Leaving all behind....

Set some definite simple goals of things you shall do. plan them and make arrangements exactly when you shall do them.

Keep active as much as possible therefore not allowing yourself to think too much about difficult situations.

Find something you LIKE doing and incorporate it into each day.

go to bed and get up at reasonable and regular times.

Be good to yourself by eating well and keeping clean and well dressed.

Try not to dwell on sadness, but instead, recognize that you are sad and perhaps depressed and read a very good book from the library on the steps you can take to help yourself.

Because you CAN!! better than you know.. be your best friend and help yourself.
You have to love yourself enough to start fresh and to trust yourself that you have it in you.

We all need time away sometimes to put our lives into perspective and then to set new goals and move forward. It is hard, especially if a heart has been broken, for example... very hard.. but we do it because we must.

Treat yourself now as you would your best friend. Aren't you worth it??

Of course!!

To leave everything behind is something indeed very difficult and I pray to God that you people don't come across, it is apinful and something to leave something good behind is worst than painful still I have done it and today though I have much better I still remember everything clearly.

it's funny but someone i knew had said almost the same thing for me, try to "MOVE ON". but the question is how?
first is, how on Earth could i possibly accept a fact like that? how could i be able to live a good life knowing that the person i cared and loved the most is gone?
if only crying can do something else to ease all the grief i am having right now, i wouldn't mind crying all my life.
moving on seems to be easy but its not, as what i had experience, i think that it takes a lot of determination so that one day i can finally say that i am alright and i can live my life again.
she also said that "TIME WILL TELL"..."LIFE GOES ON"...

but one thing i am certain about, things will never be the same.

With simple events we can often just move on with life and leave them behind us. With trauma and emotional situations however, we will need to resolve these before we can move on. We need to be complete and finish with them. As a therapist, this is what most of my work involves. People come to me quite often because they can't let go of something that has upset them or traumatised them. The only way to let it go is to keep working it out in the conscious mind, until there are no more feelings attached to it. This is often referred to as desensitization - where the client is de-sensitized meaning that he/she is no longer sensitive to the situation. It can get a bit more complicated that what it sounds like here though as many other factors can come into play. - Derek

it takes alot of doing & if something is close to your heart it's even harder. u do have to motivate yourself. the sad part it all up to u. none can do it for u. if there was an eaasy button for that i bet everyone would have one.

I don't know if I was lucky when I got rejected by a girl. That time I was not on mylot, otherwise you would have known that well in adavance.

I got rejected by a girl, whom I loved very much. She was the girl, I could do anything for whom but she left me and left me with tears. I was in tears for next 7-8 days!

But you don't have to do anything but make sure that you remain busy with your life. The more busy you will be, the easier it will be for you to move on!

At this point of time am going through the same phase and i know how difficult it is to get through but feel the best SOLUTION for it is to leave it upto TIME. Its not worth bothering about your problems coz it will only lead you to bad health and burdern you more.
Problems are a part of life without which our life is meaningless. The only way to get through this phase is to be positive at every step and never let your problem rule your mind coz it only takes your peace of mind away.

I start with not hating people. The worst thing that I can do that wouldn't allow me to move forward would be to feel hate. I may angry one moment but I let it go because that is what makes people miserable and hateful towards others. It's a big issue and recognizing when something sets you back will help us move forward.

Many are impatient with this and try to leave before all the lessons are learned. It often takes many years. The main thing is to continue with your life and not give a lot of attention to the past. You only have so much time and energy so apply this to the present and let the past take care of it's self. Blessings

When I am trying to get beyond a troubling behavior, I have to make up my mind that tomorrow is a new day. I also have to change just one thing at time. I cannot be perfect tomorrow, but I can be better, and I can do better.