Am I A bad daughter?

I don't think you're being a bad daughter. You just care for your mom that is why you're doing some precautionary measures. I see where you're mom is coming from. A lot of us know how addicting the Internet can be, what more chatting. I suggest that you try to sit down with your mom and nicely explain to her your side and your feelings. As you tell her these, in a very gentle and objective manner, talk to her about the disadvantages, the threats, and possible dangers that may happen. Goodluck.

Cindy~

I understand you care very much about your mother, and I do not think you are a bad daughter. You should explain to your mother why you are concerned, because you have a legitimate argument.

However, if your mother is lonely, taking her only social outlet is not your decision. She obviously needs or wants someone to talk to, someone that will be her lover and friend, or maybe just a good friend. Sometimes, the internet is the only place for people to open up and meet others.

Help her be safe, but do not stigmatize what she is doing. Obviously she is looking for a friend. Don't make her feel bad, if what she's trying to do is end the bad that she feels.

Maybe she has something to offer someone, and feels she is ready to do it. I understand not trusting strangers, but if they are just talking online, she is your mother...and I'm sure she'll be okay. A chat room is just a place to talk.


Good luck, help your mom be happy. Just because she is your mother, doesn't mean that she has everything she needs...

The first thing I will say is you are not a bad daughter. It's only natural to be concerned about the well being and safety of those you love. The second, your mother is an adult. Unless she has some mental impairment, defect, or disease it is not your place to make decisions for her. If you are really concerned about this new habit, talk to her. Tell her why it bothers you. I find a good way to deal with parents is to reverse the situation. How would she feel if it were you chatting and potentially meeting strange men on internet websites? Thirdly, we live in technologically dependent society. Even though it's scary to think of all that could go wrong, we have to understand that times have changed. The way people interact and meet is not what it used to be. We all have, what I like to call a "digital life" as well as our everyday reality. Its only natural that the two will begin to merge and overlap as time progresses. There are "bad people" online, but there also people just like your mother. People who are using technology simply for the sake its conveniences, and not because they are seeking to hurt or harm others. I see nothing wrong with chatting and possibly even meeting people offline as long as you are aware, cautious, and not mistaking the comfortability you feel online with a person as an indicator that they have your best interest at heart.~Iedyn

Hi, Cindy
sorry for all the thing happened to you, but I dont think you are a bad daughter at all. Your mom has a lot of pressure and she needs someone to talk to and if you should be involve more with her then it would be a lot better. the more you close to her the more she opens for you. By the way, how old r u? you must be over 18 right? that's why you know what is wrong and what is right really clearly... I really happy when I see a young kid know what they are doing.
you need to talk to her about how you feel and how it effects you as a daughter. tell her about like or not like being ignore. Good luck

I agree with the last poster. Now if the laptop is your property then thats a little different and your mother should respect your property and the fact that using your property in such a way makes you uncomfortable. I agree also with the other poster that things are different now to the point that entire conversations can be conducted just by texting another cell phone (that would be me, hehe). I think you should respect your mother as a responsible adult and give her the benefit of the doubt that she knows how to take care of herself and chat with other people online in a safe way. Now if it came to the point where your mother wanted to MEET someone online, in person, then you can her need to have a discussion before it comes to this point. You could agree to keep your phone on in case she needed to call you, tell you what area she will be in and make sure she tells you WHEN she will be leaving. I think thats all that you can ask of her because she is an adult. You say that your mother never chatted on the computer before seperating from your dad, could it be that your father did not allow it? I agree many people jump into relationships on the rebound before clearing their minds from previous relationships and thats why its important to discuss this with your mother now.

Cindy, you are NOT a bad daughter. You are just too concerned about your mom and has reacted in a not so appropriate way like putting away the laptop from your mom just to stop her from addicted to internet chatting. You mom separated with your father and think she still in the course of adapting herself living without your father. She needs friends or someone to talk to and as a mother, she might think she cant talk to you with everything. So,she opt to talk to someone else through the net. Do talk to your moms nicely of your concern and worries seeing her so hooked to internet chatting. I believe your mom will understand why you disagree with her to get herself so into internet chatting until you have to get the laptop away from her.

well u are a good mom. This is generally what I say to parents, but nevertheless. Yo need to realize your mom is a grown up and would like to make her own decisons. As much as you care for her, rocinganything on her won't help. You need to tell her why it is unsafe and tell her how to tak eprecautions while chatting. Never give out name and address. If she must and absolutely must date, ask her to take you along while going

No you are not a bad daughter. You sound like a sweet, sensitive and protective daughter to me. I hope she will talk to you about precautions she takes to keep herself safe, because after all, she has responsibilities as your mother as well.

I would try to just talk to her about it openly, not to accuse her or be angry, but keep the lines of communication open. People can make very nice genuine friends on the internet, but I know you are concerned about the possibility she might be careless. I hope the two of you will be able to talk about this.

Good luck. You sound like a nice concerned girl. Your mom's lucky.

i don't think that you are a bad daughter... you just want to protect your mum and do what you have to do to protect her... i suggest you sit down with your mum and try to explain to her slowly the reason why you are doing all that stuffs... hopefully she will understand and stop what she is doing... i think the reason she does it is because she is lonely... so if you can spend more time accompanying her, may be she won't do the chatting anymore... good luck... take care and have a nice day...

You are absolutely not a bad daughter! You are just concerned about your mom and of course you don't want her to get into any kind of trouble. Your mom is probably feeling very lonely and because our technology is so advanced, it's easy to get in touch with people. You have a right to be worried about your mom. She is the only mom you have and will ever have and of course you don't want anything to happen to her. My best advice is to talk to her about your feelings and tell her that you are concerned about her chatting too much. There are many other things she can do to keep her busy. She can join a gym, go to dinner with friends, set up movie nights once a wk with friends or both of you can do it together. She can also look for a part-time job. There are many things to keep us busy, we just need to decide what we want to do.