just gritting my teeth wanting to chop both of their heads off because how dare he say that in a demeaning way! And secondly, she just stood there where I would've slapped the day lights out of him for saying such a thing but she didn't! She asked a question!! ARG!! Later on that day I quit because I can't handle people like that because I know I'll eventually hurt them in some way because that's making people like me feel like we're less than they are and I know we're not but it just ticks me off to no end!!
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
11 May 09
Oh I hate it when people use that term "retard" because my mother had 68 foster children and one was severely mentally retarded. He was adorable though but he'd bite his own hands in which we had to put mittens on so he wouldn't do any damage but he did anyway and then cry. We had to keep him occupied all the time unless he was asleep so he wouldn't injure himself and constantly keep him entertained with toys. His name is Anthony and he was a precious precious child. Eventually he had to be put in a home where they could teach him some things such as make the bed, dressing himself and small things like that. He was doing remarkably well in his teachings which is a good thing.
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
12 May 09
68 FOSTER CHILDREN???? good LORD! That be a lot of kids!
And yes, I know what you mean, my uncle was mentally and physically retarded, and we FINALLY got him into an excellent home in our small town, where he can be properly encouraged, have a job, he was even in a play, the dog master lol Oh he had so much fun! And he's on a better diet, because before he was just living with my grandmother, and he would always go and sneak some food when she was asleep, so yes, he was a little obese. But grams is in the seniors manor now, which is good for both of them, Uncle Na can make more friends, and not depend on Grams anymore, and Grams can rest easy now, knowing full well that Yes, there ARE other people that can take care of him, Uncle Na will be safe, and happy, when the time comes when she has to pass on.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
11 May 09
Oh my goodness! I have a similar problem with my left ear, I had a hole in my eardrum, and that's been repaired via surgery since 2002, with a prosthetic, but I'm started to lose my hearing again, which SUCKS! A friend, when I was in high school used that to her advantage, so I used it to MY advantage for as long as I could to eavesdrop on her when she thought I couldn't hear lol. I had to put a stop to it though when I heard her telling another friend, during class, that I was a witch because I had a glow in the dark star on my wall that looked like a pentacle. When I asked her how does that make me a witch? She shut up RATHER quickly. hehehehehe.
But yeah, the nerve of that person! I wonder if he INTENDED to make it sound insulting? It's unfortunate that some people just use the "degrading" terms by default, MAINLY because other people have bastardized the terms that USED to be ok, but nope, they have to use the political correct words now...another word I wish wasn't bastardized? "retard". It's an insult in today's world now, and that is horrible!
But I understand why you felt that way as well.
Thanks for sharing your experience and happy myLotting!
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@Hatley (163772)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Oct 09
hi candymarie well when I was young I worked for years
as a nurse's aide . we had a doctor about forty or so'ho thought he was every female's answer for sure. He had a nasty habit
of going around pinching our butts as we passed him in a room or in an elevator. well one day he tried this one time too many.
As he started his pinch manuever I just sort of accidentally on purpose stepped on his big toe. wow. He jumped up and down and turned grey. I found out later he had an ingrown toenail on that foot. well it served him right. he stopped the pinching for sure.
I said to him, oh I am so sorry. did I hurt you? he just grunted and got the heck off the elevator.
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
13 Dec 09
AWESOME Hatley! Just awesome! Put him in his place for sure. Read mine, along the same lines, but a little more severe, but then, so was his action. hee hee
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
12 May 09
There are a lot of ignorant people in the world (with big mouths) - I prefer to just ignore them. I remember once going to dinner with my MIL (who was quite a large woman at the time) - and while we were sitting waiting for our food to come, an obese woman walked into the restaurant. My MIL said, 'Look at her - you could scoop her out and use her for a dog kennel!' Her voice was loud enough for the poor woman to hear, and I was SO embarrassed and upset for the other lady. These days, I don't give rude people the satisfaction of answering them back - I just ignore them and let them get on with it. I'm not a particularly aggressive or confrontational person anyway, and I'd rather not raise my own blood pressure by getting upset about things.
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
12 May 09
Yeah, I used to be that way too, non-confrontational, and it got to a point that I had my first massive panic attack in high school because of it.
NOT good. But now, I realize that it happened because I was keeping everything bottled up, and my emotions didn't know what to do, and which way to go, so it turned around onto me, and made me go a little crazy.
SO, it's better to get things out I say, or even just write them down, or venting if you will, on here, somewheres else, in a journal, ANYTHING to get your thoughts straightened out.
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
13 Dec 09
Candymarie...me, too. When I was 13, I was put in the phsych ward for a 2 wk evaluation because I SNAPPED! They said I had a nervous breakdown. They counselled me and explained that I hold too much inside and it is eating me up. So, I have learned to EXPRESS MYSELF now. And I often do it LOUDLY, too. But, the stress of holding things in doesn't eat me up any more. Gotta get it out somehow. Here, my journal, talking to someone, etc. YEP. 
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
I hear you, sometimes what I find worse, is when you DO talk about an issue/problem, and it just doesn't help, and you're still upset about it.
I hate the fact that talking doesn't ALWAYS help.
But I'm glad to hear that you've learned to cope, and don't hold it back anymore!
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
@BishounenNerd (373)
• United States
12 May 09
There was this one time where I accidentally thought my father was trying to get something for free, and they had to check him out at the Menards. So, we get out into the parking lot, and he's telling me to shut up, and saying "You're better off just not talking." and mean crap like that. So, then we meet up with my mother and he's being all nice to her, and I'm literally screaming at him "WHY CAN'T YOU BE NICE TO ME LIKE THAT!!!!?". He told me to shut up and get back in the car or something, but it made me so mad, I literally ran at him and punched him in the face! Just the way he was treating me that day made me lose it.
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
Ooooooh! Nothings worse then someone getting more riled up after you give them a "look".
Well sorry to hear that, I also had issues with my father when I was younger, and I had an instance like that, but nothing violent from myself or my father.
We're finally able to talk properly without arguing and can say I love you and such, now that I'm older and more understanding.
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
12 May 09
WHAT? Oh good lord! Were you a teen? Or did this happen recently? And what was his response to that?
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@BishounenNerd (373)
• United States
12 May 09
It happened pretty recently. Things haven't been going so well for me lately, so I haven't generally been in a good mood. I guess I kinda blame my father for it... It's kinda complicated. Anyway, I didn't actually punch him in the face, he did push me back, and we kinda got into a fight. Someone threatened to call the cops on us, so we stopped. But we got him, and I was pissed off, and he said something to me, and I gave him a look he didn't like and he said, "YOU WANNA FINISH THIS! I'LL TAKE YOU DOWN!" But this time I acted civilly and said I didn't want to fight. Things have sort of calmed down since then, but I'm still angry at him in the back of my mind.
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
12 May 09
I think it was very risky of you…I know I sound like a complete coward but believe me, taking on bullies is fraught with risks which every girl might want to avoid. Next time, pls be careful and report these boys or guys or just ignore them. Bullies are as it is insecure inside and how they view women is best left to them…guys like these, passing lewd comments, are not exactly normal according to me and they need tough hands to deal with them…the baton on their butt is usually the best…I distinctly remember the case of a young nurse who was very upright and courageous and she had ticked off a lazy sweeper for negligence of duty and this mean creature had plotted to get back at her the only way men like him know how to…he accosted her at the lonely parking base of the hospital and raped her…maiming her for life.
@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
12 May 09
Oh my goodness!
Well, for one, I took a self defense class, 2, I have bulky muscles, due to being in shipping and receiving, so I be strong, 3 the security office was in the same hall way, 4 when I leave work, its to go to the bus, in broad daylight, never night shift, because my job is only "active" during the day for couriers, 5, they weren't bullies, they were kids, 6, bullies tend to stop when you confront them, and 7, if they really want to resort to violence, over something I embarrassed him for, which was REALLY nothing, then they REALLY need to get a life and move on, and GROW up.
Also, I will NOT live in fear of possibly being raped, due to what I say, THAT'S moronic, plus they should have something to fear from me, because I WILL kick their behind, and if not me, then I have a FEMALE roommate that one, took boxing, and 2, have been in rifle contests, and is also strong like me.
If we're supposedly equal, then why the hell should I be scared of him? That's why I have nails, a set of lungs and the power to make a noise. I also have strong arms, know where to punch, jab, left hook if need be, and I also have a set of legs, which I WILL use to knee them in the groin, in the spinal cord area, as well as a head to butt his head with. I don't go down without a fight, and if it DOES stupidly come to that he will try to rape me, WHICH I HIGHLY DOUBT, he will regret it, and see all females in a new light once he realizes that we fight back.
Thanks for the concern, but it is not needed.
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
@visitorinvasion (7709)
• United States
12 May 09
*Applause!*
That was friggin' GREAT! Thank you for sharing.
Yes, I've snapped more than my fair share, but at this early hour, I can't think of anything recent or profound. If I think of one later, I'll pop in from work and tell the story.
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@candymarie (1368)
• Canada
12 May 09
Great! I hope to hear about it!
Thanks for responding and happy myLotting!
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